Slut shaming ?

[Pearls]

Yep an old chestnut but what are your thoughts?

Why is it still ok for guys to get as many notches on the bedpost and be classed as a stud but if a woman does the same she’s still classed as a slut!

Over to you.

 

[mrclouse]

i dont think it is? but i guess people who do that have an issue with getting laid and take it out on the woman who says no well from the guys prespective ?

 

[Tiger]

It’s the vanilla mindset, they haven’t got the intelligence to distinguish between the both.

 

[Pearls]

It’s the vanilla mindset, they haven’t got the intelligence to distinguish between the both.

Sadly. It still taboo in the scene.

 

[AutumnH]

Patriarchal society, innit?

For men, "boys will be boys". A man who goes around jumping on a different woman each night is completely normal behaviour because "men have needs", men are typically viewed as sexual creatures. Porn ends when he cums, in films the guy gets the girl, alot of pop songs are about a girl he saw and wants to be with her... it's never flipped.

Porn should show real sex, the intimacy, the care and affection for another person, guess what? It's okay if he doesn't cum, and it's great if she cums more than once. In films, why is it always about the chase? Why should he get the girl, why doesn't she be comfortable with being alone and being a sexual creature of her own volition.

Women have this image of being fragile, nurturing, motherly beings who couldn't possibly want to engage in sexual activity, especially with numerous partners. She is a mom, a carer for the family. She couldn't possibly do those sorts of things.

Scoff
Sorry, bit of a rant but things like this really boils my piss.

 

[Carpediem2008]

We are all here for such a short time... with different partners come different experiences... this slut thing really presses my buttons.... who are we as men to shame women who choose to live an active health sex life as long as they are safe who cares .... such an outdated concept ....

 

[Therapon]

Patriarchal society, innit?

I'm not so sure that is the reason, if so how come I often hear women call other women sluts?
It's no different from fat shaming or calling gay people queers or why so many on facebook are happy to belittle others.
All I can say I really have no idea why it's ok to differentiate between sexually active males or females, it's unacceptable in my opinion but unfortunately many see no harm in it.

 

[MP386]

Yep an old chestnut but what are your thoughts?

Why is it still ok for guys to get as many notches on the bedpost and be classed as a stud but if a woman does the same she’s still classed as a slut!

Over to you.

So first it’s not acceptable
who is doing this ? Society as a whole I’m guessing yes it’s still considered unacceptable by many why in theses days of the PC society where it’s all love ins and hugging it out ...... or are we talking within the swinging community?
so “Stud Muffin “ the bloke is notching them up , is he likely to call any woman a slut ? Probably not because the “slut “ may be his next notch .....

Oh and @AutumnH I’m sure you can get Antibiotics for Boiling Piss

 

[Guru G]

People love to put people down because of their own insecurities and more often than not that "slag" has got loads of men after her because she is a ten. The person shaming her has a miserable life and has nothing better to do, therefore as they can't see anything physically wrong with them to shame, instead just call them a sluts because they are jealous ugly people and wish they could get so much action.

Cant stand people who abuse others because they aren't happy themselves

 

[DandDforfun]

People love to put people down because of their own insecurities and more often than not that "slag" has got loads of men after her because she is a ten. The person shaming her has a miserable life and has nothing better to do, therefore as they can't see anything physically wrong with them to shame, instead just call them a sluts because they are jealous ugly people and wish they could get so much action.

Cant stand people who abuse others because they aren't happy themselves

umm makes me think this is why Mr D’s Mrs calls me a slut! ?

 

[Guru G]

umm makes me think this is why Mr D’s Mrs calls me a slut! ?

I think hes encouraging you not shaming

 

[DandDforfun]

I think hes encouraging you not shaming

He’s not calling me it - his wife is ???

 

[Guru G]

He’s not calling me it - his wife is ???

Oh ? no comment

 

[smallballs]

I don't think it is OK to refer to a woman in that way.
A women has a right to choose who she wants to be with just as much as any man. We are all equal in this regard.

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

Yep an old chestnut but what are your thoughts?

Why is it still ok for guys to get as many notches on the bedpost and be classed as a stud but if a woman does the same she’s still classed as a slut!

Over to you.

I refer to those type of men as man_whores tbh theyre no better nor worse than a woman , but if the term slut is refered to in the bedroom context then yes i,ll hold my hands up , i probs am in a way

 

[MyKinkyWorld]

From a sociological point of view it depends on the different power of men and women in the society. In the end, men who have more power in the society can class men's and women's behaviours in a different way and impose different social roles on themselves and women. It is so simple and at the same time so hard to sort out and solve the problem.
I hope my thought is quite clear.

 

[SteveandDebs]

I honestly don't think they are nowadays in the way they were in, say, Victorian times. Nowadays when you hear derogatory comments about a woman's sexual activities I always think that they are just jealous and probably never get any. I think a lot of it stems from peoples upbringing and how open their parents were.

And it's not just in the vanilla world, there are loads of guys that think that way on the swinging scene as well, they just want to take advantage of it. To my mind some women are their own worst enemy in this with the whole 'Men are studs, women are sluts' culture perpetuated by, among other things, some women acting as if they are doing you a favour by 'letting' you fuck them.

Good sex is a two way street.

 

[Vanezza]

Sex as an act is all of our basic instinct. To shame anyone for it is not only stupid it is immoral.

Of course, we are genetically wired to protect our young but the problems come when you are brought up in a society where it's only a woman's job to take care of the house and the children while man goes to do "IMPORTANT THINGS"

There is nothing more important than loving and nurturing your children of course but if you are seen to be enjoying anything else as a woman you are labelled instantly by both men and women because of the inbuilt social bias that has existed for centuries.

This bias has been perpetuated by religions and the bloke down the pub for as long as the human race can remember so I'm not entirely sure how we can fix it other than just being nice to each other and only calling names when it's funny

N xxx