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[BadChilli]

Hey everyone,

My husband and I are new to this.
Looking for some advice please?

I have this fetish that I would like to see and watch my husband with another women, and join in if I want to. I find it a massive turn on. ( I always thought there was something wrong with me ??) We have never done this before but want to try and explore my fetish. I’m just a bit nervous that it will be different from the fantasy. We have talked thoroughly about this, all the insecurities and problems that could arise etc
Does anyone have any experience with this fetish please? Xxxxx Chilli xxx

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Hey everyone,

My husband and I are new to this.
Looking for some advice please?

I have this fetish that I would like to see and watch my husband with another women, and join in if I want to. I find it a massive turn on. ( I always thought there was something wrong with me ??) We have never done this before but want to try and explore my fetish. I’m just a bit nervous that it will be different from the fantasy. We have talked thoroughly about this, all the insecurities and problems that could arise etc
Does anyone have any experience with this fetish please? Xxxxx Chilli xxx

Good thread and question. It’s almost always Mr here posting, but we read and post everything together.
We as a general rule of thumb, only usually meet ladies. (We have been involved with couples too though just to clear that up)
As such, Mrs or HRH prefers to watch and get her kicks from viewing what’s in front of her and then joining in.
One of her particular kinks is enjoying me receiving oral. We always take care and spoil whoever is with us, so it’s fully reciprocated- but she loves to watch.
She’s really a fan of sitting back and watching until she chooses otherwise.

As an idea, here’s some GIFs we share when we chat between each other or a friend etc. ?



Not for everyone but works for her.
As far as reality over fantasy is concerned, as we always say - fantasy is enough for us because we can have the most electric times between us just by using the right words and imagination. If we stopped tomorrow, the fantasy will always keep us heated.
That said, when experimenting you will come across things you may not be prepared to experience or may find it’s more exciting than what you may be have imagining.
It’s all good and naughty, clean fun. Xx ?

 

[BadChilli]

Good thread and question. It’s almost always Mr here posting, but we read and post everything together.
We as a general rule of thumb, only usually meet ladies. (We have been involved with couples too though just to clear that up)
As such, Mrs or HRH prefers to watch and get her kicks from viewing what’s in front of her and then joining in.
One of her particular kinks is enjoying me receiving oral. We always take care and spoil whoever is with us, so it’s fully reciprocated- but she loves to watch.
She’s really a fan of sitting back and watching until she chooses otherwise.

As an idea, here’s some GIFs we share when we chat between each other or a friend etc. ?

View attachment 68205 View attachment 68206

Not for everyone but works for her.
As far as reality over fantasy is concerned, as we always say - fantasy is enough for us because we can have the most electric times between us just by using the right words and imagination. If we stopped tomorrow, the fantasy will always keep us heated.
That said, when experimenting you will come across things you may not be prepared to experience or may find it’s more exciting than what you may be have imagining.
It’s all good and naughty, clean fun. Xx ?

T

Good thread and question. It’s almost always Mr here posting, but we read and post everything together.
We as a general rule of thumb, only usually meet ladies. (We have been involved with couples too though just to clear that up)
As such, Mrs or HRH prefers to watch and get her kicks from viewing what’s in front of her and then joining in.
One of her particular kinks is enjoying me receiving oral. We always take care and spoil whoever is with us, so it’s fully reciprocated- but she loves to watch.
She’s really a fan of sitting back and watching until she chooses otherwise.

As an idea, here’s some GIFs we share when we chat between each other or a friend etc. ?

View attachment 68205 View attachment 68206

Not for everyone but works for her.
As far as reality over fantasy is concerned, as we always say - fantasy is enough for us because we can have the most electric times between us just by using the right words and imagination. If we stopped tomorrow, the fantasy will always keep us heated.
That said, when experimenting you will come across things you may not be prepared to experience or may find it’s more exciting than what you may be have imagining.
It’s all good and naughty, clean fun. Xx ?

Thank you so much for your response and advice. Its really good to know I’m not the only one that gets turned by this haha!! xx Chilli xx

 

[Lips_Pearls]

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Thank you so much for your response and advice. Its really good to know I’m not the only one that gets turned by this haha!! xx Chilli xx

My pleasure. There’s no doubt more who enjoy this too, but they may well be shy about posting it... that said, not many are shy here ? x

 

[BadChilli]

My pleasure. There’s no doubt more who enjoy this too, but they may well be shy about posting it... that said, not many are shy here ? x

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[Deleted member 3411]

Well as newbies let me assure you of one thing. Whatever YOU want if fine. In my years as a single and now with L I've know all sorts. Men where he want to watch her be pleasured but have no contact themselves, women who want the same. Guys who want to watch her blow job lots of guys.. but that's all. L is keen next time we play to see me have full sex with another lady. The wishes are many.
Here's a question for you to answer to each other though. What will you, and won't you do? Settle that with each other and stick to that. Deciding as things happen is hard, best lay down your own rules from the start.

