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Insult Or Flattery?
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If someone was stupid enough to pay me an obscene amount of money for a night of sex then who am I to say no?
However it’s never going to happen so I’ll continue to put out for free or if I’m lucky, for a rum n coke and a bag of chips.
However it’s never going to happen so I’ll continue to put out for free or if I’m lucky, for a rum n coke and a bag of chips.
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And you have not even seen what I have planned for the smoked sausage yet.x
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If someone wishes to pay for the aforementioned things that is his or her prerogative , as long as it is to enjoy your company ..that does not mean it's a "contract " for sex.
I am old school in that I like to open doors for women , pull out a chair , let the woman order first at a meal etc etc...i do not think that I am being anti feminist as that is/ was not my intention ... If I enjoy doing those things ..without any obligation on the part of the woman or the man ..why can't I...
There is a clear distinction between people who "buy a girl / boy " a drink and expect sth in return and someone who does it because they are just out enjoying themselves in good company
Playing devil's advocate here :mwah:
What if we turn that discussion around.
Some women may look on the fact that a man is so sexually attracted to her that he's willing to pay hard earned cash to sleep with her as a massive compliment. Others, of course, would be offended. But how many of these "offended" women will quite happily accept, or in many cases expect, a guy they meet at the bar to buy her drinks all night. Now, nobody is saying that entitles the guy to expect anything in return but WHY does the woman feel she's entitled to free drinks all night?
Could it not be said that either consciously or subconsciously (and sorry but I suspect it's the former in the majority of cases) she's using her sexuality to exploit the guy.
Regarding your statement that you're happy to buy a woman drinks all night for the pleasure of her company with no ulterior motive (and please don't take offence here) I have to question whether you'd be so generous if it was a guy you were talking to.
A little story to illustrate my point.
A few years ago I'd arranged to meet my girlfriend at a club. I arrived about half an hour after her. She was chatting, quite innocently with a couple of guys she met there whilst she'd been waiting for me. In that time they'd bought her a couple of drinks. She told me they were nice guys and she didn't think for one minute they were trying to hit on her. It was absolutely no problem for me as I trusted her implicitly but I smiled at her and asked if she thought they would have bought my drinks if it was me they'd met. She smiled back at me and said no she didn't suppose they would have
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Ssssshhhhhh I quite like old school , I'm definitely strong independent woman but adore a gentleman with manners
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Oooooooo this thread is bubbling all sorts to the surface!!!! Good work @Antogs x I will pen my thoughts!
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Just so we all know where I stand on this. If anybody and I mean anybody on this site wants to pay one million pounds to sleep with me and have me to themselves for one night, I will quite happily grin and bear it.
Just for the record Kaz says she will quite happily sacrifice me for a night for an equal share in my million
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Just for the record Kaz says she will quite happily sacrifice me for a night for an equal share in my million
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It's quite simple for me, if you want to pay for sex then visit a brothel.
If a gentleman wants to take a lady out then happy days.
Going halves or what ever you call it is something I'm not familiar with but if it floats your boat then fine, I'm just an old fashioned girl.
If a gentleman wants to take a lady out then happy days.
Going halves or what ever you call it is something I'm not familiar with but if it floats your boat then fine, I'm just an old fashioned girl.
A very good point .. part of the whole process is being attracted to that person..be it physically or mentally.. I love a woman (I'm hetrosexual btw ) who has intellect .. no fun in meeting someone with whom you can't talk too.it still does not mean I "expect " anything, nor does it mean that a woman taking with you has "gifted " you any advantages ... Flirting is fun .. does not imply any further action ..
Playing devil's advocate here :mwah:
What if we turn that discussion around.
Some women may look on the fact that a man is so sexually attracted to her that he's willing to pay hard earned cash to sleep with her as a massive compliment. Others, of course, would be offended. But how many of these "offended" women will quite happily accept, or in many cases expect, a guy they meet at the bar to buy her drinks all night. Now, nobody is saying that entitles the guy to expect anything in return but WHY does the woman feel she's entitled to free drinks all night?
Could it not be said that either consciously or subconsciously (and sorry but I suspect it's the former in the majority of cases) she's using her sexuality to exploit the guy.
