We started chatting about swinging a couple of months before we decided to join the site.. Mrs h looked mortified when I first mentioned it.. We chatted for a long time before we actually joined anywhere..I was looking at a few sites before we joined ss.. At least my instincts were right we definitely picked the right one to join.. It took us over 6 months to arrange our first meet.. We both love it now... don't think we would have joined sooner,,, it was the right time for us,,, maybe with hindsight we might have joined sooner but this is the only site we have ever known... Definitely wouldn't want to be anywhere else... People here are lovely.... . W.. ??