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Ymichael14

Ymichael14

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I just got into a conversation elsewhere and I'm wondering if it is different in the UK or these people were just weird.
You are in a club. You have a choice of playing in private or public. According to club rules you have to choose public and let peopke watch, if that is what you want. You have to leave a door open or a curtain or go into a certain room.
You choose to be watched.
My question, is there any type of person or anything a person could do that would upset you and cause you to not want them to watch? To close the door or whatever?
I'm only talking about watching. No touching or talking to you.
And, do you have an acceptable distance for the watchers to be? Close enough to touch, if you invited them, or far away, like in the next room?
 
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I had one experience in a club while in a public area , because those that watched got too close the lady became uncomfortable and we immediately stopped…I do think if you watch it should be from a respectful distance …
 
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MP386 said:
I had one experience in a club while in a public area , because those that watched got too close the lady became uncomfortable and we immediately stopped…I do think if you watch it should be from a respectful distance …
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But what about if the public area you are in ,they are far enough away. Is there anything that they could do that you would find unacceptable?
 
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The reason why I'm asking is ,the conversation I had several people were saying watching is not acceptable.
Even if it is a private room off of a public area where you can close a curtain or door so those in the public area can not see, and you choose to leave the door or curtain open.
The club that started this conversation is in a house that they converted to a club , but they didnt change the layout of the house so it has a lot of rooms that are public/socializing areas and bedrooms off of the public rooms. If you want to be watched but not touched you put a rope across the entrance where people can stand close enough to touch you, but they are not allowed to. Or, you can close a curtain so nobody can watch. If the curtain is open, people in the public area and those walking by can clearly see you. The private room is set up that way. Standing in the doorway the bed is in front of you.
The people I was talking to said if the curtain is open , it is wrong to sit in the public room and watch. My point was, if you choose to leave the curtain open, you choose to be watched and there is nothing I can do wrong, except maybe cheering or pointing and laughing at them.
I'm just wondering if I'm the crazy one.
 
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And I just realized I left out an important part.
This is about single men watching couples.
I know from other conversations I have had on here US clubs are a lot more restrictive with single men. Most will not allow any others allow on certain nights or allow any night but limit how many can be in the club at a time so there is always a lot more couples and single women than single men.
Does it make a difference to you if a single man watches or a couple watches you?
 
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Ymichael14 said:
But what about if the public area you are in ,they are far enough away. Is there anything that they could do that you would find unacceptable?
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If I get the opportunity to play in public,I’m more likely to be concentrating on the lady not what others are doing … as I’m unacceptable do you mean having a wank while watching ? … as long as they don’t come over me or the lady I’m with it’s not something I’d be over concerned about …
 
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Ymichael14 said:
The reason why I'm asking is ,the conversation I had several people were saying watching is not acceptable.
Even if it is a private room off of a public area where you can close a curtain or door so those in the public area can not see, and you choose to leave the door or curtain open.
The club that started this conversation is in a house that they converted to a club , but they didnt change the layout of the house so it has a lot of rooms that are public/socializing areas and bedrooms off of the public rooms. If you want to be watched but not touched you put a rope across the entrance where people can stand close enough to touch you, but they are not allowed to. Or, you can close a curtain so nobody can watch. If the curtain is open, people in the public area and those walking by can clearly see you. The private room is set up that way. Standing in the doorway the bed is in front of you.
The people I was talking to said if the curtain is open , it is wrong to sit in the public room and watch. My point was, if you choose to leave the curtain open, you choose to be watched and there is nothing I can do wrong, except maybe cheering or pointing and laughing at them.
I'm just wondering if I'm the crazy one.
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If it’s a private room and they don’t want to be watched then the door /curtain should be closed ,I’d find it unacceptable for someone to open a door/curtain to watch but not if the door is open to me you want people to watch you ..
 
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Ymichael14 said:
And I just realized I left out an important part.
This is about single men watching couples.
I know from other conversations I have had on here US clubs are a lot more restrictive with single men. Most will not allow any others allow on certain nights or allow any night but limit how many can be in the club at a time so there is always a lot more couples and single women than single men.
Does it make a difference to you if a single man watches or a couple watches you?
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Voyeurism is a part of this life , some only go to watch ,clubs here are no different with restrictions ,single men make revenue for clubs as pretty much every one charges a single man more to enter the club .
If I have an opportunity to play in a club ,I’d be more concerned about my performance than if it’s a man ,women or couple watching,I’d want people thinking how lucky I was to be the one playing ..
 
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Ymichael14 said:
But what about just watching. Not talking to you. Is there anything they could do that you would find unacceptable?
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I don’t mind anyone wanking near me but be at a distance where it won’t go on me.
So long as they weren’t saying derogatory comments I would be ok.
I love the club scene, and it annoys me how single men are treated, they are charged more, viewed with suspicion and often get left alone if they come on their own.
In my experience, I have always been treated with the upmost respect by the singles, on the few occasions I have had problems in a club (one very nasty, I was badly injured) it has been marred men that have been disrespectful to me.
I choose to play in public, I find it a real turn on.
On the occasion I had around 80 people watching the bed was in the middle of the dance floor and everyone was around the edge, that was a great night.
The only time someone saying something stopped play was when I was on a very public bed with around 30 watching and the wife got the hump and told her husband to stop.
 
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Yes, my question was only concerning single men watching when the couple has a choice to not be watched, such as closing a curtain, and they leave the curtain open.
Wanking, cumming on would be different.
You answered my question.everyone agrees with me. If the curtain is open or they are in public, you can watch.
 
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Ymichael14 said:
Yes, my question was only concerning single men watching when the couple has a choice to not be watched, such as closing a curtain, and they leave the curtain open.
Wanking, cumming on would be different.
You answered my question.everyone agrees with me. If the curtain is open or they are in public, you can watch.
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In my experience, 99.9% of single guys are very respectful at the clubs, just watch from a safe distance. If the curtains or door is closed I've never seen anyone open them and look in.
In some venues there can be a shortage of private spaces for people who prefer privacy.
 
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MP386 said:
OMG you’re not RJ 😱😱😱
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I am a little Ragdoll, pick me up, throw me around, fuck me like a sex doll and then cuddle me at night when you go to bed ❤️
Ok everyone, in the spirit of being a good citizen and making amends my name is NOT Julie, that's the name that was assigned to me for another site (I didn't choose it). And for the record I don't go on the other site anymore.
My real name IS ..................... Jane ❤️
 
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