Earlier discussions have me in a philosophical mood so I thought I would try to verbalise my own inner thoughts on a happy existence and maybe hear others thoughts.
I am a firm believer in positivity, I always try to look for the upside of any event in my life, rather than letting rejection,disappointment or set back upset or negatively impact my life in any way.
I have two very good examples of this to share.
1. When fourteen my father decided he no longer wanted to be part of the family and moved on with someone else. At that age I first felt hurt/rejected but made a conscious effort to think. O.K so no father but so what, thinking badly of him for his choice would only make me have negative thoughts, so just dont care. I now have no ill will towards him, I just dont care and have no interest in his life. Just like I have no interest in the lives of most of the people in this world. I dont hate, I just concentrate on loving those who are in my life and mean something to me. That doesnt mean I wouldnt pull him out of a burning house but I would pull anyone out of a burning house. I want people in my life who contribute positively to my own life. This belief has followed me through to adulthood, if people cross me or do wrong to me I generally give them one chance , it if happens again than I move on and forget all about them.
2. Just after I left military service and started to reconnect with old friends I met a girl, we dated, slept together once. Then started introducing her to friends, long story short she started shagging one of my mates. Now I could of got upset/angry/violent with him or her but instead thought O.K. so she is not gonna be my partner and he is just doing what is right for his journey. So wished them luck in life and moved on to better things, again no negative thoughts to lower my mood, just not caring.
These might make me seem cold and uncaring but I think the opposite, I am extremely caring to those that are part of my life. Also very generous and want to brighten the lives of those around me any way I can. But if someone doesnt want to be part of my life in a positive way then I just dont let it bother me and forget them. This has helped greatly with the whole rejection thing, if I offer or suggest a meet/relationship/dinner anything and the person says no not interested in then fine it wont negatively affect my positivity.
Anyway enough half drunk rambling.
STAY POSITIVE AND ENJOY THIS WONDERFUL LIFE
Xx G
I am a firm believer in positivity, I always try to look for the upside of any event in my life, rather than letting rejection,disappointment or set back upset or negatively impact my life in any way.
I have two very good examples of this to share.
1. When fourteen my father decided he no longer wanted to be part of the family and moved on with someone else. At that age I first felt hurt/rejected but made a conscious effort to think. O.K so no father but so what, thinking badly of him for his choice would only make me have negative thoughts, so just dont care. I now have no ill will towards him, I just dont care and have no interest in his life. Just like I have no interest in the lives of most of the people in this world. I dont hate, I just concentrate on loving those who are in my life and mean something to me. That doesnt mean I wouldnt pull him out of a burning house but I would pull anyone out of a burning house. I want people in my life who contribute positively to my own life. This belief has followed me through to adulthood, if people cross me or do wrong to me I generally give them one chance , it if happens again than I move on and forget all about them.
2. Just after I left military service and started to reconnect with old friends I met a girl, we dated, slept together once. Then started introducing her to friends, long story short she started shagging one of my mates. Now I could of got upset/angry/violent with him or her but instead thought O.K. so she is not gonna be my partner and he is just doing what is right for his journey. So wished them luck in life and moved on to better things, again no negative thoughts to lower my mood, just not caring.
These might make me seem cold and uncaring but I think the opposite, I am extremely caring to those that are part of my life. Also very generous and want to brighten the lives of those around me any way I can. But if someone doesnt want to be part of my life in a positive way then I just dont let it bother me and forget them. This has helped greatly with the whole rejection thing, if I offer or suggest a meet/relationship/dinner anything and the person says no not interested in then fine it wont negatively affect my positivity.
Anyway enough half drunk rambling.
STAY POSITIVE AND ENJOY THIS WONDERFUL LIFE
Xx G