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EmmettFTM
Okay, so what can I say that my profile already hasn't? There are many misconceptions about transgendered people and I find that my inbox often explodes with those who are curious as to 'how things work'.
I am a trans man. Just to be clear, being transgendered is the same as sexuality; you can't choose it or change it, regardless of how many times people claim that they can 'cure' you. For example, I knew I was a male at the age of 4. When I was asked what I wanted to be when I grew up I gave only two answers; that I wanted to be a boy and that I wanted to be a 'motorbiker'. I knew I liked girls early on and I was 7 when I had my first crush on the girl that lived on my street. If we'd play any kind of role games, I would insist on being the male, like a big brother or the dad.
I remember at the age of 16 crying in bed at night knowing that I would never become a father. I know now that there are options for this but 100% biologically, it would never be truly possible. It's one of the things that kills me to know that I can't give the woman I love something that she wants so badly.
For a long time, I questioned my thoughts of being trans because of my sexuality (bisexual) and it's only recently that I discovered that these are two very different things. I know of two trans men who are gay and are in the process of transitioning (taking testosterone, gender reassignment surgery etc) and are in a relationship together. It took me a while to get my head around this but finally it all clicked after a lot of research. But before all of that, I did try to change and fit into what society expected of me and all I did was hurt myself and others around me. It just didn't work. In any aspect of life it is always best to be yourself. It may be difficult for others to accept but you are you and they should love you for who you are.
Being transgendered doesn't necessarily mean that you have to change. Myself, for example, am 100% physically female, however, my mentality and persona just don't match my body. I haven't taken the step of taking testosterone shots for my body and voice to change but I use other methods to stop the feelings of dysphoria pushing in. I currently use a sports bra/binder to hold down my chest while using such items as packers or strap ons to replace what I feel should already be 'down there'. As I've said on my profile, guys, imagine someone cut your cock off and you're pretty much where I am in my mind.
I'm in a very loving relationship with a woman who is bisexual and considers me to be male. We both class it as a straight relationship. She wants me to find out what the swinging world has to offer trans men in particular as when we both attend club meets etc we would like to know that it is safe for us. This boils down to a past experience that I once had when I was 18; My girlfriend at the time and I were having a quiet drink in a bar and a group of guys roughly in their late 30's sent out some pretty aggressive vibes towards us. We finished our drinks and left and they followed. We ended up being chased down an alley where there was no way out and they grabbed her and me promising to 'teach us a lesson' for being 'what we are'. Luckily one of them had a bit of a conscience and said it might be best to leave us alone. I managed to get them to leave her alone and let her go home. I practically crawled away from my 'lesson' with a broken rib, bloodied and bruised at the hands of these six 'men'. I'm just thankful that they never laid a finger on my girlfriend. The next day I was at work wearing a skirt with make up plastered on my face trying to pretend as though nothing had happened.
Times have definitely changed and people are more accepting of sexuality and trans people, however, you can never tell. In all fairness though, when joining up with swinging sites, I've had nothing but praise and encouragement. I am open, honest and genuine and I'm hoping that over time I can build up my profile to show the real me and help to make the subject less taboo. I am more than happy to answer any questions you may have. At the end of the day, I had to ask the same things to get where I am today and it's the same conversation that I had with my girlfriend when we first started dating. Nothing ever shocks me anymore so please don't think that you're being 'out of line' or 'weird' just from asking.
Happy swinging guys and I look forward to meeting you all.
Emmett xx
I am a trans man. Just to be clear, being transgendered is the same as sexuality; you can't choose it or change it, regardless of how many times people claim that they can 'cure' you. For example, I knew I was a male at the age of 4. When I was asked what I wanted to be when I grew up I gave only two answers; that I wanted to be a boy and that I wanted to be a 'motorbiker'. I knew I liked girls early on and I was 7 when I had my first crush on the girl that lived on my street. If we'd play any kind of role games, I would insist on being the male, like a big brother or the dad.
I remember at the age of 16 crying in bed at night knowing that I would never become a father. I know now that there are options for this but 100% biologically, it would never be truly possible. It's one of the things that kills me to know that I can't give the woman I love something that she wants so badly.
For a long time, I questioned my thoughts of being trans because of my sexuality (bisexual) and it's only recently that I discovered that these are two very different things. I know of two trans men who are gay and are in the process of transitioning (taking testosterone, gender reassignment surgery etc) and are in a relationship together. It took me a while to get my head around this but finally it all clicked after a lot of research. But before all of that, I did try to change and fit into what society expected of me and all I did was hurt myself and others around me. It just didn't work. In any aspect of life it is always best to be yourself. It may be difficult for others to accept but you are you and they should love you for who you are.
Being transgendered doesn't necessarily mean that you have to change. Myself, for example, am 100% physically female, however, my mentality and persona just don't match my body. I haven't taken the step of taking testosterone shots for my body and voice to change but I use other methods to stop the feelings of dysphoria pushing in. I currently use a sports bra/binder to hold down my chest while using such items as packers or strap ons to replace what I feel should already be 'down there'. As I've said on my profile, guys, imagine someone cut your cock off and you're pretty much where I am in my mind.
I'm in a very loving relationship with a woman who is bisexual and considers me to be male. We both class it as a straight relationship. She wants me to find out what the swinging world has to offer trans men in particular as when we both attend club meets etc we would like to know that it is safe for us. This boils down to a past experience that I once had when I was 18; My girlfriend at the time and I were having a quiet drink in a bar and a group of guys roughly in their late 30's sent out some pretty aggressive vibes towards us. We finished our drinks and left and they followed. We ended up being chased down an alley where there was no way out and they grabbed her and me promising to 'teach us a lesson' for being 'what we are'. Luckily one of them had a bit of a conscience and said it might be best to leave us alone. I managed to get them to leave her alone and let her go home. I practically crawled away from my 'lesson' with a broken rib, bloodied and bruised at the hands of these six 'men'. I'm just thankful that they never laid a finger on my girlfriend. The next day I was at work wearing a skirt with make up plastered on my face trying to pretend as though nothing had happened.
Times have definitely changed and people are more accepting of sexuality and trans people, however, you can never tell. In all fairness though, when joining up with swinging sites, I've had nothing but praise and encouragement. I am open, honest and genuine and I'm hoping that over time I can build up my profile to show the real me and help to make the subject less taboo. I am more than happy to answer any questions you may have. At the end of the day, I had to ask the same things to get where I am today and it's the same conversation that I had with my girlfriend when we first started dating. Nothing ever shocks me anymore so please don't think that you're being 'out of line' or 'weird' just from asking.
Happy swinging guys and I look forward to meeting you all.
Emmett xx
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