I’ve just joined.

[Pearls]

Yep, here I am, genuine single female and completely new to the swinging site and scene. I’m nervous even a little scared just like anything that’s unfamiliar, daunting. I’ve already done my research and found SS.
On arriving I receive a welcome email from the site, a link showing me various steps on how to do things.
I get a welcome off staff and after reading everything I set about trying to create my profile. I also see there is a link to verify my account. I definitely want people to know I’m who I say I am so off I go to complete that.
Now I’m ready to look about the place, check out others, try to join in and hopefully be accepted into a new community. Looks good so far and I can’t wait to get meeting.

Perfect.
What a shame this wasn’t the case for some ladies here. Think what it’s like to be new to something.
Along with @Miss-Sexy-Legs we both keep an eye on new females joining, we know exactly what it’s like and can be of good support which is always welcomed.
So guys, take a breath and don’t dive in when a lady joins bombard her with fancy a chat message leave her settle in, complete the steps mentioned above because all you are doing is scaring them off.
Don’t be a fucking dick. Be a gent and have some respect.
Right now I’m trying to keep a lady on this site due to this very problem amongst a few others but hearing how she was treated when joining..... You moan women don’t hang around well don’t be a dickhead and scare them off.

 

[Tiger]

@Pearls I 100% agree

Tiger xx

 

[MyKinkyWorld]

I'm with you on that.
Mr. Kinky

 

[Colin]

Totaly agree then it stops them thinking its just like the other sites. Gentlemen do yourself a favour give them time to settle in i know if i was a woman just joining i would certainly remember the people who bombarded me with requests to get them off and either block or put them way way down the list. So gents its up to you pester new ladies and watch them disappear or wait and watch the single ladies list grow.. You Know It Makes Sense...

 

[mrclouse]

agree getting spammed isnt nice...

 

[Guru G]

You haven't just joined though seen you here yesterday ?

 

[Kwaka_Rider]

I'd better rethink my opening line of "fancy a shag?"

 

[Kwaka_Rider]

But seriously I do agree with you @Pearls , a "hi and welcome" should suffice initially then hopefully they'll feel more welcome and inclined to stay and join in, then and only then once a little raport has been built should any kind of pm or approach be made. Wouldn't fucking do it in a pub or club so why here?

 

[uk2002]

I'd better rethink my opening line of "fancy a shag?"

Smoothie

and do you go up to a lady in bar and flop it on the table as well

 

[uk2002]

Smoothie

and do you go up to a lady in bar and flop it on the table as well

Banned from so many places because of that

I mean there's no commandment saying you can't do that in the church is there

 

[Kwaka_Rider]

Smoothie

and do you go up to a lady in bar and flop it on the table as well

Sssshhhh don't give all my secrets away

 

[MP386]

Yep, here I am, genuine single female and completely new to the swinging site and scene. I’m nervous even a little scared just like anything that’s unfamiliar, daunting. I’ve already done my research and found SS.
On arriving I receive a welcome email from the site, a link showing me various steps on how to do things.
I get a welcome off staff and after reading everything I set about trying to create my profile. I also see there is a link to verify my account. I definitely want people to know I’m who I say I am so off I go to complete that.
Now I’m ready to look about the place, check out others, try to join in and hopefully be accepted into a new community. Looks good so far and I can’t wait to get meeting.

Perfect.
What a shame this wasn’t the case for some ladies here. Think what it’s like to be new to something.
Along with @Miss-Sexy-Legs we both keep an eye on new females joining, we know exactly what it’s like and can be of good support which is always welcomed.
So guys, take a breath and don’t dive in when a lady joins bombard her with fancy a chat message leave her settle in, complete the steps mentioned above because all you are doing is scaring them off.
Don’t be a fucking dick. Be a gent and have some respect.
Right now I’m trying to keep a lady on this site due to this very problem amongst a few others but hearing how she was treated when joining..... You moan women don’t hang around well don’t be a dickhead and scare them off.

Hello and welcome to SS have fun and enjoy the ride....newbie

 

[CocoDD]

Messages are always lovely to receive but I see the points made. My first message within five mins of joining was
Hello my name is ..... what you looking for and wanna chat!
When I didn’t reply immediately then got another asking how I’m finding the site!
That was on top of another five to ten messages off others.
It is confusing trying to work things out and I don’t think I’ve got there yet either so a little time helps. I know guys are keen but desperation isn’t an attraction I would go for.

