To Much or to Little?

[Tiger]

You’ve taken the plunge & joined a swinging site, so what happens now?

If you’re a couple, do you hang back & see what’s available and if you’re single, do you do the same? or do you throw caution to the wind and message everyone with a pulse!

What is to much or to little?
For what is essentially a sex site!

Let me know your thoughts.

Tiger xx

 

[CocoDD]

Since joining I’ve received a lot of messages, some good and some not so good. I would say it’s all down to how you speak in general. Being single I would message if a profile caught my eye or maybe grab attention in forums perhaps. ?

 

[Lips_Pearls]

You’ve taken the plunge & joined a swinging site, so what happens now?

If you’re a couple, do you hang back & see what’s available and if you’re single, do you do the same? or do you throw caution to the wind and message everyone with a pulse!

What is to much or to little?
For what is essentially a sex site!

Let me know your thoughts.

Tiger xx

Hmm. Depends for us.
We mingle as you know but for us personally, when someone stands out - we just know. From there we will go ahead, after discussing between us whether we should or not and go ahead and message or not.

Whether it’s too much or too little I don’t know. We do flirt a bit across the forums and profiles if someone piques our interest and hopefully it can happen and be reciprocated, or it just won’t be. Which is completely fine by us as everyone has their preferences.

So we kind of do tend to take the bull by the horns at times. Though there have been many times that we’ve had contact out of the blue and thought that yes maybe that could be something for us. ??

 

[mrclouse]

i dont message everything with a pulse but when i started like 11/12 years ago i did but back then i didn't have any experience in a lot of ways not just swinging.
Nowadays i tend to lurk for a little bit and try to message when i see someone that catches my eye...

 

[Guru G]

You’ve taken the plunge & joined a swinging site, so what happens now?

If you’re a couple, do you hang back & see what’s available and if you’re single, do you do the same? or do you throw caution to the wind and message everyone with a pulse!

What is to much or to little?
For what is essentially a sex site!

Let me know your thoughts.

Tiger xx

I dont believe in messaging people first - I just spam the forums with my presence and enjoy the laughs

 

[Deleted member 19022]

If someone or a couple particularly catches my eye then I would send a message, otherwise I tend to sit back and see what happens. Unfortunately after being on another site, it wasn't the knock backs or being rejected but the manner in which it happened that has eroded my confidence. I do like a laugh on the forums and hope that when life returns to something resembling normality and socials start again people will see each other for who they really are and not just a name behind a computer screen.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

If someone or a couple particularly catches my eye then I would send a message, otherwise I tend to sit back and see what happens. Unfortunately after being on another site, it wasn't the knock backs or being rejected but the manner in which it happened that has eroded my confidence. I do like a laugh on the forums and hope that when life returns to something resembling normality and socials start again people will see each other for who they really are and not just a name behind a computer screen.

Yes toxicity is a dangerous thing to ones morale Kev. ??

 

[Deleted member 19022]

Yes toxicity is a dangerous thing to ones morale Kev. ??

So very true, especially in this lifestyle.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

So very true, especially in this lifestyle.

100%. It can get into the core of you.

 

[Deleted member 19022]

100%. It can get into the core of you.

Fortunately I'm quite thick skinned or just plain stupid so still trying ??

 

[ShagTonight]

Fortunately I'm quite thick skinned or just plain stupid so still trying ??

You’ve taken the plunge & joined a swinging site, so what happens now?

If you’re a couple, do you hang back & see what’s available and if you’re single, do you do the same? or do you throw caution to the wind and message everyone with a pulse!

What is to much or to little?
For what is essentially a sex site!

Let me know your thoughts.

Tiger xx

I dont believe in messaging people first - I just spam the forums with my presence and enjoy the laughs

Same here ?

 

[ShagTonight]

Same here ?

Same here ?

I wouldnt call it spamming, more lots of interactions and flirting.

 

[Guru G]

If someone or a couple particularly catches my eye then I would send a message, otherwise I tend to sit back and see what happens. Unfortunately after being on another site, it wasn't the knock backs or being rejected but the manner in which it happened that has eroded my confidence. I do like a laugh on the forums and hope that when life returns to something resembling normality and socials start again people will see each other for who they really are and not just a name behind a computer screen.

I think some women get a very deluded sense of self importance on some sites where the ratio of men to woman is huge. They think because they're desired by alot of men ( because they are the monority) it gives them the right to be rude to any bloke who tries it on because they have a pick of the bunch and think they are "better than you"

 

[Guru G]

I wouldnt call it spamming, more lots of interactions and flirting.

Shag I spam because I chat shit - you on the other hand post well thought out threads and comments ?

 

[Deleted member 19022]

I think some women get a very deluded sense of self importance on some sites where the ratio of men to woman is huge. They think because they're desired by alot of men ( because they are the monority) it gives them the right to be rude to any bloke who tries it on because they have a pick of the bunch and think they are "better than you"

Couldn't agree with you more. I understand they get more than their fair share of unsolicited mail, some which can be very degrading or downright insulting so they build a protective wall around themselves, I have no problem with that. But also some seem to get a kick out of it and think its fun to insulting other people be them male or female, they then hid behind a almost empty profile. As I read on another site a long time ago, the nicer you are the more you get insulted. Glad to say it seems to be the opposite on here. Everyone seems welcoming, friendly and almost human ??