 

[BadChilli]

Well as newbies let me assure you of one thing. Whatever YOU want if fine. In my years as a single and now with L I've know all sorts. Men where he want to watch her be pleasured but have no contact themselves, women who want the same. Guys who want to watch her blow job lots of guys.. but that's all. L is keen next time we play to see me have full sex with another lady. The wishes are many.
Here's a question for you to answer to each other though. What will you, and won't you do? Settle that with each other and stick to that. Deciding as things happen is hard, best lay down your own rules from the start.

Thank you so much for your advice. We have done lots of honest, open talking together and are working hard on our boundaries.
We both worry what impact having an experience like this will have on us as a couple. I think its natural to have concerns yet at the same time if feels exciting to explore more of our desires.
I know we could happily never take it any further than fantasy and still live a perfect life together. However, lots of people seem to enjoy opening up and enriching their relationships by doing so.
We are soaking up all the info we can and learning from others how they go about this safely and respectfully.
Bads.

 

[SteveandDebs]

We both worry what impact having an experience like this will have on us as a couple.

One thing that Debs and I are very, very good at is not brooding about any mistakes we make. We can try things and if they don't work for us just put them down to experience. I think this is quite important

 

[Deleted member 11852]

I can honestly Say everything we have experienced since being in this lifestyle has been great fun..our marriage was really strong to begin with but this have definitely made us stronger together..we never go into any meets with expectations..we’re not glamour models or the most experienced swingers on here..we’re just a normal couple who enjoy extra naughty fun..we embrace every new experience and just enjoy it..I have often enjoyed watching mrs h receiving pleasure and she has with me but the majority of the time we like to enjoy each new experience together..W..

 

[Pearls]

Good thread and question. It’s almost always Mr here posting, but we read and post everything together.
We as a general rule of thumb, only usually meet ladies. (We have been involved with couples too though just to clear that up)
As such, Mrs or HRH prefers to watch and get her kicks from viewing what’s in front of her and then joining in.
One of her particular kinks is enjoying me receiving oral. We always take care and spoil whoever is with us, so it’s fully reciprocated- but she loves to watch.
She’s really a fan of sitting back and watching until she chooses otherwise.

As an idea, here’s some GIFs we share when we chat between each other or a friend etc. ?

View attachment 68205 View attachment 68206

Not for everyone but works for her.
As far as reality over fantasy is concerned, as we always say - fantasy is enough for us because we can have the most electric times between us just by using the right words and imagination. If we stopped tomorrow, the fantasy will always keep us heated.
That said, when experimenting you will come across things you may not be prepared to experience or may find it’s more exciting than what you may be have imagining.
It’s all good and naughty, clean fun. Xx ?

Oi. You saying I’m lazy

 

[Pearls]

Hey everyone,

My husband and I are new to this.
Looking for some advice please?

I have this fetish that I would like to see and watch my husband with another women, and join in if I want to. I find it a massive turn on. ( I always thought there was something wrong with me ??) We have never done this before but want to try and explore my fetish. I’m just a bit nervous that it will be different from the fantasy. We have talked thoroughly about this, all the insecurities and problems that could arise etc
Does anyone have any experience with this fetish please? Xxxxx Chilli xxx

Fantasy verses reality is a good question. Some fantasies can be disappointing in reality but you learn from them, I personally have and evolved from them by simply talking and moving on which then makes the next experience a better one ?

 

[Custard66]

My pleasure. There’s no doubt more who enjoy this too, but they may well be shy about posting it... that said, not many are shy here ? x

I shy lol

 

[BadChilli]

Thanks so much for your replies ?
Another question haha!
With your boundaries, have these ever been crossed? And how did it make you feel? Was it something you could easily talk about and move on?
Also do you lot have a lot of boundaries? Are having too many just going to get broken in the heat of the moment?
Xx Chilli xx

 

[Deleted member 8095]

Thanks so much for your replies ?
Another question haha!
With your boundaries, have these ever been crossed? And how did it make you feel? Was it something you could easily talk about and move on?
Also do you lot have a lot of boundaries? Are having too many just going to get broken in the heat of the moment?
Xx Chilli xx

Some boundaries for us were hard and immovable but others were more like flexible guidelines and these moved quite a way, some for the better others not so much but as with everything else, talking things over and chalking it up to experience is advisable both for the good and the bad. It's an evolving living journey that your now on and it can and most likely will change as time and experience takes over. (P)

 

[BadChilli]

Some boundaries for us were hard and immovable but others were more like flexible guidelines and these moved quite a way, some for the better others not so much but as with everything else, talking things over and chalking it up to experience is advisable both for the good and the bad. It's an evolving living journey that your now on and it can and most likely will change as time and experience takes over. (P)

? Communication is key
So with your hard and immovable boundaries, have these changed over time?

