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Pearls

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Pearls

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After reading about a couple getting it on if one doesn’t feel attracted to the person they’re meeting, it got me thinking about a few situations.
First could you as one half of a couple go through with the meet if it wasn’t really for you but to please your oh.
Liking and disliking someone but your oh is opposite to you?
Does it bother you if someone dislikes you but you know they like your oh.
For us personally it’s hard for people to gauge us because we have a job to do, keeping people happy is our priority and that can be tough because half the time it’s not personal, it’s just a job.
If it came down to meeting then you wouldn’t see who you see here so it’s difficult for people to see who we really are.
So when it comes to meeting it would have to be a joint attraction and vice versa but how would you know if those you meet were genuinely attracted to you?
It’s very difficult when you all you see is us on a site bopping about with every bugger.
 
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Vanezza

Vanezza

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We would never meet up if it wasn't both of us interested in the other(s) and if one of us is attracted and not the other then it's a solid no.
It does bother me N when I get ignored, usually by men, but it really isn't a big deal.
We are the people we come across as on here and have no reason to be otherwise, sometimes highly strung and over emotional but always genuinely us.
We expect the same honesty from people we talk to online as we give to them. ? ?

V&N xxx
 
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Pearls

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Pearls

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Vanezza said:
We would never meet up if it wasn't both of us interested in the other(s) and if one of us is attracted and not the other then it's a solid no.
It does bother me N when I get ignored, usually by men, but it really isn't a big deal.
We are the people we come across as on here and have no reason to be otherwise, sometimes highly strung and over emotional but always genuinely us.
We expect the same honesty from people we talk to online as we give to them. ? ?

V&N xxx
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This is it though, you are who you are online so people can see that. We have a job to do and folk would probably think we’d shag anyone because we interact with everybody. I know this is personal but it’s been playing on my mind for a bit. We are strong characters here but that’s simply it, characters. I know folk will think, oh gawd ? and that’s fine but it’s really hard for folk to separate us here and how we really are. Do you know what I mean cause I’m confusing myself ?
 
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Mr and Mrs Marmite

Mr and Mrs Marmite

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Just to add to my last posting...

We sre exactly the same online as we are in real time face to face... Mrs is shy (ish) and quiet... im the one who will talk to anyone and everyone... socially ?

We know we aren't everyone's cuppa... but thats ok... loved by some and hated by others, thats why we picked this particular username ?
 
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Lips_Pearls

Lips_Pearls

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Pearls said:
This is it though, you are who you are online so people can see that. We have a job to do and folk would probably think we’d shag anyone because we interact with everybody. I know this is personal but it’s been playing on my mind for a bit. We are strong characters here but that’s simply it, characters. I know folk will think, oh gawd ? and that’s fine but it’s really hard for folk to separate us here and how we really are. Do you know what I mean cause I’m confusing myself ?
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Agreed. This was asked actually in the ask a member thread. It does have an effect but we’re used to it. One thing being personal members, something else doing a job.
No, couldn’t and wouldn’t take one for the team per se. Though we know of a few who have and will do so. Que sera sera. X
 
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MP386

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Pearls said:
After reading about a couple getting it on if one doesn’t feel attracted to the person they’re meeting, it got me thinking about a few situations.
First could you as one half of a couple go through with the meet if it wasn’t really for you but to please your oh.
Liking and disliking someone but your oh is opposite to you?
Does it bother you if someone dislikes you but you know they like your oh.
For us personally it’s hard for people to gauge us because we have a job to do, keeping people happy is our priority and that can be tough because half the time it’s not personal, it’s just a job.
If it came down to meeting then you wouldn’t see who you see here so it’s difficult for people to see who we really are.
So when it comes to meeting it would have to be a joint attraction and vice versa but how would you know if those you meet were genuinely attracted to you?
It’s very difficult when you all you see is us on a site bopping about with every bugger.
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What’s the question o_O
I’ve just asked myself and yes I’d definitely take one for the team .... :tiphat:
 
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terryfurby

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Pearls said:
After reading about a couple getting it on if one doesn’t feel attracted to the person they’re meeting, it got me thinking about a few situations.
First could you as one half of a couple go through with the meet if it wasn’t really for you but to please your oh.
Liking and disliking someone but your oh is opposite to you?
Does it bother you if someone dislikes you but you know they like your oh.
For us personally it’s hard for people to gauge us because we have a job to do, keeping people happy is our priority and that can be tough because half the time it’s not personal, it’s just a job.
If it came down to meeting then you wouldn’t see who you see here so it’s difficult for people to see who we really are.
So when it comes to meeting it would have to be a joint attraction and vice versa but how would you know if those you meet were genuinely attracted to you?
It’s very difficult when you all you see is us on a site bopping about with every bugger.
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Oh come on why we here then??its all about mixing no and be happy if you cant then dont babe
 
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We have never subscribed to the take one for the team theory.. If both of us are not happy then nothing happens.. As for attraction you will never be 100% sure someone is attracted to both of you... You have to have a certain amount of trust in people.. It's worked so far for us... We tend to chat for a while with potential meets and because we're both really active on our profile both of us chat with people at different times and you make your decisions based on that.. You can usually tell if someone is attracted to you by the conversations you have.. Well that's what we do anyway.. W.. ???
 
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Vanezza

Vanezza

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To answer @Pearls question about character and expectations I would say that since we joined, you both have come across as funny caring real people that want to help others. Would never expect that you would shag the first warm body in the room as that is not who you are.
Sure @Lips_Pearls can be a pain in the arse with a skinful and Techno sometimes ? but we all do that now and again (well I do) but I can't imagine you are much different to my view of you than I get from here.

N xxx
 
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Pearls

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Pearls

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Vanezza said:
To answer @Pearls question about character and expectations I would say that since we joined, you both have come across as funny caring real people that want to help others. Would never expect that you would shag the first warm body in the room as that is not who you are.
Sure @Lips_Pearls can be a pain in the arse with a skinful and Techno sometimes ? but we all do that now and again (well I do) but I can't imagine you are much different to my view of you than I get from here.

N xxx
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I thought we were on about taking one for the team ??
 
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Vanezza

Vanezza

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Pearls said:
I thought we were on about taking one for the team ??
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You said.
Pearls said:
This is it though, you are who you are online so people can see that. We have a job to do and folk would probably think we’d shag anyone because we interact with everybody. I know this is personal but it’s been playing on my mind for a bit. We are strong characters here but that’s simply it, characters.
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I was answering that one darling ?

N xxx
 
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