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We're you nervous about having your body on show when you first went swinging?


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Hi guys - I didn't get to reply to this when you posted it but definitely had to come back and say, what an awesome pair you both are! Your wife looks AMAZING - you must be so proud and I hope she is too! Inspirational... Many happy times to come I'm sure xx

Oh trust us, we have many happy come times!
And thanks. She is a fabulous woman in many, many ways.
Xxx
 
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I am very conscious about my body I have been called a gorilla on more than one occasion the last woman I dated total refused sex until my back was smooth so that didn't last long also got a beer belly but not through drinking beer lol
 
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We too have had body image issues (both of us). As for me Looby I have spent most of my adult life on various diets and probably kept certain slimming clubs in business. However since being on here I barely give all the less flattering lumps and bumps a second thought. As others have said if you don't like what you see tough! Or don't look!! You have options :rofl::rofl::D
 
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We too have had body image issues (both of us). As for me Looby I have spent most of my adult life on various diets and probably kept certain slimming clubs in business. However since being on here I barely give all the less flattering lumps and bumps a second thought. As others have said if you don't like what you see tough! Or don't look!! You have options :rofl::rofl::D
;):love:........:cool:
 
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Yes I'm self conscious. I always want to know in my own mind that a guy I'm with knows what to expect and if he likes me, then he is in for a treat, pretty face, lovely soft skin.... Maybe still too much to worry about... He's in for a good sensuous romantic time from a giving woman. What more could he want?
 
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We've met many many people of all shapes and sizes, none of us are perfect, and those that think they are, usually (In our experience) are crap in bed anyway lol, but your missing the point, which is, we as Swingers are all after 1 thing, more sex, interesting sex, different sex, exciting sex, threesums, foursomes, even moresums, but sex.
As couples, we are not seeking love, or affection, as we have that with our current partners, and accordingly, its more than a visual image that makes for great sex, and memorable meets, its personality, wit, humour, and confidence, friendship and many other points too, but personal body shame should never enter into the equation.
You've already made the biggest decision ever in your adult sexual lives, to share yourself with other people, so your confidence is there, use it and enjoy, but never worry about your body, because as swingers, we are looking for a lot more than body image xxxx
 
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We've met many many people of all shapes and sizes, none of us are perfect, and those that think they are, usually (In our experience) are crap in bed anyway lol, but your missing the point, which is, we as Swingers are all after 1 thing, more sex, interesting sex, different sex, exciting sex, threesums, foursomes, even moresums, but sex.
As couples, we are not seeking love, or affection, as we have that with our current partners, and accordingly, its more than a visual image that makes for great sex, and memorable meets, its personality, wit, humour, and confidence, friendship and many other points too, but personal body shame should never enter into the equation.
You've already made the biggest decision ever in your adult sexual lives, to share yourself with other people, so your confidence is there, use it and enjoy, but never worry about your body, because as swingers, we are looking for a lot more than body image xxxx
(Mrs) Wow! Well that pretty much kicks us into shape! Well said and thanks for the feedback. *Walks across the room with chest puffed out!* xx
 
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Funnily enough this didn't bother either of us; we have been naturists for years and were quite used to strangers looking at our nude bodies. Naturists come in all shapes and sizes and we're certainly not beautiful people! Our first swinging experience was at La Chambre and we soon saw the people there didn't have porn star bodies, so we didn't feel at all self-conscious about getting nude and getting in among them.
 
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MickeyBlueBalls

Wow. Well that just about sums it up. So really, what we should do is encourage everyone to go swinging and get over their body issues. Let's start a movement!
I think one of the things that troubles me are the images that my boys are subjected to even with seemingly innocent Google searches - there's so much fakery out there. I don't want them to think that the first girl they get into bed with is going to be shaved, love anal play and cum over the face!! Sorry, Mummy rant over. Thankfully we're an open family and never shy away from discussing issues that some parents would feel uncomfortable with. Hopefully they'll be respectful, thoughtful adults when the time comes...
You sound like a lovely couple - exactly what we want to surround ourselves with when we do venture out
Best wishes
Me & Mrs
Feel your concern there. I caught my boy on a particular site and instead of of giving him a haircut I seized the opportunity to educate him on porno girls vs real girls. Obviously he was embarrassed at first but then asked a lot of questions to dispel the unrealistic myths about sex and women. . He actually thanked me afterwards which was a good thing. Hopefully he listened.
 
