My first experience was through another site, since defunct. I had arranged to meet a younger couple at a pub. We met but after a short time they got a little nervous, so the three of us moved on to a different pub. We chatted over a drink and talked about various things while we decided if we were 'compatible'.
They were new to swinging too but we soon agreed we should go back to their house, where we sat and chatted some more in the lounge. I felt a bit odd as they were continuously checking their mobile phones and, when I asked about it, they told me that if they didn't keep them switched on and answering their texts his psycho mate was likely to take a strop and come round and kick their front door in, regardless of the time of day or night.
I really should have listened to the alarm bells in my head but I was partly distracted by his hand down the front of her track pants and her hips moving as she became more and more aroused as he played with her. It was pretty clear that she wanted to go upstairs to the bedroom right away, but he seemed a bit hesitant.
Eventually, though, we all went up and undressed and got into their bed. I'd expected that they would switch their phones off but they kept looking at them and responding to texts. Despite this, she really enjoyed the attentions of her partner and me together and had several loud and wet orgasms. I also enjoyed her touching me but I couldn't think sufficiently beyond their texting to really get into it.
After a while, after playing with her while he penetrated her, I was offered my turn. Sadly, I still couldn't get past my concerns about the phones (still on and IN the bed) or the idea that some nutter might kick the door in at any time. I couldn't bring myself to do proper justice to the occasion... so I made my apologies and left.
Not really the most auspicious start to my journey, I know, and I regretted not listening to my intuition earlier. I also think it didn't help that we were all completely new to this kind of situation.
So there we are - my first innept and hasty stumble into the world of swinging. On the up side, I've had some wonderful experiences since then... so at least not everything that starts shakily has to continue that way.