Conflict Of Interest Maybe?

[Lips_Pearls]

There was a thread I'd been meaning to start to see how people respond to how others interact on here but just didn't get around to it.
However after reading this thread by @BoltonBiFemCpl -- Information From Forums I feel it can be posted as it's quite poignant to Mr B's thread really...

So does the way some people interact with others on the site, either by their personalities alone or how they mingle with others, affect your decision to show interest and chase anything up?

I.E you may not be keen on (example) Couple4Fun, but Sexy Sally - mingles a lot with them and you've both shown a mutual interest to each other...

If people you are keen on meeting (and vice versa) mix/meet with people you are not interested in and even dislike - will that dictate if you try and meet or even would it affect repeat meets in the future for you? x

 

[BoltonBiFemCpl]

How people are generally would attract or repel us big time. As for who is friends with who we would not care so long as we don't have to have anything to do with them. In all cases we would normally be the ones to back off or shut up as the case maybe.

 

[Deleted member 6684]

I am here to judge based on interests I get when I interact with someone. I don't care what their other likes are.
My policy has always been -be nice and courteous to me, I take equal interest in you (or the two of you). If someone acts pricey, I could care less even if they are super attractive.

Unless, I have to be in a situation where all of us are in one place and need to play..it doesnt really bother me.

 

[DiamondJoe]

Yes, if someone gave the impression that they're a total bell end based on their forum performance - no matter how attractive or how many Twitter followers they have - it's a good filter.

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

I had this a few years back on another site ,a couple were interested in meeting but I foolishly judged them by another cple they had met who were less than quiet about their conquests as they called them , so put I off meeting them , until I attended a club and they were there , to say they are lovely is an understatement and its taught me to never judge another person/s profile or who they meet , id rather meet in person to judge for myself

 

[Therapon]

No is the simple answer. As I said in the other thread I do form a mental image of people by their posts, but who they interact with doesn't bother me nor would it stop me from wanting to meet them. Why should it, it's not as if I would be meeting the others as well.
If there was someone I wanted meet and they chat with another person I didn't like I accept that - I might not like it but I can't dictate to people who they should chat to or meet, trying to do that is going to cause problems.

 

[Baldrick]

Nah not really is the short and sweet answer. Just like in real life. I can't stand some of kaz's mates but I wouldn't let it put me having my end away with her.

Blunt yorkshireman answer

B x

 

[Lovernotfighter]

If someone's being a dick in the forum's or in comments then of course I'd probably not want to meet them or interact with them that much, if someone's protecting or explaining away someone else's dickishness then yeah I'd be wary, as I would be with drama lamas (lucky they doesnt seem to be any here really).

I don't know what else to add really.

 

[Deleted member 3657]

If people you are keen on meeting (and vice versa) mix/meet with people you are not interested in and even dislike - will that dictate if you try and meet or even would it affect repeat meets in the future for you

Yes and has.

 

[Wheels]

I think everyone judges to a certain extent anyway on looks etc as to whether you would like to take it further. I personally don't have a problem if someone I would like to meet socialised or met with someone I didn't get on with (hasn't happened on this site) but that isn't to say that people don't like or get on with me.

I am aware that I wont be liked by everyone and I wont like everyone. But I can be civil and make my opinions based on how they interact with me only.

 

[Looby&Lew]

I'm not going to speak for Lew but this is my stance. Who people meet is entirely down to them and I would not necessarily not meet them because they have met someone I don't like. The only thing that may change this as a consideration is the discretion of the people involved. As we like to keep the details of our meets private then I expect the same. If I thought this might be jeopardised in some way then I would think again.
I also make decisions to meet people based on how they interact in the forums and whether their sense of humour fits with mine.

 

[No longer with us]

In this, I think I apply the same rules in here (or in this scene) as I would in ‘real life’. Sure, I’ve friends who are in turn friends with people I don’t like, or in some cases actively dislike. But I don’t get to tell other people who to be friends with, and they don’t get to tell me who to be friends with.

The only - I think - exception, big stonking exception, to that is and would be if their friend had somehow done the dirty on me, had personally betrayed a confidence say... if they stayed friends with them after that, I’d not even give someone an ultimatum: I’d make it easy on them and cut off contact.

 

[BoltonBiFemCpl]

My good lady has just informed me we have cut someone off before now for who they associated with. The couple in question we met very early on when they first joined this lifestyle but we noticed they had gone over to the dark side that is barebacking so we deleted everything we could that associated them with us and sent them a nice e-mail stating why and they just replied OK and blocked us.

 

[StokeChoke]

I was always taught “don’t judge a book by its cover” I have always lived by this and I can’t lie I’ve been caught out a few times in RL and in Swinging.