Regarding your statement that you're happy to buy a woman drinks all night for the pleasure of her company with no ulterior motive (and please don't take offence here) I have to question whether you'd be so generous if it was a guy you were talking to.
A little story to illustrate my point.
A few years ago I'd arranged to meet my girlfriend at a club. I arrived about half an hour after her. She was chatting, quite innocently with a couple of guys she met there whilst she'd been waiting for me. In that time they'd bought her a couple of drinks. She told me they were nice guys and she didn't think for one minute they were trying to hit on her. It was absolutely no problem for me as I trusted her implicitly but I smiled at her and asked if she thought they would have bought my drinks if it was me they'd met. She smiled back at me and said no she didn't suppose they would have
I love a gent with manners.... Which has before included buying drinks/dinner, opening doors, the works! However me being me have always reciprocated and offered to go split bills, take the guy out etc. But...... In that being said, saying I have not used my sexuality to my advantage (especially during the uni days) would be a lie. I knew what I was doing. I never made promises of anything else. In my experience gents have been quick to ''buy" my attention, and I do not think for one minute the majority did so without hoping it would also "buy" my affection!! Even in writing this area is grey and fuzzy!
Still exists as far as I'm concernedWhat ever happened to old fashioned chivalry
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An attractive women ..or an attractive guy . Attractive does not always mean "beauty " it could be a funny man ,a funny woman ..someone who makes you smile / laugh...
I normally pay .if the woman wishes to meet again .. and wants to pay ..then we agree .. I'll pay for mains and she can pay for desserts or vice versa. . even then nothing is expected or implied ..it's just having fun.. if both want to go further ..then that is their choosing ..If they just wish to enjoy each others company
platonically then so be it... Each person is having fun... Getting away from the daily "grind "
I loved going to the VA .. no one expected anything ..met lots of great members ..being there did not imply that we were "available "
it is all about consensus between adults
What ever happened to old fashioned chivalry
As I said I was playing devil's advocate.
It's very natural for me to hold doors open for ladies, pay for their drinks and most importantly make sure they cum first
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As I said I was playing devil's advocate.
It's very natural for me to hold doors open for ladies, pay for their drinks and most importantly make sure they cum first
If you can ..hold off.. then that my friend is a good skill... Most chaps cum...and it's zzz time ..put a woman first ... Most women in my experience can come several times ..for me it's not about "cumming " but enjoying every second ..and that means ..not coming till the lady is satisfied ..
If you can ..hold off.. then that my friend is a good skill... Most chaps cum...and it's zzz time ..put a woman first ... Most women in my experience can come several times ..for me it's not about "cumming " but enjoying every second ..and that means ..not coming till the lady is satisfied ..
Or ladies ..wink wink ...not been there yet ..but there is still time
Would I have sex with someone for a million pounds? Probably 
if it's nsa and Lew agreed then why not? It's never likely to happen and I'm honest enough to admit to being mercenary if there is a million pounds at stake.
Do I or have I ever had any expectation that a man will wine and dine me for free? No I do not. I've always had an amount of financial independence and it matters to me that I do. Do I expect a man to hold a door open for me? No I have expectations that if it's appropriate to hold a door open then any man or woman would do that out of good manners. I'm grown up enough to open my own doors. I sometimes think we are in danger of getting too hung up on what we expect of men. My one expectation is that all people will have good manners and whilst I know this is never likely to be the case I appreciate it wherever it comes from but I certainly don't take it for granted x
if it's nsa and Lew agreed then why not? It's never likely to happen and I'm honest enough to admit to being mercenary if there is a million pounds at stake.Do I or have I ever had any expectation that a man will wine and dine me for free? No I do not. I've always had an amount of financial independence and it matters to me that I do. Do I expect a man to hold a door open for me? No I have expectations that if it's appropriate to hold a door open then any man or woman would do that out of good manners. I'm grown up enough to open my own doors. I sometimes think we are in danger of getting too hung up on what we expect of men. My one expectation is that all people will have good manners and whilst I know this is never likely to be the case I appreciate it wherever it comes from but I certainly don't take it for granted x