Point Of No Return

Scrunchy&Muffet · 24 April 2016

Ok, so we are all here to make friends, meet folk and get up to lots of sexy naughtiness.
So you get chatting, meet someone a few times and become really good friends.
Is there a point where you become "to friendly". As in you wouldnt have sex with a close friend!.
We have friends where we have met throuh swinging and have become great friends but i think we are now at the point wherevwe'd rather meet as good friends rather than anything else. We love their company etc but i think weve gone past the point of no return. Whats your take on this? Xxx

Scrunchy&Muffet · 24 April 2016

scrunchymuffet said:
Ok, so we are all here to make friends, meet folk and get up to lots of sexy naughtiness.
So you get chatting, meet someone a few times and become really good friends.
Is there a point where you become "to friendly". As in you wouldnt have sex with a close friend!.
We have friends where we have met throuh swinging and have become great friends but i think we are now at the point wherevwe'd rather meet as good friends rather than anything else. We love their company etc but i think weve gone past the point of no return. Whats your take on this? Xxx

Im thinking you must be all in bed lol x

Therapon · 24 April 2016

Interesting question tell you when I find out offers anyone

Scrunchy&Muffet · 24 April 2016

Therapon said:
Interesting question tell you when I find out offers anyone

Ahem....puts hand up lol xx

Therapon · 24 April 2016

Let's get friendly then come ere

Lovernotfighter · 24 April 2016

Tis an interesting point I suppose it's an example of how relationships change and develop over time. Funnily I've been pondering pretty much the same thing but from the point of view of a singleton and whether thiers a point of no return where "lovers" become "partners".

Scrunchy&Muffet · 24 April 2016

Therapon said:
Let's get friendly then come ere

Thought we'd already done that bit but we can do it again quite happily lol. Right on my way xx x

Scrunchy&Muffet · 24 April 2016

Lovernotfighter said:
Tis an interesting point I suppose it's an example of how relationships change and develop over time. Funnily I've been pondering pretty much the same thing but from the point of view of a singleton and whether thiers a point of no return where "lovers" become "partners".

Exactly or when you become such good friends you cant play with them xxxx

Lovernotfighter · 24 April 2016

scrunchymuffet said:
Exactly or when you become such good friends you cant play with them xxxx

It's a point of pride for me that anyone I've ever described as a girlfriend has first and formist being a friend.

Bump-n-Grind · 24 April 2016

Think I know what you mean, you'd hate to upset the dynamics of your friendship by playing as it could upset the applecart. We've had situations like that in the past with varying results. One couple really got the hump with us cos we said that to them & it essentially ended the friendship anyway. Sometimes you can't win

Mr Bump

2ofus · 24 April 2016

we've reached that same point with one of the couples we meet. (Or rather, unfortunately, SHE reached that stage ... I'd be more than happy lol, and I know Mrs @2ofus would be more than happy to as well), but I understood where she was coming from when she brought the subject up - so it's strange that a week and a bit later you pose the same question!

Pearls · 24 April 2016

scrunchymuffet said:
Ok, so we are all here to make friends, meet folk and get up to lots of sexy naughtiness.
So you get chatting, meet someone a few times and become really good friends.
Is there a point where you become "to friendly". As in you wouldnt have sex with a close friend!.
We have friends where we have met throuh swinging and have become great friends but i think we are now at the point wherevwe'd rather meet as good friends rather than anything else. We love their company etc but i think weve gone past the point of no return. Whats your take on this? Xxx

This is a very common thing that I think happen with a lot of swingers, we have friends in the lifestyle which we wouldn't dream of doing anything apart from go out and have a laugh with xx

meet_the_fockers · 24 April 2016

Yes theres certain people who we have played with before.. have stayed really good freinds and its become platonic. Days out with kids etc..
Re on here.. people jell with certain people, its only natural.
It only becomes a problem, when people start speaking over others, to the point of newbies maybe even old users.. being totally ignored.. when trying to be heard and join in.. resulting in a clique, of sorts. if you get my drift.

