A Fetish Too Far?

[Deleted member 3411]

OK this is something I’ve thought about for some days as I know this one ‘might’ cause some anger or be controversial, but I feel strongly about this and want to say my bit. Before I do let me state where I come from on race. I am Caucasian and this is just a fact, not a statement of beliefs I just am. Personally I like woman whatever race and did in the past date a woman of mixed race. Point is for me her ethnicity was incidental NOT a reason.


So my point-gripe-dislike? On another well known social media app I’ve seen a number of RTs of a group who have a fetish. This fetish is a form of cuckold activity. Now I am not a lover of the BBC ideology but recognise everyone has a right to a ‘preference’, the BBC thing for me is mislead as I’ve seen plenty of WE guys and at a club once saw one white guy who was well...HUGE. I wasn’t interested IN his cock I should add, but he was impressive. My point here is being of Black race doesn’t automatically make you big, and after long deep thinking my dislike of the BBC ‘thing’ comes from the idea that a big black one is better than one the same if it had been white, I find this attitude anti racial integrative and divisive, but as I said to each their own.


My problem is this fetish group have a love/desire/wish for the cuckold male to be shown his inadequacy by the white wife getting pregnant with a black baby. The pictures were all about wanting to be full of his black cum and be all large with a ‘Black baby’. Sorry but NO. A baby isn’t a sex object, having a baby is NOT a fetish... It’s a child. What do you say to this kid later in life “Oh! I only had you as a form of sexual kick”! When asked about his son/daughter and the fact he isn’t the father does the husband say “Well I just loved my wife to be fucked by black men, and get pregnant by a man we didn’t want for anything other than his sperm”. For me this is a fetish too far.


Your thoughts people?

 

[Lovernotfighter]

The BBC thing I do think gets a bit out of hand. I don't know how to get my feeling on the matter out in to words sorry, but I will say I find race being seen (or used) as a fetish (rather than a physical attraction) is 'grrr fuck hell no' at best broader line racist at worse.

 

[peakcouple]

Agree that cuckold breeding is a fetish too far, wonder how real it actually is though and whether it's just a porn fantasy? According to a black girlfriend I (G) had years back (us in the pic below), it's not true that all black men have enormous cocks, apparently most have perfectly normal ones. R had her first BBC last November at the SS Chams meet, after many years of swinging and watching other women enjoying them, a black guy joined us and they played. He was enormous, by far the biggest she's had and as big as either of us had ever seen in the flesh. That night she had her second BBC from another man who wasn't as big but was still much larger than average. It seems that when black men are big, then they are really big. She's not a size queen and found them both uncomfortable but it was nice to achieve one of her unfulfilled fantasies. Agree that race isn't important in relationships or swinging but the sight of you in a mirror or a photo playing with someone of a completely different colour is very exciting.

 

[Deleted member 3411]

@peakcouple She looks gorgeous...Hope she comes to an event were are at some day. See for me Black roots is just a description not a partition, I get as excited at the idea of a woman with long red hair covered in freckles, BOTH are on my wish list.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

For me, for us, it's not just the fetish that's too far and OTT... it's the whole race thing.
We have to try and be as neutral as best, as I'm sure some (maybe most) of you will know.. But we utterly despise racism and it's traits in ALL forms.
Whether it's racism against black, or racism against white or any other ethnicity etc.

Other sites for example, have race filters.. One thing I don't think will ever be added here. Yes a niche, yes a specific personal choice, but isn't it racist and segregation, prejudice, by having these filters on the site in the first place? Or am I wrong there?

We're all human beings. Humans... Who laugh, cry, smile, frown, bleed, get angry, get happy.. have emotions, have feelings, thoughts, creations..
Love has no boundaries and neither should 'colour' or race..

This fetish, I tend to agree with @peakcouple and think it's more fetish fantasy. Well I hope it is anyway as it's just utterly appalling if not.
That's not how to bring a child into the world.
Just wanted to add our thoughts.

 

[Bump-n-Grind]

I think, as has been mentioned, this is surely only a fetish fantasy.
Unfortunately what becomes of this is that you get certain individuals that use areas of social media & swinging sites to bombard couples, that have a wife sharing interest, with messages about "breeding" the aforementioned wife, its crass & downright rude.
We're lucky on here that it's well policed & things like that are few & far between, but sadly it is out there.
As from the fetish on general it's not something that I really understand with its extremity & would sincerely hope that it never becomes reality.
A fetish should never have an impact on anyone's lives other than the consenting adults that partake

 

[Cheeky_Demon]

I seriously hope it (getting pregnant through swinging) was just a fetish... an idea.. someone saying something and getting carried away with fantasy and that things like that never get anywhere.

Morals, ethics, common decency have to prevail. Surely?

As for the race thing, and I by no means speak for all black men, we'd like to be considered as people first, men second. That's it. Just as equals.

Some are big, some aren't. I'm very 'medium' size myself and happy to be so. Not everyone is the same, and that's part of all our charm, but if we start to blur those colour lines we'll all find there's a wealth of genuinely cool, funny, sexy people out there that we may have previously overlooked.

Forget colour. Let's all get just get naked and enjoy ourselves.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

As for the race thing, and I by no means speak for all black men, we'd like to be considered as people first, men second. That's it. Just as equals.

Exactly! as it should be