 

[Pearls]

Couldn't agree with you more. I understand they get more than their fair share of unsolicited mail, some which can be very degrading or downright insulting so they build a protective wall around themselves, I have no problem with that. But also some seem to get a kick out of it and think its fun to insulting other people be them male or female, they then hid behind a almost empty profile. As I read on another site a long time ago, the nicer you are the more you get insulted. Glad to say it seems to be the opposite on here. Everyone seems welcoming, friendly and almost human ??

The beautiful people I call them. You will always get that from some women and couples. No matter how polite or friendly you are it doesn’t matter, I’ve seen so many posts of simple things like good morning simply get ignored by women and couples because they think they are above the rest. I call it ignorant feckers but that’s just my opinion

 

[justjack128]

I prefer to be friendly and chat and see if there is any connection. I’m an easy going guy who likes to enjoy life, but I cannot stand being ignored, or people being rude for no reason.
A majority of people are certainly not gods gift, burnt some think they are.

 

[Deleted member 19022]

The beautiful people I call them. You will always get that from some women and couples. No matter how polite or friendly you are it doesn’t matter, I’ve seen so many posts of simple things like good morning simply get ignored by women and couples because they think they are above the rest. I call it ignorant feckers but that’s just my opinion

Your opinion matters ?

 

[Guru G]

Couldn't agree with you more. I understand they get more than their fair share of unsolicited mail, some which can be very degrading or downright insulting so they build a protective wall around themselves, I have no problem with that. But also some seem to get a kick out of it and think its fun to insulting other people be them male or female, they then hid behind a almost empty profile. As I read on another site a long time ago, the nicer you are the more you get insulted. Glad to say it seems to be the opposite on here. Everyone seems welcoming, friendly and almost human ??

Yeah these people also love to complain about all the messages they get when everyone knows deep down they love it ?

 

[Guru G]

The beautiful people I call them. You will always get that from some women and couples. No matter how polite or friendly you are it doesn’t matter, I’ve seen so many posts of simple things like good morning simply get ignored by women and couples because they think they are above the rest. I call it ignorant feckers but that’s just my opinion

I prefer rude c*nts but each to their own

 

[Pearls]

I prefer rude c*nts but each to their own

I was trying to be a bit posh there

 

[Tiger]

So, we’re fast approaching the end of restrictions & for better or worse people are going to start meeting up again!

Are you going to play it safe? Or jump in with both feet, arms, fingers & tongues

how do you think this is going to affect the singles In the seen?

I would imagine people are only going to want to be with others they already know!

That’s why I feel it is more important than ever for social sites like this, so that we can get to know each other!

Tiger xx

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

Personally for now id be happy with open air social meets to reaquaint myself with others , but we all know people will meet to play wether that be previously known or new people , its been a funny year so im guessing singles will be in demand

 

[mrclouse]

i think i need to learn how to talk to people again, i realised when i was trying to get a garage door repairman yesterday im very to the point now and kindof come off rude

 

[MK23]

You’ve taken the plunge & joined a swinging site, so what happens now?

If you’re a couple, do you hang back & see what’s available and if you’re single, do you do the same? or do you throw caution to the wind and message everyone with a pulse!

What is to much or to little?
For what is essentially a sex site!

Let me know your thoughts.

Tiger xx

I've been on other sites as one part of a MF couple, we were into threesomes and DP etc with other straight males...we got messages everyday from single males who wanted to join us....which was great but my partner at the tiome would only want to message the ones who had actually bothered to read our profile in full and had some ability to write a message...and not some one line wonder. We ignored most of the messages, blocked the people who were unpleasant and only replied to a few at a time as we both had full time work on. We both messaged the ones we connected with ...and they were the ones we met up with. We didnt have any bad experiences...it was all good safe fun too. But for entirely unrelated reasons...we parted company and are no longer a couple.

Now I'm on this site as a single male it is a very different experience. I have tried to message people in a genuine and detailed way but i havent had one reply yet...I have had a couple of messages from couple who wanted to meet up but that all fell on stony ground when covid-19 hit....

As far as messaging goes..I get the vibe that either the people involved are busy getting too many messages to reply to...or I'm just not what they are interested in so far....which is fair enough. Due to covid-19 i thought a bit of chit chat by email would be welcome as meet ups are out of the question for now. But again I've found it hard to get any traction at all. I don't do quiz or trivia stuff....i know everyone else loves it but i'm into music and books etc and the result of that is I come across like a bore to most people ha ha. I did find it easy to connect with one couple who ive met via the site and we've kept in touch but due to work, distance and now covid-19 we havent done much at all since our last meet up. But I remain hopeful.

I think youve got to message people in a genuine way, you cant just message anyone and everything that might be of interest, youve got to put the time in, there has to be a connection of sorts to make things work well...but then again...i'm just making it up as i go along. I'm pretty easy going and treat people with respect, I dont just message anyone but i do take care to reply to messages to me because at least i know they might be interested. But being a single male i dont get many of those. I suppose quality is better than quantity ....rather than too much or too little. But then again, some people are into different stuff so I have no idea about anything really. This reply is probably not helpful either.