Deleted member 1402 · 24 April 2016

This happens to me a lot, but by choice. Why? Because I crave friendship. Sad, but true.

meet_the_fockers · 24 April 2016

VoluptuousVixen said:
This happens to me a lot, but by choice. Why? Because I crave friendship. Sad, but true.

Ditto hun... shall we go to the park

Deleted member 1402 · 24 April 2016

meet_the_fockers said:
Ditto hun... shall we go to the park

Yea, I wanna try this swinging malarkey!

Pearls · 24 April 2016

VoluptuousVixen said:
Yea, I wanna try this swinging malarkey!

Me too

meet_the_fockers · 24 April 2016

Haha nutters there is one in the dungeon at THI.
Theres also a sinsiter looking bin lid too...
Ok myself n Vixy were going to sneak some pics down there.. it ended abruptly when i asked what this contraption is and placed it on my head...
@LeeWidnes informed oh that would be the lid off the flip top bin.. hmmm

Deleted member 3411 · 24 April 2016

In the past in a completely different hobby I learnt of two couples who started swinging with each other and ended up spending all their time together. Eventually cracks showed and life became difficult for both sets. Eventually one of them decided to call a meeting at which all four sat down and discussed the situation. Result was they all got divorced and remarried each other as it has become obvious that they wanted to swap permanently. After it was all hands off and there two happy sets of couples.
I think this is where the problem comes in when you start to get a friendly emotional attachment.

meet_the_fockers · 24 April 2016

Open_minded_2016 said:
In the past in a completely different hobby I learnt of two couples who started swinging with each other and ended up spending all their time together. Eventually cracks showed and life became difficult for both sets. Eventually one of them decided to call a meeting at which all four sat down and discussed the situation. Result was they all got divorced and remarried each other as it has become obvious that they wanted to swap permanently. After it was all hands off and there two happy sets of couples.
I think this is where the problem comes in when you start to get a friendly emotional attachment.

Omg seriously!!! Bliddy nora!!

Deleted member 2978 · 24 April 2016

I can see where you are coming from. We have a lovely couple whom we played with a few times but have become very good friends and we have found we play less with them. Both Tigs and the other lady discussed this, unknown to us blokes lol. They then brought it up and we all felt it was a part of our friendship but not the key to the friendship, so if for some reason we had to stop, we would still be hanging out with each other and enjoying their company. I must say tho it did worry me with a couple in the US. we played after meeting them 2 times then we never played again, but we went to dinner and movies and other events in the area. Tigs did ask her if something was wrong and she no, last time was wonderful but they felt we had a great friendship so they did not want to ruin it with sex.... oh well you never know....but I think it is something you need to be aware of....

Dirtyprettythings · 24 April 2016

Open_minded_2016 said:
In the past in a completely different hobby I learnt of two couples who started swinging with each other and ended up spending all their time together. Eventually cracks showed and life became difficult for both sets. Eventually one of them decided to call a meeting at which all four sat down and discussed the situation. Result was they all got divorced and remarried each other as it has become obvious that they wanted to swap permanently. After it was all hands off and there two happy sets of couples.
I think this is where the problem comes in when you start to get a friendly emotional attachment.

well in that case......anyone fancy a swap?

meet_the_fockers · 24 April 2016

Dirtyprettythings said:
well in that case......anyone fancy a swap?

Morning DPThings x

Deleted member 1402 · 24 April 2016

Open_minded_2016 said:
In the past in a completely different hobby I learnt of two couples who started swinging with each other and ended up spending all their time together. Eventually cracks showed and life became difficult for both sets. Eventually one of them decided to call a meeting at which all four sat down and discussed the situation. Result was they all got divorced and remarried each other as it has become obvious that they wanted to swap permanently. After it was all hands off and there two happy sets of couples.
I think this is where the problem comes in when you start to get a friendly emotional attachment.

Doesn't surprise me. I am good at keeping people at arms length, but I do get fond of people and willing to do anything for them. This is when I get used, but I still carry on, as I don't wanna lose friends.
I got hurt really bad last June and since then, had no buddies to go to clubs with. My usual set of friends have left the scene and got married or had babies.

meet_the_fockers · 24 April 2016

Dirtyprettythings said:
well in that case......anyone fancy a swap?

Yes if you can get his hungover ass out of bed

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