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Thinking back to when we started in this lifestyle.. We didn't rush to jump into bed with anyone.. It took us a while to arrange our first meet.. We definitely picked the right person for our first step into this lifestyle.. He told us take everything at your own pace and don't feel pressured to do anything you or your partner,, if you're a couple as we are and don't quite feel ready for.. Always have your boundaries.. We have always agreed that if both of us are not 100% happy with something then the meet doesn't go ahead.. We always chat with everyone we are arranging to meet before hand.. To discuss boundaries and how far we are prepared to go.. We always say if someone is not happy with something during a meet then everything stops.. That goes for people we are meeting as well as us.. I'm sure everyone approaches things differently but the way we have been doing things has served us very well.. We have met some really lovely people and had lots of naughty fun.. It's all been so enjoyable because we all knew if anyone wasn't happy then it stops.. After all this lifestyle is all about naughty fun.. We don't subscribe to the take one for the team theory either.. It's same as above.. We both have to agree.. For us personally communication was the key.. We discussed boundaries and what we were looking for from the beginning.. If you decide to move your boundaries and push yourself during a meet it has to be your decision and not because of pressure.. We still stick to everything we discussed from the beginning..it's definitely naughty fun and friendship that keeps us in this lifestyle... Sorry for the essay..... W.. ??
 
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Ymichael14

Ymichael14

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A guide is what I need.
I think you people should give training seminars. you could charge a fee.
But, as far as I can tell, guides and seminars do not exist because you do not put any work into finding people to play with so you cant explain how you do it.
You just open the front door and 10 people walk in and you pick the one you want.
I don't even get viewed online in the US groups.
I think it's pheromones.
Certain people release pheromones which attracts other swingers.
Like a dog in heat.
Maybe it's a social cue that I am missing. You have a certain expression on your face in your profile pic that attracts others.
Oh well, I will keep trying.
I'm getting closer, I found this group where swingers will talk to me, that was a first.
 
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CocoDD said:
Honesty is definitely the best policy in this scene
Be careful, there are so many fakes and meeting alone can be dangerous so have a back up
Dont be pushy
Go to clubs
Get verified, even if it is online
Relax and enjoy
Coco ?
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Have you ever found someone in a place other than a club?
I mean, what if all the clubs in your area closed for some reason, government banned them, what would be your second best place to meet partners?
 
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AlmeriaH

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Pearls said:
To swinging.
What would be you top tips/advice to someone starting out?

We all have different views so I thought why not have a members guide.

Over to you ?
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Be honest firstly with yourself, secondly with your partner if you have one. CocoDD puts honesty at the top of the list, too. Be open, don't look for perfection, take it easy at your own pace, don't let yourself/selves be pushed. Meet socially in a public place first with no commitment, have a backout plan. Follow your instincts. If something doesn't feel right, run, or it will only get worse. Be strong.

Most importantly: If it goes well, enjoy.
 
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Ymichael14 said:
Have you ever found someone in a place other than a club?
I mean, what if all the clubs in your area closed for some reason, government banned them, what would be your second best place to meet partners?
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I was found by a couple while I was working in a coffee bar. Let me explain.

I sometimes work and stay in an apartment in Vera Playa, which is a swinging hotspot as well as having a nudist beach nearby. I also work online as a teacher, and I for this I need a reasonable Internet connection for a videocall (there is no Internet in the apartment). So I found a coffee bar which serves good breakfasts and coffee, and they gave me permission to take my laptop there and use their Internet connection at a table in a quiet corner inside (most people sit outside). After I finished work one day and as I was putting my laptop away I was approached by an attractive couple, both younger than me. (By the way it's wrong to assume that everyone who goes to this area is looking to swing or play, there are many families who go with their children and they enjoy nudism). The lady spoke, she asked me if I would let them join me for a coffee. They both looked friendly and had nice smiles (which is important to me). I said, "Of course!" and after asking me what coffee I would like, she dispatched her husband to order them at the bar. She said that they had noticed me from where they had been sitting, but I had to apologise as I had not noticed them. I figured that they wanted to know more about the classes I give, but she asked me if I knew that I was in an area popular with nudists, which I confirmed that I did. She smiled at me and asked me if I also knew that it was popular with swingers, which I also confirmed. She asked me if was also a swinger, to which I replied that I wished I was but that I was single. She said that she loves a threesome with her husband and another man, and asked me if I would be interested in joining them. I said, "I would love to!" like a little boy in a sweet shop with a blank cheque, and she added, "for a coffee!" So we started on a good footing with a laugh, and that was before I spoke to her husband. We spent a long time in the coffee shop as we were at a quiet table, so we could talk openly. It was soon apparent that we were compatible in our likes, it was just a case of getting to know each other a little more. We continued to a bar for lunch for that, and we arranged to get together in their apartment later that evening. We all had a great time, and we met again subsequently.

