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DebE

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25 February 2022
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In bygone days...on other sites, there was no connection...i felt that just made you feel cheap.
On here...yes. Whether that connection be based on general chit chat, or through sexual chat banter or both. It all helps to develop a rapport with who ever you plan on meeting.
Im not saying looks dont matter...because youve got to be attracted to someone to want to meet with them x
 
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In bygone days...on other sites, there was no connection...i felt that just made you feel cheap.
On here...yes. Whether that connection be based on general chit chat, or through sexual chat banter or both. It all helps to develop a rapport with who ever you plan on meeting.
Im not saying looks dont matter...because youve got to be attracted to someone to want to meet with them x
Agreed xx
 
17 August 2021
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Unfortunately, I have never gotten that far .
Never met anyone that would even consider me.
So, I'm atrracted to anyone who will talk to me or meet me.
The only connection I would need is that they responded to my email.
I dont need an attraction or a connection.
 
17 September 2020
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Unfortunately, I have never gotten that far .
Never met anyone that would even consider me.
So, I'm atrracted to anyone who will talk to me or meet me.
The only connection I would need is that they responded to my email.
I dont need an attraction or a connection.
Welcome to my world friend
 
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Do you feel you need a connection to want to meet someone or is just attraction enough? I’m at the stage where beggars can’t be choosers

I've always been a fussy bugger. I need both. I also know that while I may think someone is OK after chatting on a videocall, I can be disappointed on an actual meet. Instant wilt. Occasionally I just know that someone is going to be OK and I'm right, but I always meet with no commitment for the first time.

With a couple, I need to have an attraction with the lady and respect for both. It won't work for me if I don't respect them (this can arise from the way they treat each other).

Guess who has ever tried Cuckolding with humiliation? Or who doesn't want to?
 
25 February 2016
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No, you just need to fancy the person and if they fancy you, go for it
By fancy, I guess you mean to find them physically attractive? I know lots of physically attractive women but I don't fancy them. I also know a few women who you would not class them as physically stunning. From my point of view they can be as stunning as hell, because it's the way they are, not how they look, that makes them attractive. I think I could probably take 3 or 4 viagras and still not be excited by Naomi Campbell because I don't like her personality.

This is what having an attraction is all about (well, to me it is).
 

Vanezza

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This is a silly question.
We all know, male or female, who we would like to have sex with as soon as seeing them and in some cases just talking to them. The attraction and connection comes later after actually talking to them.

If you have fun sex and go your separate ways then it's a lovely memory, If you "Connect" then consider them a partner or a friend.

Why is this a question at all? It's built into us as humans.

N xxx
 
17 August 2021
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This is a silly question.
We all know, male or female, who we would like to have sex with as soon as seeing them and in some cases just talking to them. The attraction and connection comes later after actually talking to them.

If you have fun sex and go your separate ways then it's a lovely memory, If you "Connect" then consider them a partner or a friend.

Why is this a question at all? It's built into us as humans.

N xxx
Because we are human we respond to social cues, want to fit in with others, dont want to upset the group, etc. Many people are afraid of getting hurt or how others will judge them so they resist the temptation to have sex on first sight.
Requiring a connection protects them.
At least, they belive it does.
If society treated women the same way it treats men, women would act like men and have sex with anybody.
But, society says men can sleep around, women can't.
And if men stopped circling women like wolves circling a wounded bunny, women would behave differently.
 
25 February 2016
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Because we are human we respond to social cues, want to fit in with others, dont want to upset the group, etc. Many people are afraid of getting hurt or how others will judge them so they resist the temptation to have sex on first sight.
Requiring a connection protects them.
At least, they belive it does.
If society treated women the same way it treats men, women would act like men and have sex with anybody.
But, society says men can sleep around, women can't.
And if men stopped circling women like wolves circling a wounded bunny, women would behave differently.

I wouldn't say requiring a connection protects anyone. It's merely a start the the chemistry, but a connection can be instant or it can grow as you spend (sometimes little) time with them.

I agree entirely with what you say about women being treated equally by society 👍
 
17 September 2020
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This is a silly question.
We all know, male or female, who we would like to have sex with as soon as seeing them and in some cases just talking to them. The attraction and connection comes later after actually talking to them.

If you have fun sex and go your separate ways then it's a lovely memory, If you "Connect" then consider them a partner or a friend.

Why is this a question at all? It's built into us as humans.

N xxx
Because sex with someone without a connection is shit
 
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This is a silly question.
We all know, male or female, who we would like to have sex with as soon as seeing them and in some cases just talking to them. The attraction and connection comes later after actually talking to them.

If you have fun sex and go your separate ways then it's a lovely memory, If you "Connect" then consider them a partner or a friend.

Why is this a question at all? It's built into us as humans.

N xxx
I wouldn’t say it’s silly actually. With this, you can definitely have fun without a connection. Physical attraction is fine without connection. You can still have a fun 3sum or more - without any form of connection but a physical attraction. The main issue with that being, is all 3 need to have that attraction.
Does a connection help? Most likely, or even undoubtedly.
Have to have some sort of spark there, whether that be from bouncing around the forums or in PM’s.
I think it’s quite a valid question- especially or even more so for singles.