Letting Down Gently..

[Lips_Pearls]

I'm sure this has been brought up before; probably an Old Chestnut..
But if someone's not for you, how do you say no?
Are you cut-throat about it or do it gently?

When you do it gently, persistence tends to occur. So what do you find is best?
Direct and to the point?
Or still remain friendly but - thanks but no thanks. x

 

[AutumnH]

Direct and to the point. Rip that plaster off!
It's just simpler to be direct, rather than beat around the bush imo

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Direct and to the point. Rip that plaster off!
It's just simpler to be direct, rather than beat around the bush imo

Ooooft... Straight to the point, quicker than a Spaniel checking coke. Love it. x

 

[Deleted member 19022]

Direct and to the point. Rip that plaster off!
It's just simpler to be direct, rather than beat around the bush imo

I believe you can be direct but at the same time tactful. If then the person is still persistent then you have the block option.

 

[AutumnH]

I believe you can be direct but at the same time tactful. If then the person is still persistent then you have the block option.

I never said I wouldn't be tactful, and I've never had to block anyone. I mean be direct as in saying something like "I'm very flattered but I'm not interested, thank you for getting in touch. Good luck on the site."

Direct, and to the point.

 

[Deleted member 8095]

We tend to be direct but polite. We use a pretty standard response, something like thank you and good luck with your search but if they persist then I can get quite narky and very blunt BUT I should say that I dont like that approach as I understand how much courage it can take to make the initial contact and some people just can't take a hint, even when its delivered on the face of a sledge hammer? (P)

 

[Deleted member 19022]

I never said I wouldn't be tactful, and I've never had to block anyone. I mean be direct as in saying something like "I'm very flattered but I'm not interested, thank you for getting in touch. Good luck on the site."

Direct, and to the point.

I never said you weren't being tactful either. I said that you can be direct and tactful at the same time. That is only my opinion, as has been quoted by another couple it takes courage sometimes to send an initial message. Therefore if you are lucky or unlucky as the case may be to receive a message then it's polite to let them down gently. This is only my opinion and I'm not accusing anyone else of being rude or ill mannered in the manner they reply to someone.

 

[Guru G]

I'm sure this has been brought up before; probably an Old Chestnut..
But if someone's not for you, how do you say no?
Are you cut-throat about it or do it gently?

When you do it gently, persistence tends to occur. So what do you find is best?
Direct and to the point?
Or still remain friendly but - thanks but no thanks. x

My issue is finding an interested party to find out ?

 

[Lips_Pearls]

My issue is finding an interested party to find out ?

Aye. We hear you.. (CV to one side)... ? ?

 

[Deleted member 19022]

My issue is finding an interested party to find out ?

Don't worry you are not alone ?

 

[GeoffRy]

Direct and to the point. Rip that plaster off!
It's just simpler to be direct, rather than beat around the bush imo

Direct and to the point ?. So when are the three of us gonna get nekkid and beat some Bush then.?. Direct enough you sassy minx ?.
Xx G

 

[Deleted member 18050]

To be honest to get a reply of any kind would be nice ,I have used another well known site for several years and after sending dozens of messages, I can count on one hand the amount of replies saying no thank you
otherwise they just read and ignore my message that’s why I don’t approach people anymore.
So far on here I have had one extremely good response ,one ignored message and one that I think is a fake account

 

[MP386]

To be honest to get a reply of any kind would be nice ,I have used another well known site for several years and after sending dozens of messages, I can count on one hand the amount of replies saying no thank you
otherwise they just read and ignore my message that’s why I don’t approach people anymore.
So far on here I have had one extremely good response ,one ignored message and one that I think is a fake account

Unfortunately that’s the nature of the beast , it does get disheartening but it takes persistence and if no one replies or ignores you or even blocks you , just move on ,it may sound a little mercenary but you will find there are some great people here , from my experience and what I’ve always been told you have to be more proactive as a single man as there are so many of us chasing the same thing ....

 

[AutumnH]

Direct and to the point ?. So when are the three of us gonna get nekkid and beat some Bush then.?. Direct enough you sassy minx ?.
Xx G

Still waiting for you to give me a date, time and location

 

[Carpediem2008]

To be fair we prefer to be firm but polite... its doesnt really matter how you do it... you can never predict how the other party or parties will respond... we've had both positive and negative reactions when saying no thanks... so just rip of the plaster ... no sense wasting time explaining yourself over and over.... politeness is key though.x

 

[Deleted member 11852]

To be honest to get a reply of any kind would be nice ,I have used another well known site for several years and after sending dozens of messages, I can count on one hand the amount of replies saying no thank you
otherwise they just read and ignore my message that’s why I don’t approach people anymore.
So far on here I have had one extremely good response ,one ignored message and one that I think is a fake account

Don’t worry, I am sure you will get a meet when this virus buggers off xxx M

 

[Deleted member 18050]

Don’t worry, I am sure you will get a meet when this virus buggers off xxx M

Thank you,I definitely hope it goes away soon x

 

[GeoffRy]

Still waiting for you to give me a date, time and location

Oooh roll on the end of lockdown , I will get my devious planning head on. Xx G

 

[MyKinkyWorld]

I think you can be direct and go straight to the point but at the same time be polite, anyway, in my experience most people simply go over and ignore people and messages they don't like.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I think you can be direct and go straight to the point but at the same time be polite, anyway, in my experience most people simply go over and ignore people and messages they don't like.

Sadly true. But to quote a quote that is on trend for various reasons - “it is what it is”.

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

Im quite direct in what and who interests me, if you send me an unwelcome pic then on your own head be the backlash, if your a dom then theres no interest whatsoever for me in you , but i do tell the messager, and i will put a stop effective from the off to anyone annoying me

 

[Therapon]

Im quite direct in what and who interests me, if you send me an unwelcome pic then on your own head be the backlash, if your a dom then theres no interest whatsoever for me in you , but i do tell the messager, and i will put a stop effective from the off to anyone annoying me

Blimey why you still talking to me

 

[Therapon]

As most have already said if there is no intetest then it's best to be polite but firm and if that fails I'd have no problem making it very clear.

 

[CocoDD]

I'm sure this has been brought up before; probably an Old Chestnut..
But if someone's not for you, how do you say no?
Are you cut-throat about it or do it gently?

When you do it gently, persistence tends to occur. So what do you find is best?
Direct and to the point?
Or still remain friendly but - thanks but no thanks. x

I’m nice if they are nice and after if someone still persists then I won’t be nice, depends really but the gentle approach usually works. ?

 

[GeoffRy]

I do have an issue with people that don't read the profile and jump straight in with a request.
If you can't be bothered to read what we've taken the time to write for your benefit, why would I waste more time politely educating them?
I make a point of reading profiles, it's only polite. XxRy