 

[MP386]

So there seems to be 2 sides to a coin , I do send hello messages,nothing specific just a hopefully nice welcome to the site , if I get a reply I will continue the messages to help ease them in .... if I don’t get a reply that’s where I leave it ....
the flip side is people have often asked if there is anyone actually using the site , which some apparently for what ever reason don’t see it as a busy site ....
I know it’s a fine line but if someone joins and receives nothing because people are sitting back waiting until they settle in , they will probably feel the site isn’t active and move on ...
As for desperation not sure I agree with @CocoDD yes blokes will always be keen if a lady joins there aren’t that many that do so your always going to be inundated.... there is an old saying “he who snoozes looses “ ok some messages which are to in your face to start aren’t necessary and unwelcome , this subject has been discussed before from memory and not sure if there is an answer other than blocking all messages to new members for a cooling off period ... but will it drive them away equally??

 

[Guru G]

I get the same problem constant messages off women on here really overbearing.

 

[MP386]

I get the same problem constant messages off women on here really overbearing.

Lucky you

 

[Guru G]

Lucky you

Women dont consider mens feelings mp

 

[uk2002]

Smoothie

and do you go up to a lady in bar and flop it on the table as well

Obviously that was a slapstick comment and follows the same lines as the old 'Get your coat you've pulled'
and was to make a point as to how stupid some people are (you only have to take the last 6-months as proof)
People should be allowed to settle in get their bearings and hopefully allay any worries about the site and find that it is well run by the Morlocks behind the scenes

'

 

[uk2002]

Women dont consider mens feelings mp

We don't have feelings
we're knuckling dragging cretins from a sub-species

 

[Guru G]

We don't have feelings
we're knuckling dragging cretins from a sub-species

Agreed ??

 

[CocoDD]

So there seems to be 2 sides to a coin , I do send hello messages,nothing specific just a hopefully nice welcome to the site , if I get a reply I will continue the messages to help ease them in .... if I don’t get a reply that’s where I leave it ....
the flip side is people have often asked if there is anyone actually using the site , which some apparently for what ever reason don’t see it as a busy site ....
I know it’s a fine line but if someone joins and receives nothing because people are sitting back waiting until they settle in , they will probably feel the site isn’t active and move on ...
As for desperation not sure I agree with @CocoDD yes blokes will always be keen if a lady joins there aren’t that many that do so your always going to be inundated.... there is an old saying “he who snoozes looses “ ok some messages which are to in your face to start aren’t necessary and unwelcome , this subject has been discussed before from memory and not sure if there is an answer other than blocking all messages to new members for a cooling off period ... but will it drive them away equally??

It’s ok to disagree babe but maybe you wouldn’t if you saw some of the messages I received ?

 

[Guru G]

It’s ok to disagree babe but maybe you wouldn’t if you saw some of the messages I received ?

Treat em mean keep em keen I thought soz coco

 

[mrclouse]

It’s ok to disagree babe but maybe you wouldn’t if you saw some of the messages I received ?

its true to be honest i can imagine how shitty messages you'd get, back in the day of a certain add site had still had personal section ignoring the fakes even guys knowing the add was looking for a female would send messages on a m4w l. not saying those guys are on this site but well ONE we are a dime a dozen, and TWO if every guy sends a Hi just think of how many messages that is? AND three seriously think about how desperate people are normally not just when they have been on lockdown or not able to meet

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

Yep, here I am, genuine single female and completely new to the swinging site and scene. I’m nervous even a little scared just like anything that’s unfamiliar, daunting. I’ve already done my research and found SS.
On arriving I receive a welcome email from the site, a link showing me various steps on how to do things.
I get a welcome off staff and after reading everything I set about trying to create my profile. I also see there is a link to verify my account. I definitely want people to know I’m who I say I am so off I go to complete that.
Now I’m ready to look about the place, check out others, try to join in and hopefully be accepted into a new community. Looks good so far and I can’t wait to get meeting.

Perfect.
What a shame this wasn’t the case for some ladies here. Think what it’s like to be new to something.
Along with @Miss-Sexy-Legs we both keep an eye on new females joining, we know exactly what it’s like and can be of good support which is always welcomed.
So guys, take a breath and don’t dive in when a lady joins bombard her with fancy a chat message leave her settle in, complete the steps mentioned above because all you are doing is scaring them off.
Don’t be a fucking dick. Be a gent and have some respect.
Right now I’m trying to keep a lady on this site due to this very problem amongst a few others but hearing how she was treated when joining..... You moan women don’t hang around well don’t be a dickhead and scare them off.

Agree 100% with you it can get ridiculous at times and if this is the first site some join then doubly so .
What annoys me the most is the persistance of some ,they see the message as been read but not replied to so they send another pm ,or more .
My first few days here were mostly spent in pms trying to fend off persistant persons practically demanding a meet ,its off putting and i took a step back for a while ,
So LADIES and some COUPLES if you feel its getting too much for you contact an ADMIN we can help you through your journey on site to be an enjoyable experiance .

 

[Colin]

Could @Admin make it so new single females dont get pm messages for a certain time but are able to send a message to someone and then the reciever can answer might save a lot of people flooding the newie with messages