Pronouns...

[Deleted member 120]

So, if you’re an active online person - you will see some people’s accounts listed with pronouns.
If you don’t know what I mean, or what this means, it’s accounts who list themselves as ‘he/him/himself’ or ‘she/her/herself’ and of course ‘they/those/themselves/those’.
See attached pic for more info.

How do you feel about this and these pronouns, what they represent and the motive behind it?
Over to you x


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[Therapon]

Uhm, smoke and mirrors spring to mind

 

[fincon]

So, if you’re an active online person - you will see some people’s accounts listed with pronouns.
If you don’t know what I mean, or what this means, it’s accounts who list themselves as ‘he/him/himself’ or ‘she/her/herself’ and of course ‘they/those/themselves/those’.
See attached pic for more info.

How do you feel about this and these pronouns, what they represent and the motive behind it?
Over to you x


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Strictly limited to the online account situation:

In this scene? I’ve genuinely never come across it. Any gender fluidity or ID is usually made explicit in a profile and under the M/F/TV/TG options.

Outside? Doesn’t bother me at all, to be honest. Not in the least. I regard almost everything that someone lists as a identifier or preference - whether it’s sexual preferences, age preferences or indeed pronoun preferences as their preferences… and it’s no more and no less than common courtesy to go along with it. In exactly the same way as if someone’s ‘official’ name is “Steven” but they prefer to be called “Steve”, or if someone has a nickname they prefer to be called rather than their given name. Their call, no more than that, no less than that.

Outside the online account situation:
Well, now you’re heading into an area that extends way, way out of merely the ‘how do you feel about it?’, into an area where the pronouns thing is the very smallest part of the issue. And beyond the very, very simplistic, I don’t know nearly enough to knowledgeably comment. So, to borrow an old saw: “I’d rather keep my mouth shut and have people think I’m an idiot, than open it and leave people in no doubt.”

 

[Deleted member 120]

So Sam Smith has announced he is now them / they / their.
If unsure this now means you can’t really say “I went to see Sam Smith last night and oh my word he was amazing”.
Now, it’s to be said like so - “I went to see Sam Smith last night and oh my word they were amazing”.
No, it’s not a band either.
Tricky times people.
2019 is definitely a year that changed the world as we know it.

My biggest issue in all this is navigating life with it.
As my son says - “Dad, I can now identify as a tumble dryer”....

 

[fincon]

As my son says - “Dad, I can now identify as a tumble dryer”....

To which the only sensible response is “great - does that mean I can turn you off if you’re too loud at three in the morning?”

 

[Deleted member 120]

To which the only sensible response is “great - does that mean I can turn you off if you’re too loud at three in the morning?”

Absolutely! I often say to him (this is the lad leaving next weekend for the Army btw) - I wish I had a remote control for him so I can mute him or put him into standby at times.