That was purely a case of being in the right place at the right time.
 
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AlmeriaH said:
I was found by a couple while I was working in a coffee bar. Let me explain.

I sometimes work and stay in an apartment in Vera Playa, which is a swinging hotspot as well as having a nudist beach nearby. I also work online as a teacher, and I for this I need a reasonable Internet connection for a videocall (there is no Internet in the apartment). So I found a coffee bar which serves good breakfasts and coffee, and they gave me permission to take my laptop there and use their Internet connection at a table in a quiet corner inside (most people sit outside). After I finished work one day and as I was putting my laptop away I was approached by an attractive couple, both younger than me. (By the way it's wrong to assume that everyone who goes to this area is looking to swing or play, there are many families who go with their children and they enjoy nudism). The lady spoke, she asked me if I would let them join me for a coffee. They both looked friendly and had nice smiles (which is important to me). I said, "Of course!" and after asking me what coffee I would like, she dispatched her husband to order them at the bar. She said that they had noticed me from where they had been sitting, but I had to apologise as I had not noticed them. I figured that they wanted to know more about the classes I give, but she asked me if I knew that I was in an area popular with nudists, which I confirmed that I did. She smiled at me and asked me if I also knew that it was popular with swingers, which I also confirmed. She asked me if was also a swinger, to which I replied that I wished I was but that I was single. She said that she loves a threesome with her husband and another man, and asked me if I would be interested in joining them. I said, "I would love to!" like a little boy in a sweet shop with a blank cheque, and she added, "for a coffee!" So we started on a good footing with a laugh, and that was before I spoke to her husband. We spent a long time in the coffee shop as we were at a quiet table, so we could talk openly. It was soon apparent that we were compatible in our likes, it was just a case of getting to know each other a little more. We continued to a bar for lunch for that, and we arranged to get together in their apartment later that evening. We all had a great time, and we met again subsequently.

That was purely a case of being in the right place at the right time.
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There is a nudist resort near me.
I assume there is a coffee bar, or at least a starbucks nearby, I could try hanging out at the starbucks.
The nudist resort says they do not tolerate people who go there looking for sex, though.
 
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AlmeriaH said:
I was found by a couple while I was working in a coffee bar. Let me explain.

I sometimes work and stay in an apartment in Vera Playa, which is a swinging hotspot as well as having a nudist beach nearby. I also work online as a teacher, and I for this I need a reasonable Internet connection for a videocall (there is no Internet in the apartment). So I found a coffee bar which serves good breakfasts and coffee, and they gave me permission to take my laptop there and use their Internet connection at a table in a quiet corner inside (most people sit outside). After I finished work one day and as I was putting my laptop away I was approached by an attractive couple, both younger than me. (By the way it's wrong to assume that everyone who goes to this area is looking to swing or play, there are many families who go with their children and they enjoy nudism). The lady spoke, she asked me if I would let them join me for a coffee. They both looked friendly and had nice smiles (which is important to me). I said, "Of course!" and after asking me what coffee I would like, she dispatched her husband to order them at the bar. She said that they had noticed me from where they had been sitting, but I had to apologise as I had not noticed them. I figured that they wanted to know more about the classes I give, but she asked me if I knew that I was in an area popular with nudists, which I confirmed that I did. She smiled at me and asked me if I also knew that it was popular with swingers, which I also confirmed. She asked me if was also a swinger, to which I replied that I wished I was but that I was single. She said that she loves a threesome with her husband and another man, and asked me if I would be interested in joining them. I said, "I would love to!" like a little boy in a sweet shop with a blank cheque, and she added, "for a coffee!" So we started on a good footing with a laugh, and that was before I spoke to her husband. We spent a long time in the coffee shop as we were at a quiet table, so we could talk openly. It was soon apparent that we were compatible in our likes, it was just a case of getting to know each other a little more. We continued to a bar for lunch for that, and we arranged to get together in their apartment later that evening. We all had a great time, and we met again subsequently.

That was purely a case of being in the right place at the right time.
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I would find that so exciting.
To be considered for a threesome .
Even if they later decided not to go through with it, I would be so happy just to be considered.
I wish this would happen just once in my life.
 
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