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Do You Think Or Consider...

Therapon

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As I'm ancient in swinging terms I would say 35+ for me but it's not set in stone. As it's been said above it would depend on their maturity and how we got along.
 
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.Jophanie.

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Lips_Pearls said:
consider is a suitable age for swinging
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..... having come back to this thread (and similar) a few times.... I personally would like to gently bump it into room 101....
The reasoning behind this action is;
Majority of people say I wouldn't swing with someone under the age of... And then put a caviat on of..... But if the chemistry was there I would...
I personally can not fathom how people wipe out "x" people with one hand and then leave the door "ajar" with the other.......
#foodforthought
 
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Ahabs

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Oh that's simple: they have a rule that with every will in the world they intend to keep, not anticipating the day they would bump into that one person they absolutely would love to shag... only to find out that person broke their criteria. So they "compromise" as an exception.
 
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Ahabs

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But to be fair as far as ages go, I use it more as a "guide" rather than hard rule: I typically say "25-60", but to say anyone outside these are a "no-no", but rather, I view it this way:
  1. I worry about girls under the age of 25, particularly their maturity: too many times I've interacted with a girl (under age 25) who claims to want something, I'm happy to comply (within reason), she then finds out she made a mistake and did not want that at all, then blames ME for it.
  2. Considering I typically don't ask people their age when I meet them, I naturally assume they are:
  • (s) young enough to be swinging without physical assitance from others (....I know, that sounds worse than intended and makes me look ahorrible human being,... but I just can't do it... sue me...lol)
  • (b) old enough to get into a 21+ club, but preferably 25 and above.

Generally nothing set in stone.
 
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fincon

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I think it’s fair for anyone to say ‘I don’t think I’d…’ and then replace that later with ‘I never thought I’d… but then…’

And if that’s fair, then I’d suggest it’s equally fair to leave a little… wiggle room, just in case.

After all, if you’d have asked me a couple of decades ago if I’d ever be in this scene, I’d have said a firm no.
 
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Therapon

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Ahabs said:
t to be fair as far as ages go, I use it more as a "guide" rather than hard rule: I typically say "25-60", but to say anyone outside these are a "no-no", but rather, I view it this way:
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I'd agree, mine is a guide, nothing more but I'd prefer to have some idea of what I want in my mind rather than have no idea at all. Swinging is like any other social interaction where people mix with those they like and try to avoid those they don't.
 
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fincon

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Nicely put.

My own ‘limits’ have definitely blurred over the years I’ve been around this scene, but yes, your attitude - online, strict limits; club/social-that-delelops-into-something, flexible limits - is not uncommon from my experience.

The only possible caveat, I’d say, has been when I’ve become friendly with someone online, someone outside what I’d say were my age limits, and something develops organically, naturally, so that the age limit becomes less important than the fact that we very both obviously turn each other on.

And at that point, the age limit if not evaporates, then at least becomes less important.
 
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Louise94


I can’t speak to the importance of age in the lifestyle as I’m still finding my way.

In my, admittedly, limited experience, I’ve known folks in their 40s/50s who act like teenagers and I’ve known folks in their early twenties with an enviable amount of grace and maturity.

For me, age isn’t an issue, it’s about the person and the connection. I also don’t have children and I couldn’t say how I’d feel in that kind of scenario.

I can totally understand some people’s uncertainty with people in the early/mid twenties, I am still learning about what I want and like. I can lack confidence and become unsure in a lot of situations. I’m likely to change my mind a lot and probably make some mistakes but I guess we’ve all got to start somewhere.

Xxx
 
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