Hi, 44 years old, been married for 15 to my lovely wife (41).Based in Merseyside, Uk.
And, shortly will be discussing the topic of going to a club/meet. ... Nervous as hell
if the walls go up, thats it..
I think i need to ask her to accompany me, to a club. I also need to be honest.
No point in her expecting a meal for two on a night out, to be taken on a surprise swinging club..
Our relationship is great, and, from what I have read, this could make it stronger, and even improve things. And hell, id love to see her with another lady.. she knows this lol.
I am not looking at this to just "get sex". There are plenty of other methods for that, if it was needed. I enjoy seeing her get pleasure, thats my thing really. we do enjoy porn together when we get chance. She loves watching my reaction to it. I dont really ask to put it on in the first place
She used to be pretty kinky, but since the kids, this decreased. I miss this so much, and, i dont think its that hard to unlock, its finding the correct key. We never minded "getting off" with each other when we were younger in front of anyone. Now, it can be "the kids will hear/see".
I feel a club, being Townhouse on the Wirral, will be the easiest. The hosts sound fantastic, and professional. I would have no second chances if a private meet turned out horrible. but is a club "in at the deep end"?
My thoughts are social at first, and observe. Im in no rush, neither will she. And, that might be all for a while. It would be great to be invited by friends, but.. it appears to be a secret lifestyle. I cant put a post out on FB asking for friends to take us lol.
We have kids, and kids have activities.. so time is scarce, but, i think its time to make an effort. This could be the game changer for us. Personally, i would like the social side. Between work/kids... there I don't get out. Once or twice a month would be fantastic.
Any child free weekends at the minute, we both flake out lol.. and enjoy the time without disturbance, or catch up on work.
What to do.....
And, shortly will be discussing the topic of going to a club/meet. ... Nervous as hell
if the walls go up, thats it..I think i need to ask her to accompany me, to a club. I also need to be honest.
No point in her expecting a meal for two on a night out, to be taken on a surprise swinging club..
Our relationship is great, and, from what I have read, this could make it stronger, and even improve things. And hell, id love to see her with another lady.. she knows this lol.
I am not looking at this to just "get sex". There are plenty of other methods for that, if it was needed. I enjoy seeing her get pleasure, thats my thing really. we do enjoy porn together when we get chance. She loves watching my reaction to it. I dont really ask to put it on in the first place
She used to be pretty kinky, but since the kids, this decreased. I miss this so much, and, i dont think its that hard to unlock, its finding the correct key. We never minded "getting off" with each other when we were younger in front of anyone. Now, it can be "the kids will hear/see".
I feel a club, being Townhouse on the Wirral, will be the easiest. The hosts sound fantastic, and professional. I would have no second chances if a private meet turned out horrible. but is a club "in at the deep end"?
My thoughts are social at first, and observe. Im in no rush, neither will she. And, that might be all for a while. It would be great to be invited by friends, but.. it appears to be a secret lifestyle. I cant put a post out on FB asking for friends to take us lol.
We have kids, and kids have activities.. so time is scarce, but, i think its time to make an effort. This could be the game changer for us. Personally, i would like the social side. Between work/kids... there I don't get out. Once or twice a month would be fantastic.
Any child free weekends at the minute, we both flake out lol.. and enjoy the time without disturbance, or catch up on work.
What to do.....