There are people on her that I’ve not yet met in person and come across a bit approachable but I’m still looking forward to meeting them in person because you never know

Now if a couple or single lady I’m interested in is very friendly with someone I don’t get on with or like then no it wouldn’t stop me trying to get to know then.
If they were all at a club together then I would be my usual polite self

I also believe everyone deserves a second chance

 

[Lips_Pearls]

My good lady has just informed me we have cut someone off before now for who they associated with. The couple in question we met very early on when they first joined this lifestyle but we noticed they had gone over to the dark side that is barebacking so we deleted everything we could that associated them with us and sent them a nice e-mail stating why and they just replied OK and blocked us.

Yeah I think that’s easily done. It’s tricky sometimes having interaction with someone if they’re heavily involved with someone you’re not keen on or have a dislike to.

 

[Sammy]

I would agree with @Baldricknkaz in every walk of life we meet folk that we dislike and folk that really can't stand

Can I be polite in social setting
Yes of course I can

Would I cancel a meet with a member because I didn't like their company - no I wouldn't

Like @Looby&Lew i would expect discretion.

I know I am like marmite love me or hate me but I'd hate to think Folk would judge my friend because of my behaviour
X

 

[BoltonBiFemCpl]

We would not cut them off in the real world but when it comes to this lifestyle then too right we would its too intimate for us not to do so. The fact they started meeting bare backers was wayyy too far off the mark for us.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

We would not cut them off in the real world but when it comes to this lifestyle then too right we would its too intimate for us not to do so. The fact they started meeting bare backers was wayyy too far off the mark for us.

Yeah that's risky within itself - as in, bringing in the risks to your own marriage and well being. Dangerous!
Some great replies in here though!

 

[Lips_Pearls]

There was a thread I'd been meaning to start to see how people respond to how others interact on here but just didn't get around to it.
However after reading this thread by @BoltonBiFemCpl -- Information From Forums I feel it can be posted as it's quite poignant to Mr B's thread really...

So does the way some people interact with others on the site, either by their personalities alone or how they mingle with others, affect your decision to show interest and chase anything up?

I.E you may not be keen on (example) Couple4Fun, but Sexy Sally - mingles a lot with them and you've both shown a mutual interest to each other...

If people you are keen on meeting (and vice versa) mix/meet with people you are not interested in and even dislike - will that dictate if you try and meet or even would it affect repeat meets in the future for you? x

I’ve been looking for this thread and am pleased to have found it. There’s another I want to find too related to the same thing.
What is poignant and on my mind currently is, whether the influence of others, affects your judgment of other people? With that, does it mean you then go with the flow rather than determine things for yourself? X

 

[Dangerous690]

I’ve been looking for this thread and am pleased to have found it. There’s another I want to find too related to the same thing.
What is poignant and on my mind currently is, whether the influence of others, affects your judgment of other people? With that, does it mean you then go with the flow rather than determine things for yourself? X

Not really I’m very flexible,but I do expect there is some cases where certain others rub each other up? not the right way? Only human us?? Lips_Pearls is this on the same wavelength as your thread? Make sure I’m revels the ? ?lol

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Not really I’m very flexible,but I do expect there is some cases where certain others rub each other up? not the right way? Only human us?? Lips_Pearls is this on the same wavelength as your thread? Make sure I’m revels the ? ?lol

Yep you’ve got it. ??

 

[Dangerous690]

Yep you’ve got it. ??

??that’s good?? sometimes it takes a while for the penny to drop! ??

 

[Deleted member 16044]

I’ve been looking for this thread and am pleased to have found it. There’s another I want to find too related to the same thing.
What is poignant and on my mind currently is, whether the influence of others, affects your judgment of other people? With that, does it mean you then go with the flow rather than determine things for yourself? X

No way into influenza people who blow hot n cold you don't know where you are at.
Respect is all we need and love life

 

[Deleted member 16044]

I’ve been looking for this thread and am pleased to have found it. There’s another I want to find too related to the same thing.
What is poignant and on my mind currently is, whether the influence of others, affects your judgment of other people? With that, does it mean you then go with the flow rather than determine things for yourself? X

Wrong to judge anyone sadly that labelling of people is a poor disrespectful way
Respect and love

 

[Deleted member 16044]

I’ve been looking for this thread and am pleased to have found it. There’s another I want to find too related to the same thing.
What is poignant and on my mind currently is, whether the influence of others, affects your judgment of other people? With that, does it mean you then go with the flow rather than determine things for yourself? X

Be good to everyone
Never hold a grudge
Love life