People Preferences

[Lips_Pearls]

We all have our own specific preferences on what we seek, what we enjoy and maybe what we like in other people.

So with that, do you generally stick to them?
Do you sometimes bend them slightly?

What about other people, do they try to gently persuade you to bend them?
It could be you’re looking only for a gentleman yet couples push.
Maybe you’re a lady not looking to seek a gent but many push and try to convince you otherwise.
Or perhaps a couple and only seeking another couple..

As ever - all yours x

 

[Deleted member 11094]

I have a preference on what I want, what I'm looking for and what I'm comfortable with. And to be honest, majority of people are respectful of this, especially on here.

This being said, certain things can bend these preferences/ideas, and that's okay. Especially if it is a connection with people/someone that's worth building upon.

Xx

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I have a preference on what I want, what I'm looking for and what I'm comfortable with. And to be honest, majority of people are respectful of this, especially on here.

This being said, certain things can bend these preferences/ideas, and that's okay. Especially if it is a connection with people/someone that's worth building upon.

Xx

That’s great to hear!
Agreed that sometimes it’s worth building upon and then perhaps branching out slightly here and there to just explore not only other things and other people, but yourself/ourselves too. Xx

 

[fincon]

We all have our own specific preferences on what we seek, what we enjoy and maybe what we like in other people.

So with that, do you generally stick to them?
Do you sometimes bend them slightly?

What about other people, do they try to gently persuade you to bend them?
It could be you’re looking only for a gentleman yet couples push.
Maybe you’re a lady not looking to seek a gent but many push and try to convince you otherwise.
Or perhaps a couple and only seeking another couple..

As ever - all yours x

In that specific element of preferences, then yes…

I prefer (maybe I should say preferred) single F. But have been known to be persuadable to MF, depending on the circumstances, and the couple.

Never been involved in a FF, but genuinely unsure whether that’s as much never having had any offers as much as whether any of us would, y’know, enjoy it.

 

[MP386]

For me I have always been open to meeting couple`s ,which I have and maybe will be asked again
I prefer couples to ask me to join them that way I feel right or wrong they both want me there ..
I also meet single ladies when the opportunity arises ,we all know the single female is most sort after in the swinging world but I have been fortunate to meet some hopefully that will happen again ...

 

[Brumcouple2013]

We started out with an idea of what we preferred in both s meet and those who we meet. We have over the years brushed many of those preferences under the carpet.
We still have bounderies on what we will and will not do. But even they have been relaxed to a point and continue to discuss new things.
But for us it’s important everyone has an enjoyable evening.

 

[Againstthegrain]

As a couple we've found it really hard to make the initial leap into the scene. Early experiences in clubs haven't been that great and we've only really spoken about boundaries in very general terms. Is this something that other couples determine at length before they begin?

 

[Brumcouple2013]

As a couple we've found it really hard to make the initial leap into the scene. Early experiences in clubs haven't been that great and we've only really spoken about boundaries in very general terms. Is this something that other couples determine at length before they begin?

Bounderies are important. We spoke about bounderies in great detail before we ventured into the scene. You both need to know what each of you are comfortable with. Communicate before and after a meet is also important. Tell each other what you enjoyed and didn’t enjoy.

 

[Againstthegrain]

Bounderies are important. We spoke about bounderies in great detail before we ventured into the scene. You both need to know what each of you are comfortable with. Communicate before and after a meet is also important. Tell each other what you enjoyed and didn’t enjoy.

At the moment my partner is very much of a mindset of jumping in and seeing what happens. My thoughts are that a couple need to work out exactly what theyre wanting and willing to explore beforehand. Any suggestions as to what sort of things need to be decided? As a couple of newbies I'm mindful of not knowing how deep the waters run...

