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Lips_Pearls

19 March 2015
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Uber swingers.
Love them or hate them, they're everywhere. You know the type; won't respond to posts, threads, profile posts, won't reply to anything and everything - UNLESS, they are in your clique, have met you or only circle in your circle/clique.

Message us if you want to meet.

Does this grate you? Does it bother you?
Maybe it does, maybe it doesn't...

But they exist. (you exist) Yes, you. The ones who view things, think on things, but don't respond to things unless your friends do because you "know them". So what do we do about the coffee shop?
Coffee Shop Or Market?
How do you feel about Uber Swingers but most of all how do you stop/prevent it, after all, you won't break their circle? (you know, where they met and made friendships)

Maybe, just maybe, cliques and uber swingers are not for the scene/lifestyle anyway and should go their own way on whatever chat app they use anyway?
Over to you x
 
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Therapon

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11 August 2015
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Ok my personal thoughts on this.

We have spoken about it more than once, we have seen cliques form and then the fallout when it goes pear shaped, the effect on both the site and individuals.
Forming a friendship is one thing, forming a friendship to the exclusion of anyone else on the site, in my personal opinion, goes against the basic ethos of this site, they are the unsocial swingers, the ones who erode others confidence and don't care. Those little groups of people, the pretentious swingers who cannot possibly be wrong and are not prepared to listen to anyone else because everyone else is wrong. And then they contradict themselves and their own advice a few days later.
I've seen it happen, seen the petty jealousy. I've seen the results, they would be better off taking their style of swinging to a site that suits their style.
 
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Looby&Lew

18 October 2015
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If I see things like 'message us if you want to meet' I avoid like the plague. At one time I would have thought we won't be good enough but now I think they won't be good enough. It smacks of arrogance and vanity which are two of the most awful traits in people. I can't connect in that way so these days it would be a no from me or in other words 'go #$%# yourself' only you will ever be good enough for you....

Too strong?

No I don't think so...
 
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Lips_Pearls

19 March 2015
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We share the same sentiments x
 
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Lips_Pearls

19 March 2015
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Looby&Lew said:
I thought we might....we have similar outlooks
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Indeed we do. You’re so right about this;
Looby&Lew said:
At one time I would have thought we won't be good enough but now I think they won't be good enough. It smacks of arrogance and vanity which are two of the most awful traits in people.
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It’s amazing how things can change in time and how we gain hindsight isn’t it? Obviously due to prior experiences xx

Looking4fun said:
Cute picture xx
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I can see him grinning from here x
 
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GeoffRy

1 September 2018
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Lips_Pearls said:
Indeed we do. You’re so right about this;

It’s amazing how things can change in time and how we gain hindsight isn’t it? Obviously due to prior experiences xx


I can see him grinning from here x
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@Tiger grinning, really. I thought he was always grouchy and mean looking. Only kidding bud! Hes a happy soul.
 
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