Ask Yourself...

[80sbabe]

Why am I hear.........

I started my venture into the swinging scene around 10 years ago. It wasn't until recently I got involved in the social side of Swinging I now ask myself why did I not and I've missed out on all those years.
I was introduced to this site by a very close friend (couple) and can't thank them enough.
To me this site is amazing.... full of friendly welcoming people. I have made some amazing friendships here, some that I would now class as practically family (you know who you are)

I don't get the time to be on here as much as I would like due to life commitments but I would defend this site like it was my own.

The staff do an amazing job and deserve all the credit they get.

Long live HMS - SS :mwah:

Why am I hear.........

I started my venture into the swinging scene around 10 years ago. It wasn't until recently I got involved in the social side of Swinging I now ask myself why did I not and I've missed out on all those years.
I was introduced to this site by a very close friend (couple) and can't thank them enough.
To me this site is amazing.... full of friendly welcoming people. I have made some amazing friendships here, some that I would now class as practically family (you know who you are)

I don't get the time to be on here as much as I would like due to life commitments but I would defend this site like it was my own.

The staff do an amazing job and deserve all the credit they get.

Long live HMS - SS :mwah:

I'm just jumping in on the end of this to agree!
I'm super glad that you introduced me to SS after the Festival of Fun xxx

 

[80sbabe]

Everyone has been fabulous to me from my very first day and I also can't believe I waited so long to join this site!!
I laugh out loud everyday at some funny comment or other on here and I love seeing all the amazing pics of everyone!
I take my hat off to you Admin girls & boys (except I'm not wearing one, so I'll take my bra off instead!!!) xxx

 

[Deleted member 3411]

Everyone has been fabulous to me from my very first day and I also can't believe I waited so long to join this site!!
I laugh out loud everyday at some funny comment or other on here and I love seeing all the amazing pics of everyone!
I take my hat off to you Admin girls & boys (except I'm not wearing one, so I'll take my bra off instead!!!) xxx

No no...let me help with that bra

 

[80sbabe]

No no...let me help with that bra

Too late - it's off!!

 

[Deleted member 3411]

yay

 

[Deleted member 4901]

I only wish I had more free time to see you all. Group hug!

Loving all the positivity.

 

[Baldrick]

So we both discussed this and have found it quite difficult to come up with a response (yes it surprised us too).

Why are we here?

Well I know why we joined.... To observe and have a nosey. We think that's evolved now but into what? We're not sure.
We want to be here. We like it here. The staff and most members seem to at least tolerate us .

We do try and avoid conflict as much as possible and remain light hearted. Baldrick is better at this than Kaz (Kaz sometimes needs nudging to not get involved) but we are all only human and we can all say the wrong thing and put our foot in it sometimes.
If we do contribute it's usually to politely say we agree or disagree and we try to remain respectful (again we are only human and we may have failed once or twice), or maybe we try to offer unwanted advice or our thoughts.

Hmmmm we're losing ourselves in our own ramblings now. We have been writing, deleting, rewriting over and over.

Keep smiling.
If in doubt look in the gallery. It puts a smile on our faces anyway

BNK
Xxx

 

[DiamondJoe]

I'm only here for the popcorn...

 

[louise1970]

... Why am I here!
@Admin and @Pearls have invested a shed load of time and money into this site so that we have something better than f*b and other such places...
I am the most guilty of all.. Or was.. When it came to attacks, or defending this site..
I hated cock profiles.. Hated non pv accounts.. Hated stupid avatars and avatar names.. Hated everyone actually and attacked them all..
I found that I was the problem so I left... It was the right thing to do at the time..
I am still as passionate about this site as I was when it first started...
So what has changed?
Me!

I am here to meet people and to help the site grow..
I do my best to have fun in the forums and struggle.. But strive to hold back on my negativity... But double trouble is what @Admin named us almost immediately...

As a newbie seeing attacks and negativity in the forums what will they think?
Will it help the site grow?

Most of you are not aware how many people we bring to the site as we promote externally.. But we don't always bring the right people..
Some people... Like us... Will have a history or ties to another site.. So comparison is inevitable but frustrating for others..

Ask yourself why you are here...
Ask yourself why you are on other sites..
Remind yourself of the difference between them and focus on the site you are currently on... As we do..
As for the people that bug the shit out of you... Block them.. Report them.. But don't publicly rant about them... It's the wrong message...
Yes I have been guilty of it in the past... But I realised my stupidty and took a 6 month break....
Just breathe before reacting...
XxxBibaxxX

May I say what a refreshing thread x

 

[louise1970]

Why am I here. ....
Well I was on a site before joining Ss and I must say cattle market springs to mind and the experience was not a pleasant one....since joining Ss firstly let me say without the time the hours the fantastic @Lips_Pearls the brain's behind this site working along side them are are wonderful team of moderators that do this not for money or personal gain but because there is the social side which you meet alot of lovely couples ladies and gents which some become life long friends as well as experiencing the swinging side and forfill the sexual fantatasies you would like to experience...we are here for different reasons but it also takes you away from the stresses n strains of your normal life and other personal issue you are all no doubt experiencing too..I join not just for the swinging side but to meet people like myself and some you meet become friends for life too and I must say all that i have chatted too over the past year I am humbled and made a few friends for life and one that I'd be lost without no name needs to be mentioned.let Ss thrive and continue to be the success it is xx

 

[No longer with us]

Why am I here?

For fun.

That's it, really. Sometimes I have fun in the Forums, sometimes in direct messages, sometimes in Chat.

So far, not met anyone from the site outside the site, but that's fine; that ceased to be a thing for me when I realised how few active people on the site there are anywhere near me. (And if that was or had ever been A Problem for me, I'd have left the site.)

 

[The-Gent]

well I was here to meet new friends like minded but seems to be a bit closed shop these days ?