 

[Lips_Pearls]

It ultimately depends on what you've already discussed and imagined from within your own selves.
Is it a gentleman you seek, a lady, or another couple? What are you looking for? Full swap, soft swap, same room fun, different room?
Mr/Mrs (delete as applicable) watching and only getting involved at a certain level?
Until you know what it is you're trying to find, you won't know what to discuss.

At first no, there is no in-depth discussion.. but that will come and will develop. Whatever happens, be as open and honest as you can be. x

 

[Againstthegrain]

In a single message you've given us lots of details that we hadn't even considered. Soft swap meaning.....?

 

[Lips_Pearls]

In a single message you've given us lots of details that we hadn't even considered. Soft swap meaning.....?

Okay so soft swap is sharing partners, but without actual physical sexual penetration. (sorry to be as basic as that.. but that's what it is)
Full swap is where all parties involved; be it a couple or single gent/single female + couple, have full penetrative sex.
Some prefer soft, then full sex with their partner either alone or with their friend(s) or full swap and then have sex / make love afterwards.
Hope this helps.

 

[Againstthegrain]

Thank you, yes it does. Again something we hadn't really thought about as an option. I'm trying to be tactful in the language I'm using on my first day in here as I'm still not sure how explicit youre allowed to be, so feel free to pull me up. I'm happy to engage in full blown sexual activity. We're both assuming we'd be fucking other people. I assumed we'd all be in the same room, but again that's clearly something that different people might have different feelings about.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

so feel free to pull me up.

Will never happen, as long as it's legal and not crossing serious boundaries (I mean really serious) - then all is good in the world.
Are you using a Samsung device by chance?

I'm happy to engage in full blown sexual activity.

And Mrs is the same?

We're both assuming we'd be fucking other people. I assumed we'd all be in the same room, but again that's clearly something that different people might have different feelings about.

You can be, it's your choice the the couple/swingle you are with. This is what you define and choose to do.
You can add so in your information, but that's not important as of now. What is, is finding the balance.
So have you both spoken about what it is you seek, and what would be an amazing experience for you both?
Going by the above, I am going to assume a couple couple scenario which is full swap, is that right?

 

[Againstthegrain]

Yes, she's of the same mindset. We've been thinking about this for at least a couple of years before finally making the decision to take action.

I'm using an android tablet actually, why do you ask? Lol

 

[Againstthegrain]

We dipped our toes in the water on a holiday to Grab Canaria last year in the Maspalomas same dunes, but that wasn't that great. She has a particular type of figure and we just ended up getting overwhelmed each day. The way we've talked about things we'd be happy to engage with other couples, females or men, though I'm wary of getting swamped by single men so want to tread carefully.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Yes, she's of the same mindset. We've been thinking about this for at least a couple of years before finally making the decision to take action.

Okay and that's good... It's good you're of the same mindset and able to discuss.
So what would you both like to gain & achieve from this, when YOU know the answers, if you already don't, then you can start the serious discussions.
I'll give an example; kissing. You may feel that kissing is too close for you as a couple. So you ask; "Mrs AGTG what would you feel if I kissed another woman.. ? What would you feel if you kissed another man?" Are you able to kiss during the moment.
Some can, some can't.. We couldn't, but we found a way where we could. And it works. We enjoy kissing, which really is, an intimate thing between two people. But it can be intimate between three too (for us).
So it depends about the dynamics and your own - admittedly right now, selfishly needs. Which is normal! From here, you can discuss desires, intrigues. Interest.
What interest Mrs? What interests you?
Have you both told each other what you're interested in?

I'm using an android tablet actually, why do you ask? Lol

Thought so!
It's an admittedly shameful thing of mine.. You're trying so hard to be grammatically correct but your device is not playing ball. True? (sorry... really am..)

 

[Againstthegrain]

Lol absolutely right! I'm having problems getting it to recognise apostrophe for certain contractions, but not others. Fuck knows why!

My lady is bi curious, I'm completely hetrosexual. She gets turned on by thoughts of being watched. She also finds the idea of being penetrated by multiple cocks a turn on. I've got no problem with this but I'm also concerned at the potential for things to get out of hand.