 

[Deleted member 8095]

Erm I'd say slightly yes, when we first started out we placed our boundaries where they needed to be at that time, but as with everything in life they have evolved. This is an organic journey that cannot be forced or rushed, time and consideration must be taken, for example I always insisted on playing together in the same room but we have discovered that in the right environment we enjoy separate room fun and then we get to replay the events afterwards and keep the buzz going for ages!!

 

[BadChilli]

Erm I'd say slightly yes, when we first started out we placed our boundaries where they needed to be at that time, but as with everything in life they have evolved. This is an organic journey that cannot be forced or rushed, time and consideration must be taken, for example I always insisted on playing together in the same room but we have discovered that in the right environment we enjoy separate room fun and then we get to replay the events afterwards and keep the buzz going for ages!!

Yes I agree this is something that can’t be rushed. We have discussed boundaries thoroughly and am sure that over time they will change. We already get the buzz from the fantasy ? and we haven’t even made it a reality yet ?
Xx Chilli xx

 

[Deleted member 8095]

Yes I agree this is something that can’t be rushed. We have discussed boundaries thoroughly and am sure that over time they will change. We already get the buzz from the fantasy ? and we haven’t even made it a reality yet ?
Xx Chilli xx

Wait until you do (if you do) make it a reality, the buzz and excitement will last ages?

 

[BadChilli]

Wait until you do (if you do) make it a reality, the buzz and excitement will last ages?

Erm I'd say slightly yes, when we first started out we placed our boundaries where they needed to be at that time, but as with everything in life they have evolved. This is an organic journey that cannot be forced or rushed, time and consideration must be taken, for example I always insisted on playing together in the same room but we have discovered that in the right environment we enjoy separate room fun and then we get to replay the events afterwards and keep the buzz going for ages!!

Yes I agree this is something that can’t be rushed. We have discussed boundaries thoroughly and am sure that over time they will change. We already get the buzz from the fantasy ? And we haven’t even made it a reality yet ?

Wait until you do (if you do) make it a reality, the buzz and excitement will last ages?

We get so excited thinking of it! Its a massive turn on ? and I think that is what also scares me ?

 

[Deleted member 8095]

Yes I agree this is something that can’t be rushed. We have discussed boundaries thoroughly and am sure that over time they will change. We already get the buzz from the fantasy ? And we haven’t even made it a reality yet ?

We get so excited thinking of it! Its a massive turn on ? and I think that is what also scares me ?

The fear for us at least was and still is (with new friends) a part of the whole experience & tbh one that I wouldn't change, for me it adds a buzz of excitement and anticipation, keeping those nerve endings firing !! (P)

 

[BadChilli]

The fear for us at least was and still is (with new friends) a part of the whole experience & tbh one that I wouldn't change, for me it adds a buzz of excitement and anticipation, keeping those nerve endings firing !! (P)

That is actually a great way to look at it! Embrace the fear! ?
Xx Chilli xx

 

[Deleted member 8095]

That is actually a great way to look at it! Embrace the fear! ?
Xx Chilli xx

That's it, the nerves are no different to the rest of the event prep, try to look at the experience as a whole, that way you'll be absolutely buzzing by the time the door closes and the lights dim ready for the naughtiness to begin?

 

[BadChilli]

That's it, the nerves are no different to the rest of the event prep, try to look at the experience as a whole, that way you'll be absolutely buzzing by the time the door closes and the lights dim ready for the naughtiness to begin?

?? xx Chilli xx

 

[Deleted member 3411]

Sadly just as with anything in life bad experiences can happen, but like many above have said cast them off and move ahead. If I have a bad experience I have a few really great ones I recall to lift my spirits back to where they belong. L has had a few bad ones too, but again things of the good n hot ones more.

 

[SteveandDebs]

The thing with boundaries is to split them into hard and soft limits. We would say that soft limits can be gently pushed but hard limits need renegotiation. Renegotiation when you are away from a swinging environment is best.