Confidence Is Shot

Hi both hope your ok, Julie done a post called where do you get your confidence from, have a read you may well find your not alone. N&J xx

We get you like and emotional tide it ebbs and flows but that doesn't make the ebbs any easier to deal with. it will come back but in the meantime just do your best to enjoy each day

Vanezza said:

Hello all you lovelies hope your all well. Just wanted to pop in and say I am well and doing OK. I lost my way for a bit and confidence and belief in myself went but it is coming back slowly. Still going to not be around much at all as it is still a work in progress but I'm getting there. BTW if this is the wrong thread to put it in please move it to somewhere more suited lol.



Vxxx

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Hiya both.
You know, only last week @Pearls and I were discussing some things about you actually. We’d noticed a change over the last few weeks and we were wondering what it was, now we know obviously.
So suffice to say that we’d most definitely noticed a change. Neil doesn’t seem to be on here much either lately too. So whatever has happened, we both hope you get it sorted and back on track ASAP.

As with everyone else really, we all take knocks and get some hard times in all aspects of life. Swinging however can be serious and have detrimental and damaging effects when your confidence gets knocked, sometimes can be in the most meanest of ways too.
You’re not alone, we all have experienced it one way or the other with this lifestyle and all we can say is; it will get better and you will get over this.
You both know where we are if you need us.
You’ll also find that everyone will be as supportive as they can be as we’ve all mostly had the same issues before.
Take care and take all the time you need. X

Hey guys, we hope your both well considering your post ! Rest assured your really not alone in how you feel, we too have both had our confidence knocked and as a result have taken a step back from the lifestyle, site infact everything over the last couple of months, this has been a good thing in one respect but it's also been a negative thing, you see we haven't been "active" in the life since March and this has lead us both to start questioning things again, we take two steps forward and three steps back some days !! So for now we're just taking it one day at a time, talking to each other and seeing where our journey takes us, the one saying I always live by is; what's for you won't go by you !! So take your time and see where your path leads you both

Xxxx

Hey both.

We hope you both well and feeling the confidence come back to you. I'm not the best at writing uplifting articulated inspirational guidance so I will simply say "You are by far the best pair of fun fruity nutcases that I have ever had the pleasure to cross paths with and I hope to see your bubbly bouncy personality (as well as other bouncy bits ) around the site again soon"

B x

Vanezza said:

Thank you all I'm getting there, Neil is fine it's just me at the min. Neil isn't a big online talker and likes his games so all good there. I have just lost the me I became doesn't help that most times lately that my sex drive has gone awol and tbh it's been getting me down and all this don't help really. So a back seat has been taken to get me back to being me again. I feel I can't talk sexy if I'm not feeling it. I will bounce back eventually and @Lips_Pearls and everyone really thank you love you all so much

Vxxx

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Sometimes V the sex drive can disappear for us all. These things just happen. But I know what you mean about not feeling sexy and and not being able to pretend that you do.
I'm sure you'll find your mojo again and you know where we are if you need someone to talk to.

B x

V, my confidence is never big but swinging gave me lots more, but I know how you feel. As a man we are expected to make the moves just as outside this scene and I often wish others would make the moves so didn't have to. I'm quite a shy person and it doesn't take much to knock me back. That said I'm resilient so battle my demons rather than let them win. So long as you are true to yourself all will turn around and you'll soon be buzzing again
Ste x

Glad you're getting there hun. Don't worry things like this happen. It takes a while for confidence to build up, only for sometimes it be shot back down. We all go through stages like this. We go through periods where our sex drive goes AWOL, and feeling sexy is the last thing on your mind, but it does come back, you have someone who loves you and we're all here if you need us. You do whats right for you hun, but keep your chin up, and cheekyness going! S xxxxx