I'm happy to see her getting fucked by other men but I want to be there. Again more to do with making sure she's fine than anything else.

My expectation is that I'd fuck other women. She's not sure that she wants to see that, though she's happy for it to take place. Says she doesn't know how she would react to the reality of seeing it. I get that.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

We dipped our toes in the water on a holiday to Grab Canaria last year in the Maspalomas same dunes, but that wasn't that great. She has a particular type of figure and we just ended up getting overwhelmed each day. The way we've talked about things we'd be happy to engage with other couples, females or men, though I'm wary of getting swamped by single men so want to tread carefully.

Won't happen here I promise you. If it did, all you need to do is say so and you'd be advised in how to manage it. But it won't happen because all the gents here are respectful and polite. Anyone who isn't , are either removed or asked (told by Sexy Boss Lady ) to behave.

 

[Againstthegrain]

I'm picking up that already from skim reading various posts in here. Reassuring to know. She's very boobs and bottom. Hourglass figure but huge breasts. The naturist resort at Maspalomas was a minefield. You live and learn.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Lol absolutely right! I'm having problems getting it to recognise apostrophe for certain contractions, but not others. Fuck knows why!

American English my friend. They don't know how to write proper, like we do.

My lady is bi curious, I'm completely hetrosexual. She gets turned on by thoughts of being watched. She also finds the idea of being penetrated by multiple cocks a turn on. I've got no problem with this but I'm also concerned at the potential for things to get out of hand.

I'm happy to see her getting fucked by other men but I want to be there. Again more to do with making sure she's fine than anything else.

My expectation is that I'd fuck other women. She's not sure that she wants to see that, though she's happy for it to take place. Says she doesn't know how she would react to the reality of seeing it. I get that.

Yes which is the protective side of you, which she understands and accepts. You may think she is not happy, but she will be, as long as you're there to make sure all is good.
This is it, for Mrs AGTG the fantasy is enough. Sometimes that is all it takes.
But, Mrs idea of you having sex with someone else, turns her on but she doesn't want to see it. I get that, we both do.
This is where you discuss what works and what doesn't.

And here is where your discussions have to take place. Whether over a glass of wine, G&T etc or over tea/coffee. You have to be honest with oneanother.
Whether you like it or not, whether she likes it or not; allow each other to be each other. When you do that, a million doors will open in front of you.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I'm picking up that already from skim reading various posts in here. Reassuring to know. She's very boobs and bottom. Hourglass figure but huge breasts. The naturist resort at Maspalomas was a minefield. You live and learn.

You do and big boobs, bum, hips and curvy is well & truly admired - from everyone. It's not about what, it's about who.

 

[Againstthegrain]

So how do things usually work from this point on in here? My preference would be to slowly read what people are putting on posts, decide whether or not they're like minded to us, exchange photos, talk on the phone then set how things go from there?

 

[Deleted member 11852]

As a couple we've found it really hard to make the initial leap into the scene. Early experiences in clubs haven't been that great and we've only really spoken about boundaries in very general terms. Is this something that other couples determine at length before they begin?

We talked a lot before we joined the site. We talked about boundaries and everything we would or wouldn’t do. There’s nothing to say those boundaries won’t change but talking about it with each other is good. M xx

 

[Deleted member 3175]

Our advice is just talk about it, what you both want. We spent many evenings fantasising about sharing with others, what we would do, what we want, all sorts, yes’s no’s boundaries. The best piece of advice someone gave us is message people you like the sound/look/profile of and take it from there.

We’re still relatively newbies at this, but we find speaking to people and meeting for a drink/food and chat helps. You can get their perspective on what they like and how they feel. Sometimes what works for one doesn’t for another.
It’s a journey that’s bloody fantastic and everyone’s here to help so any questions fire away.
S xxxxx