 

[Deleted member 1030]

well I was here to meet new friends like minded but seems to be a bit closed shop these days ?

Closed shop? In what way?

 

[BoltonBiFemCpl]

Why are we on this site - Well we first joined as a couple we know from another site invited us. We have only ever chatted about meeting with 1 couple but we thought they might well be fakes. We did at 1 point have an issue with the site and left for a few months whist we decided if we actually wanted to be on here. Must say if it had not been for admin keeping in touch with us I don't think we would have retuned. We have returned but try to keep a rather lower profile these days but still manage to give admin a few headache's by coming up with bright ideas and some not so bright ideas for the site. As for the couple we used to chat to they vanished whist we took a break and full PV came into force so we can only assume that our fake radar was working fine. We still use another site and tbh we have never had a problem on it but it seems the fakes have taken over the place but we keep finding little hidden gems from time to time so for now we will use this for the social aspect and the other for the fun stuff.

 

[Firm hand Luke]

I may have been a bit naive with my Google search, I was looking for a bunch of golfers to hang out with registered myself here based on the name of the site. It was all going swimming well, I was amazed that so many people had registered holes-in-ones and there wasn't one person that didn't love a birdie!
A social was suggested at what I thought was a odd name, Chameleons? Never played there I thought, so off I went where I was promptly asked to remove my clothes and don a skimpy little towel, well I say skimpy it was enough to cover the essentials, it was a bit chilly I might add.
Then I realised it wasn't a golf club, it was a swingers club, so I thought ah well, when in Rome!

 

[Admin]

Why are we on this site - Well we first joined as a couple we know from another site invited us. We have only ever chatted about meeting with 1 couple but we thought they might well be fakes. We did at 1 point have an issue with the site and left for a few months whist we decided if we actually wanted to be on here. Must say if it had not been for admin keeping in touch with us I don't think we would have retuned. We have returned but try to keep a rather lower profile these days but still manage to give admin a few headache's by coming up with bright ideas and some not so bright ideas for the site. As for the couple we used to chat to they vanished whist we took a break and full PV came into force so we can only assume that our fake radar was working fine. We still use another site and tbh we have never had a problem on it but it seems the fakes have taken over the place but we keep finding little hidden gems from time to time so for now we will use this for the social aspect and the other for the fun stuff.

Thank you. I did try and we spoke often. I didn't want you to leave and knew that it was pretty much imminent.
I'm glad you stayed and that you took on board what I said and of course the chats we had, which were great too.

What I will say to all is, and I know I sound like a stuck record - but we are getting there. It's not as easy as people think to get the numbers in, but we're getting there and slowly but surely members are joining and more are staying.
That's only a good thing of course. We work extremely hard to get rid of wasters and fakes.... we can't guarantee 100% it won't happen, but we have put as many barriers in place to get rid of them.
Alas, Rome wasn't built in a day and whilst we don't have the competition in quality and safety et al, we have a lot of competition with other sites and their numbers.
But, again, we will get there and we are not going anywhere as a site.
x

 

[Mel007]

well I was here to meet new friends like minded but seems to be a bit closed shop these days ?

Not a closed shop... it's about how you present yourself ... like in life . You get out of this site what you put into it.. so ask yourself the question .. what am I putting into it? This site is full of people who respond ... to hello... to good mornings ... to postings .. WHO EVER you are . Xxx those are my thoughts and abservations .xxxxxx

 

[Deleted member 1030]

Not a closed shop... it's about how you present yourself ... like in life . You get out of this site what you put into it.. so ask yourself the question .. what am I putting into it? This site is full of people who respond ... to hello... to good mornings ... to postings .. WHO EVER you are . Xxx those are my thoughts and abservations .xxxxxx

Blimey Mel, calm down xx
In fairness, @The-Gent has been a regular poster, since he joined - a bout of illness not withstanding.

 

[Mel007]

Blimey Mel, calm down xx
In fairness, @The-Gent has been a regular poster, since he joined - a bout of illness not withstanding.

So what did you mean by closed shop the @The-Gent

 

[Deleted member 3657]

Not a closed shop... it's about how you present yourself ... like in life . You get out of this site what you put into it.. so ask yourself the question .. what am I putting into it? This site is full of people who respond ... to hello... to good mornings ... to postings .. WHO EVER you are . Xxx those are my thoughts and abservations .xxxxxx

I seem to have found some who don't.

 

[Mel007]

I seem to have found some who don't.

Then move on and react to those who do . Xxx

 

[The-Gent]

Blimey Mel, calm down xx
In fairness, @The-Gent has been a regular poster, since he joined - a bout of illness not withstanding.

Hi i dont wish to be rude but I have in the past got involved made contact but very few have returned the gesture. I am happy to talk to peeps who talk to me. But how a close friendly site can have a facility to block just any one is sad. If peeps are a problem then deal with them. This is just an opinion only 90% of the peeps who do take the trouble to answer are fabulous. I do say im not perfect.I do enjoy your site but a healthy view is good.

 

[The-Gent]

Please nobody take offence I am merely pointing out things whilst rare do happen

 

[Therapon]

We have a block button because unfortunately in real life things happen and if you cannot block someone then the only other choice maybe to leave the site. We are all different and we can't all get along with everyone so the option is there if needed.
It would be great if this option was never required but the reality is different.

 

[The-Gent]

We have a block button because unfortunately in real life things happen and if you cannot block someone then the only other choice maybe to leave the site. We are all different and we can't all get along with everyone so the option is there if needed.
It would be great if this option was never required but the reality is different.

I understand but its a shame that all your vetted members are not totally trusted. I for one if a ladies says please dont message me, well in conformity I would not! I just find it uncomfortable when blocked for no reason ! when we are all here to meet and greet so to speak.