I was going to update my status with the text below, but it occurred to me that it may be worth posting. So, for the single people in the lifestyle, at what point do you tell a potential new partner that we love to swing? Or, for the couples here, at what point in the relationship did you broach the subject? Here's what I was going to put in my status:
I am really happy, because I have met a woman who I really like (in an ordinary bar, not a swinging club). After knowing her for two weeks I decided it was the right time to tell her about my intimate/private/personal/swinging side and risk our new and blossoming relationship. If she is totally against it, better that we go our separate ways before we get too involved and risk the hurt. She listened intently, with interest and without judging, criticising or condemning me. She said she found it really interesting (and I think she found it exciting) and she also told me about an ex-boyfriend who she still currently meets just for sex. She was pleased that I understand that women have sexual needs as well as men, and that I don't condemn her, nor am I jealous, nor am I demanding that she ends that relationship. Who knows, maybe she has a voracious sexual appetite that's too much for me, and maybe I will need his help to keep her satisfied. So I am really happy and excited!
To me, sexual compatibility is extremely important, and hiding something as major as this from a prospective partner (because to me, it is major) is tantamount to lying. By talking about it too soon, we risk offending and/or losing a potential partner. By not approaching the subject at all, we risk losing a very pleasurable shared pastime.
So at what point do you (or did you) approach the subject, assuming you didn't meet in a swinging club?
I am really happy, because I have met a woman who I really like (in an ordinary bar, not a swinging club). After knowing her for two weeks I decided it was the right time to tell her about my intimate/private/personal/swinging side and risk our new and blossoming relationship. If she is totally against it, better that we go our separate ways before we get too involved and risk the hurt. She listened intently, with interest and without judging, criticising or condemning me. She said she found it really interesting (and I think she found it exciting) and she also told me about an ex-boyfriend who she still currently meets just for sex. She was pleased that I understand that women have sexual needs as well as men, and that I don't condemn her, nor am I jealous, nor am I demanding that she ends that relationship. Who knows, maybe she has a voracious sexual appetite that's too much for me, and maybe I will need his help to keep her satisfied. So I am really happy and excited!
To me, sexual compatibility is extremely important, and hiding something as major as this from a prospective partner (because to me, it is major) is tantamount to lying. By talking about it too soon, we risk offending and/or losing a potential partner. By not approaching the subject at all, we risk losing a very pleasurable shared pastime.
So at what point do you (or did you) approach the subject, assuming you didn't meet in a swinging club?
.
