Being a swinger can make you feel like part of your life is hidden. Not many in the vanilla world will accept you with open arms if you told them of your lifestyle choice.
I had a lot of misconceptions before I started, and I think this is the same for a lot of people. I had resisted trying despite my husbands best attempts to reassure me because I thought it would be like going to one giant orgy where you would get jumped on as soon as you walked through the door, that it would be full of supermodels and as a woman who has had a baby I didn't think my body would pass the judgement I thought I would get.
I was so wrong, the lifestyle is full of normal every day people, who are just looking for a little excitement.
The term swinger is so broad and you can get involved in many different things, we have swinging couples, Hot Wives, BDSM and voyeurism to name a few. Everyone finds their own happy place and you get to live your wildest fantasies. You can escape to your own little world and be in a bubble of joy and happiness.
One thing I have found since joining is that people are funny old things, you go to a club and people stay in their own little groups and don't mix, talking to someone doesn't necessarily mean you have to run off to a room and have sex with them... unless you want to of course
There are couples who send endless friend requests and rarely even make it to a social event, single ladies are held in such high regard but I know of one or two that are just out to get as much as they can from the poor guys. And of course, we have my favourite, picture collectors with no intention of ever meeting for reasons various.
The reason I wrote this blog is because life can be tough for a lot of swingers, a lot of disappointment, being let down by people, wondering is this ever going to happen for me? What I wish for is that regardless of whether you agree with the persons little kinks, (I will include a foot note about this), whether you are physically attracted to them, if they are what you are looking for, not everyone is looking for a single man/lady to join them, we should support each other as in what other environment could you ever be this open? Chatting and being friendly is part of being a community, I have been very lucky, I have made some amazing friends. done some really crazy things and get to have the most incredible sex on a regular basis.
To the people who who feel like swinging is a hard knock life, You Got A Friend In Me
Footnote - I have heard so many stories about things people have been asked for I think I need to start a thread.
I had a lot of misconceptions before I started, and I think this is the same for a lot of people. I had resisted trying despite my husbands best attempts to reassure me because I thought it would be like going to one giant orgy where you would get jumped on as soon as you walked through the door, that it would be full of supermodels and as a woman who has had a baby I didn't think my body would pass the judgement I thought I would get.
I was so wrong, the lifestyle is full of normal every day people, who are just looking for a little excitement.
The term swinger is so broad and you can get involved in many different things, we have swinging couples, Hot Wives, BDSM and voyeurism to name a few. Everyone finds their own happy place and you get to live your wildest fantasies. You can escape to your own little world and be in a bubble of joy and happiness.
One thing I have found since joining is that people are funny old things, you go to a club and people stay in their own little groups and don't mix, talking to someone doesn't necessarily mean you have to run off to a room and have sex with them... unless you want to of course
There are couples who send endless friend requests and rarely even make it to a social event, single ladies are held in such high regard but I know of one or two that are just out to get as much as they can from the poor guys. And of course, we have my favourite, picture collectors with no intention of ever meeting for reasons various.
The reason I wrote this blog is because life can be tough for a lot of swingers, a lot of disappointment, being let down by people, wondering is this ever going to happen for me? What I wish for is that regardless of whether you agree with the persons little kinks, (I will include a foot note about this), whether you are physically attracted to them, if they are what you are looking for, not everyone is looking for a single man/lady to join them, we should support each other as in what other environment could you ever be this open? Chatting and being friendly is part of being a community, I have been very lucky, I have made some amazing friends. done some really crazy things and get to have the most incredible sex on a regular basis.
To the people who who feel like swinging is a hard knock life, You Got A Friend In Me
Footnote - I have heard so many stories about things people have been asked for I think I need to start a thread.