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meet_the_fockers

Some lovely open honest replies here.. thankyou.. for sharing.
Guess we all have certain hang-ups to a degree.. and insecurities...
Im sure i can actually tuck this once sveltte like belly into my knickers.. but they are lifes battle scars.. and a reminder of the beautiful sometimes trying.. little kevin and perrys i brought into this world :D
And I do sometimes have a hang up.. but i sincerely hope that freinds and playmates.. enjoy my company a cliche perhaps for the person i am..
Body beautiful people sometimes note i said, sometimes..
Have the personality of an ironing board. ;) xxx
Embrace yourselves be proud of who you are. Xxx
 
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Hell yea, I hate the way I look, before starting this journey with @Admin I was in a very physical job and had a very slim sexy figure. Being in an office all day has taken its toll sadly but you just have to accept it and try to embrace what you have but If honest I hate my body to the point I don't even look in the mirror :love:
 

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Hell yea, I hate the way I look, before starting this journey with @Admin I was in a very physical job and had a very slim sexy figure. Being in an office all day has taken its toll sadly but you just have to accept it and try to embrace what you have but If honest I hate my body to the point I don't even look in the mirror :love:
It was a physical job, but don't be silly here.
;) xx
 
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As N has already replied with his POV I thought I should give mine... I have huge hang ups about my body. The majority of my life with N I was at least size 20 even though when we started out in was 12-14. In the lady few years I got back to a 14... slid back to a 14/16 atm but must admit that being on sites like this really boosted my confidence. As people seem to careless about my wobbly bits than I do. N has always told me I'm beautiful and sexy but hearing it from strangers gives you a little buzz. C xx
 
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As N has already replied with his POV I thought I should give mine... I have huge hang ups about my body. The majority of my life with N I was at least size 20 even though when we started out in was 12-14. In the lady few years I got back to a 14... slid back to a 14/16 atm but must admit that being on sites like this really boosted my confidence. As people seem to careless about my wobbly bits than I do. N has always told me I'm beautiful and sexy but hearing it from strangers gives you a little buzz. C xx
Have to say you look absolutely gorgeous ... :love:
 
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louise1970

When first dipping into this life style I guess I had alot of gang ups about the way I looked as we no doubt all have I ain't the perfect size 10 but to me looks are not important and we aren't all body perfect but we will appeal to some and some we won't ☺
 
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anniefanniewannie22

Being an above average tall woman I do find that people find my height intimidating especially " no offence " shorter men, height comes with other issues such as above average big feet for a woman which in turns leaves me in a disadvantaged position when buying sexy shoes as we all love a bit of Ted don't we girls and Ted makes nothing to fit my hooves. So at the end of the day our life scars we carry with pride but without surgery my hooves will never have the beautiful sexy shoes you petite ladies have the pleasure of wearing. So if you see me at the club I will be the one in Wellington Boots.......... :palm:
 
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anniefanniewannie22

Being an above average tall woman I do find that people find my height intimidating especially " no offence " shorter men, height comes with other issues such as above average big feet for a woman which in turns leaves me in a disadvantaged position when buying sexy shoes as we all love a bit of Ted don't we girls and Ted makes nothing to fit my hooves. So at the end of the day our life scars we carry with pride but without surgery my hooves will never have the beautiful sexy shoes you petite ladies have the pleasure of wearing. So if you see me at the club I will be the one in Wellington Boots.......... :palm:
Lol thanks admin X
 
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Being an above average tall woman I do find that people find my height intimidating especially " no offence " shorter men, height comes with other issues such as above average big feet for a woman which in turns leaves me in a disadvantaged position when buying sexy shoes as we all love a bit of Ted don't we girls and Ted makes nothing to fit my hooves. So at the end of the day our life scars we carry with pride but without surgery my hooves will never have the beautiful sexy shoes you petite ladies have the pleasure of wearing. So if you see me at the club I will be the one in Wellington Boots.......... :palm:
Lol thanks admin X
You're welcome. :D
I found that a very funny read even though it's quite serious.
Being a short arse myself, I can see what you mean about intimidation... But I also find it personally quite appealing with a taller lady. (Just a personal thing) but I get you.
As for the shoes... Epic and really planted a smile on my face.
That was brilliant to read. We all have things we don't like or do like and all have preferences but laughing with not at others, about these things - is the best medicine. Xx
 
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You're welcome. :D
I found that a very funny read even though it's quite serious.
Being a short arse myself, I can see what you mean about intimidation... But I also find it personally quite appealing with a taller lady. (Just a personal thing) but I get you.
As for the shoes... Epic and really planted a smile on my face.
That was brilliant to read. We all have things we don't like or do like and all have preferences but laughing with not at others, about these things - is the best medicine. Xx
Chuckling as seen you have an icon just for my hooves :barefoot: thanks admin #feelingveryspecial xx