Are you shy

[Pearls]

When it comes to showing someone you’re interested, do you go all out or drop subtle hints?
Do you drop that first message or do the nerves get the better of you?

If I speak for myself, I tend to go for subtle ? yes yes I know you’re all thinking bullshit but it’s true. His nibs will always know if I have an eye on someone just by the little things that he picks up on and he’ll drop a little question in about that person just to let me know that he sussed me out ? he doesn’t miss a trick ? when it comes to messaging I kind of wait, maybe the snobbery in me is thinking, they’ll message if they’re interested.. It hasn’t worked often ? so maybe I should just get in there ?

Over to you x

 

[Lips_Pearls]

When it comes to showing someone you’re interested, do you go all out or drop subtle hints?
Do you drop that first message or do the nerves get the better of you?

If I speak for myself, I tend to go for subtle ? yes yes I know you’re all thinking bullshit but it’s true. His nibs will always know if I have an eye on someone just by the little things that he picks up on and he’ll drop a little question in about that person just to let me know that he sussed me out ? he doesn’t miss a trick ? when it comes to messaging I kind of wait, maybe the snobbery in me is thinking, they’ll message if they’re interested.. It hasn’t worked often ? so maybe I should just get in there ?

Over to you x

What, like I did earlier in the week? ??? xx

I think shyness is a good thing from a lady. From men it’s usually fake tbh.
Oh woe is me crap. ?
Genuinely shy though, it’s a good thing I think. It’s not a bad thing by any means.
I’m shy too. X

 

[Pearls]

What, like I did earlier in the week? ??? xx

I think shyness is a good thing from a lady. From men it’s usually fake tbh.
Oh woe is me crap. ?
Genuinely shy though, it’s a good thing I think. It’s not a bad thing by any means.
I’m shy too. X

I bloody knew it, I was subtle

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I bloody knew it, I was subtle

I know. Xx

 

[Pearls]

I know. Xx

 

[NotSoFireproof]

What, like I did earlier in the week? ??? xx

I think shyness is a good thing from a lady. From men it’s usually fake tbh.
Oh woe is me crap. ?
Genuinely shy though, it’s a good thing I think. It’s not a bad thing by any means.
I’m shy too. X

I think the thing is that the "woe is me" attitude isn't shyness, it's usually those who think that they're entitled to sex. XD

I've met some genuinely shy blokes and it can be kind of sexy!

 

[NotSoFireproof]

When it comes to showing someone you’re interested, do you go all out or drop subtle hints?
Do you drop that first message or do the nerves get the better of you?

If I speak for myself, I tend to go for subtle ? yes yes I know you’re all thinking bullshit but it’s true. His nibs will always know if I have an eye on someone just by the little things that he picks up on and he’ll drop a little question in about that person just to let me know that he sussed me out ? he doesn’t miss a trick ? when it comes to messaging I kind of wait, maybe the snobbery in me is thinking, they’ll message if they’re interested.. It hasn’t worked often ? so maybe I should just get in there ?

Over to you x

I tend to give people the wrong impression because I'll flirt with everyone, but I'm really quite shy when I fancy someone. XD

 

[Pearls]

I tend to give people the wrong impression because I'll flirt with everyone, but I'm really quite shy when I fancy someone. XD

Me too ?

 

[Tiger]

This is a good one, am I shy? It’s a matter of perception! I think ?

Tiger xx

 

[Pearls]

This is a good one, am I shy? It’s a matter of perception! I think ?

Tiger xx

What perception ?

 

[Deleted member 19022]

Some days I can be shy to the point you would'nt know I was in the room. Other days you would wish I wasn't in the room. Some people I find it hard to chat with then, with others it's like I have known them all my life. Definitely helps being on a website that is as friendly as this one as the ice is already broken.

 

[Tiger]

What perception ?

Different people see you in different ways!
To one person I’m the cat in the hat, the top banana, to another they may see me as shy!

I am shy really I am.

Tiger xx

 

[Skippy01]

I'm definitely shy x

 

[NotSoFireproof]

I'm definitely shy x

I'll make sure I come and say hi in Cardiff! ?

 

[Guru G]

I’m shy I like to keep my ladies on their toes constantly

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

When it comes to showing someone you’re interested, do you go all out or drop subtle hints?
Do you drop that first message or do the nerves get the better of you?

If I speak for myself, I tend to go for subtle ? yes yes I know you’re all thinking bullshit but it’s true. His nibs will always know if I have an eye on someone just by the little things that he picks up on and he’ll drop a little question in about that person just to let me know that he sussed me out ? he doesn’t miss a trick ? when it comes to messaging I kind of wait, maybe the snobbery in me is thinking, they’ll message if they’re interested.. It hasn’t worked often ? so maybe I should just get in there ?

Over to you x

Im the least subtle person you,ll probably meet ,its in my nature to be forward , so im not averse to telling someone

 

[mrclouse]

From men it’s usually fake tbh.

I’m shy too. X

>.> .....
im shy in person

 

[Therapon]

Im the least subtle person you,ll probably meet ,its in my nature to be forward , so im not averse to telling someone

So I've noticed

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

So I've noticed

Hey i told you , you were meeting me didnt i

 

[Therapon]

Hey i told you , you were meeting me didnt i

I think you made that point fairly clear

 

[Pearls]

>.> .....
im shy in person

You didn’t shut up,when I met you ???

 

[Colin]

Iam shy if i like someone i try to comment on there posts in a flirty way but would not make the first move unless been in convasation with them a few times then i may make a move

 

[Guru G]

You didn’t shut up,when I met you ???

Call him out on his shit

 

[mrclouse]

You didn’t shut up,when I met you ???

Call him out on his shit

slander here Slander, next you'll be telling people I'm not as innocent as I claim to be.
but i do think I'm shy approaching new people tbh

 

[fincon]

When it comes to showing someone you’re interested, do you go all out or drop subtle hints?
Do you drop that first message or do the nerves get the better of you?

If I speak for myself, I tend to go for subtle ? yes yes I know you’re all thinking bullshit but it’s true. His nibs will always know if I have an eye on someone just by the little things that he picks up on and he’ll drop a little question in about that person just to let me know that he sussed me out ? he doesn’t miss a trick ? when it comes to messaging I kind of wait, maybe the snobbery in me is thinking, they’ll message if they’re interested.. It hasn’t worked often ? so maybe I should just get in there ?

Over to you x

When I was more active on the scene, I was of course more upfront in showing interest and…

No.

I can’t do it. I mean, sure, like anyone else, I occasionally leave stuff out but I at least try not to bullshit just forthe sake of it.

So, no, I was never upfront about it, I was never even subtle. Picture ‘non existent’. I never quite got over the whole outside-the-scene attitude of “women get so many approaches that the last thing they want is an approach from one more single fella that they’re not interested in.”

I kind of worked on a daft attitude of ‘unless the approach is actively welcomed, it’s positively offensive‘. I’d far rather have left an evening with someone thinking

I had a lovely evening but I wish he’d tried to fuck me

rather than

I had a lovely evening until he tried to fuck me

Notable exception: at a club or spa when the rules changed and things were looser.

But when I used to go to socials or even a social that develops into more…? No. Was just never my style.

(Why, yes, I have been single and celibate for years, why do you ask?)

Another notable exception: 1 to 1 chats that develop organically into something more…