Let's Talk About Sex...

24 November 2015
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You are a winner in my book..my daughter and I have a very open relationship when it comes to talking about sex...but hand on heart don't think I could tell her I am a swinger?? Why is that


In all honesty people are all different in what they discuss with family , I never had parents from the age of five so it was a case of learn as you go along in life, in and out of care homes ,all the different kids with some not so pleasant lives make you look on life so differently
 
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My kids know everything about me. Well... the clean bits. My greatest win as a parent was having a frank discussion about sex and protection. She now uses condoms despite having an implant. My win. Her mum is not so tolerant of the openness. She never enjoyed talking openly about sex.

My own sex education was not so much a realisation as a fact of life. Aged 7 I was abused by a relative. It pretty much covered the basics. My friends filled in the rest. Mum and dad never spoke about sex. Apart from the day when I took my girlfriend for dinner aged 17 and after a debate about homosexuality being the cause of aids spreading, he stood up, threw his dinner at the wall and announced that homosexuality is a disease and needs to be cured.
 
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My kids know everything about me. Well... the clean bits. My greatest win as a parent was having a frank discussion about sex and protection. She now uses condoms despite having an implant. My win. Her mum is not so tolerant of the openness. She never enjoyed talking openly about sex.

My own sex education was not so much a realisation as a fact of life. Aged 7 I was abused by a relative. It pretty much covered the basics. My friends filled in the rest. Mum and dad never spoke about sex. Apart from the day when I took my girlfriend for dinner aged 17 and after a debate about homosexuality being the cause of aids spreading, he stood up, threw his dinner at the wall and announced that homosexuality is a disease and needs to be cured.
Wow what a share... So sad to read this, abuse is so common within families.... feel your pain ... stay strong xx
 
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14 February 2017
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My childhood was spent being ridiculed for having big boobs, then I used to get all manner of crude comments from my Dad and his mates. Sex was never discussed as it should be. Was always made out to be something dirty and sordid. I was always told touching yourself was wrong, it was dirty and grotesque.
I've struggled with that most of my adult life until the last few years I guess.
I've always been open with my children about sex and protection. I have even had the talk with many of their friends who's parents had failed them. I think it's important that kids today know that sex is good, it's fun and should be enjoyed but it's also important to teach them protection and why they need it.
I would hope that by teaching all of the above they then learn respect for themselves and their partners xx
 
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I'm OK. Honest. I was just being frank about it. There is still a massive amount of detachment from it. I guess that was more shocking than I meant it to be.
 
18 October 2015
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Growing up my parents were very open about every subject. There was nothing that was taboo and couldn't be discussed. However, and it makes me smile to this today, those slightly more sensitive subjects for discussion always started with 'help me do the washing up'. I think it was because you could have the conversation but avoid the awkward eye contact if you wanted to. Either way I was very fortunate being brought up in a loving household and despite difficult times with my daughter as a teenager my kids will both talk openly to me so I must be doing something right. Looby xx
 
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My parents never ever spoke to me about sex until my mum found condoms in my room...I was 16 and she grounded me. So there was no well done for being safe or a frank discussion it was just a punishment.
I was then 18 when I had my son even though I was on the pill...so that's how my discussion started with my son when he went secondary school. I was honest with him and told him I didn't want him doing anything without wearing a condom and then when he got a serious girlfriend I had the conversation with both of them, she was shocked that I was so honest and open. I've thought my son that women are not just things to screw and move on to the next and that he has every much the responsibility to use protection and it's not just about getting a girl pregnant.
When he got his current girlfriend I bought a box of condoms and have them to him and he was just like mum I've got my own and I said good have some more.
I'm so very glad that I've bought him up in this way as I hope when the day comes he will be the same xx
 
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MickeyBlueBalls

My father was fairly open about sex. Nothing else to add really. My father was cool as and was/ is still a great role model.
 
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The_Bibas

Hmmmmmmm
After showing my boobs at age 12 to get free sweets.. Being voted the girl most likely to rape a man in school... By the teacher... I have to say that I am rather prudish about the whole subject..

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