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[Lips_Pearls]

Uber swingers.
Love them or hate them, they're everywhere. You know the type; won't respond to posts, threads, profile posts, won't reply to anything and everything - UNLESS, they are in your clique, have met you or only circle in your circle/clique.

Message us if you want to meet.

Does this grate you? Does it bother you?
Maybe it does, maybe it doesn't...

But they exist. (you exist) Yes, you. The ones who view things, think on things, but don't respond to things unless your friends do because you "know them". So what do we do about the coffee shop?
Coffee Shop Or Market?
How do you feel about Uber Swingers but most of all how do you stop/prevent it, after all, you won't break their circle? (you know, where they met and made friendships)

Maybe, just maybe, cliques and uber swingers are not for the scene/lifestyle anyway and should go their own way on whatever chat app they use anyway?
Over to you x

 

[Baldrick]

@Lips_Pearls You must know how tempted I am to respond to this thread right now, but I haven't had a Gin so I'll be a good lad

X

 

[Lips_Pearls]

@Lips_Pearls You must know how tempted I am to respond to this thread right now, but I haven't had a Gin so I'll be a good lad

X

Me? Moi!? I knows nuffin' x

 

[Antogs]

I'm not sure I fully understand this thread yet but I will keep my eye on it to see what I can learn as I am intrigued

Antogs xx

 

[Therapon]

Uber swingers.
Love them or hate them, they're everywhere. You know the type; won't respond to posts, threads, profile posts, won't reply to anything and everything - UNLESS, they are in your clique, have met you or only circle in your circle/clique.

Message us if you want to meet.

Does this grate you? Does it bother you?
Maybe it does, maybe it doesn't...

But they exist. (you exist) Yes, you. The ones who view things, think on things, but don't respond to things unless your friends do because you "know them". So what do we do about the coffee shop?
Coffee Shop Or Market?
How do you feel about Uber Swingers but most of all how do you stop/prevent it, after all, you won't break their circle? (you know, where they met and made friendships)

Maybe, just maybe, cliques and uber swingers are not for the scene/lifestyle anyway and should go their own way on whatever chat app they use anyway?
Over to you x

Ok my personal thoughts on this.

We have spoken about it more than once, we have seen cliques form and then the fallout when it goes pear shaped, the effect on both the site and individuals.
Forming a friendship is one thing, forming a friendship to the exclusion of anyone else on the site, in my personal opinion, goes against the basic ethos of this site, they are the unsocial swingers, the ones who erode others confidence and don't care. Those little groups of people, the pretentious swingers who cannot possibly be wrong and are not prepared to listen to anyone else because everyone else is wrong. And then they contradict themselves and their own advice a few days later.
I've seen it happen, seen the petty jealousy. I've seen the results, they would be better off taking their style of swinging to a site that suits their style.

 

[Crezy]

We would like to chat more and learn more

 

[Crezy]

But what do you say if you are new to this, to other people that have been Involved in this life style longer?

 

[Tiger]

But what do you say if you are new to this, to other people that have been Involved in this life style longer?

Just like with all walks of life! Be social, chat, get yourself out there!
The rest will follow!

Tiger xx

 

[GeoffRy]

Just like with all walks of life! Be social, chat, get yourself out there!
The rest will follow!

Tiger xx

Oh and wear a cool hat !

 

[Crezy]

Oh and wear a cool hat !

I do haha, hi

 

[GeoffRy]

I do haha, hi

Hi back. Everyone's cool hats fade into insignificance when @Tiger rocks up in the legendary hat. Lol

 

[Therapon]

But what do you say if you are new to this, to other people that have been Involved in this life style longer?

Be honest and tell them you are new, we all were at one time and hopefully any genuine swingers will help guide you through the newbie minefield. Pretend you are a seasoned swinger and you are soon found out.

 

[Tiger]

Oh and wear a cool hat !

Chuckle, that helps too, as long as you have the confidence to pull it off

 

[Crezy]

Hi back. Everyone's cool hats fade into insignificance when @Tiger rocks up in the legendary hat. Lol

I could ware mine for you

 

[Tiger]

Hi back. Everyone's cool hats fade into insignificance when @Tiger rocks up in the legendary hat. Lol

I’m the cat in the hat!
View media item 28776Or should that be Tiger Xx

 

[Looby&Lew]

If I see things like 'message us if you want to meet' I avoid like the plague. At one time I would have thought we won't be good enough but now I think they won't be good enough. It smacks of arrogance and vanity which are two of the most awful traits in people. I can't connect in that way so these days it would be a no from me or in other words 'go #$%# yourself' only you will ever be good enough for you....

Too strong?

No I don't think so...

 

[Lips_Pearls]

If I see things like 'message us if you want to meet' I avoid like the plague. At one time I would have thought we won't be good enough but now I think they won't be good enough. It smacks of arrogance and vanity which are two of the most awful traits in people. I can't connect in that way so these days it would be a no from me or in other words 'go #$%# yourself' only you will ever be good enough for you....

Too strong?

No I don't think so...

We share the same sentiments x

 

[Looby&Lew]

We share the same sentiments x

I thought we might....we have similar outlooks

 

[Looking4fun]

I’m the cat in the hat!
View media item 28776Or should that be Tiger Xx

Cute picture xx

 

[Tiger]

Cute picture xx

Thank you, glad you like it

Tiger xx

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I thought we might....we have similar outlooks

Indeed we do. You’re so right about this;

At one time I would have thought we won't be good enough but now I think they won't be good enough. It smacks of arrogance and vanity which are two of the most awful traits in people.

It’s amazing how things can change in time and how we gain hindsight isn’t it? Obviously due to prior experiences xx

Cute picture xx

I can see him grinning from here x

 

[GeoffRy]

Indeed we do. You’re so right about this;

It’s amazing how things can change in time and how we gain hindsight isn’t it? Obviously due to prior experiences xx


I can see him grinning from here x

@Tiger grinning, really. I thought he was always grouchy and mean looking. Only kidding bud! Hes a happy soul.

 

[Looking4fun]

Indeed we do. You’re so right about this;

It’s amazing how things can change in time and how we gain hindsight isn’t it? Obviously due to prior experiences xx


I can see him grinning from here x

Now he just needs to follow me xx

 

[Deleted member 11575]

We haven’t come across anything like this on here ...... xx

 

[Tiger]

Now he just needs to follow me xx

Consider it done

Tiger xx