Sharing Fantasies

[SteveandDebs]

This whole idea was born from the Fantasies Live out or keep as fantasies thread where I asked @Admin if it was possible for us to have a facility like the questionnaires you see online where both couples fill it in separately then a result is displayed showing where their interests coincide. The reason I asked for it is because it seemed to me that the questions available weren't really swinging orientated enough

@Admin has agreed to look into this and I said I would post a thread asking for question suggestions. I have blatantly stolen the question list (next post) from one of the sites and hopefully we will be able to come up with a better list.

It's not going to happen overnight as it will involve a lot of work to build the the mechanics of it but we can get a head start with sorting out swinging orientaed questions to be included.

 

[SteveandDebs]

Here is the list of questions I've nicked. Comment with ideas but please, please let's not have "I'm not doing that it's disgusting" type posts or any ridiculing people about their suggestions.

Remember, YKINMKBYKIOK (your kink is not my kink but your kink is ok)

 

[SteveandDebs]

Basics

have longer teasing and foreplay sessions with partner

give partner a sensual massage

have partner give me a sensual massage

take pictures of partner

have pictures taken by partner

take pictures of us having sex

strip or give a lap dance to partner

have partner strip or give me a lap dance

film ourselves having sex

use mirrors while having sex

wake partner up with sex or oral sex

be woken up with sex or oral sex by partner

watch partner masturbate

be watched by partner while I masturbate

shave partner

be shaven by partner

shave each other

watch porn together

show partner how I like something from porn scene

be shown what partner likes from porn

thrust my penis between partner's breasts

be more vocal towards partner during sex

have partner be more vocal

talk dirtier to partner

have partner talk dirtier to me

call partner obscene words (bitch, slut, whore, etc)

be called obscene words (bitch, slut, whore, etc)by partner

have sex while on period

have sex while on period

roleplay in costumes

wear stocking and high heels for partner during sex

listen to romantic music while having sex

mutually masturbate

listen to more aggressive (rap/rock) music while having sex

be rougher in sex towards partner

have partner be rougher to me in sex

be fisted by partner

69 partner

swallow partner's cum

swallow partner's cum

cum over partner's breasts/neck (pearl necklace)

cum over partner's face (facial)

cum over partner's face (facial)

have partner cum over my face (facial)

have partner sit on my face as I give oral sex

sit on partner's face and be given oral sex

 

[SteveandDebs]

Toys

use dildos in sex

use vibrators while having sex

wear a cock ring (vibrating/non-vibrating) during sex

use nipple clamps

use a butt plug while having sex with partner

have partner use a butt plug

use sex furniture (such as a sex swing or ramp)

BDSM

have a weapon (knife, gun) directed at me during sex (knife and gun play)

direct a weapon (knife, gun) during sex (knife and gun play)

wear earplugs during sex

have partner wear earplugs during sex

slap partner's face during sex

have my face slapped during sex

blindfold partner

be blindfolded by partner

punch partner during sex

be punched by partner during sex

use restraints on partner

be tied down or otherwise restrained by partner

pull partner's hair

have my hair pulled by partner

spank partner with your hand

be spanked by partner's hand

use a riding crop on partner

have partner use a riding crop on me

have partner strike me with a cane

be struck with a cane

spank partner with toys (whip/paddle)

be spanked by partner with toys (whip/paddle)

bite partner

be bitten by partner

wear a dog collar with a leash

have partner wear a dog collar with a leash

have partner be submissive and worship one of my body parts

be submissive and worship one of partner's body parts

be submissive for partner

be dominant towards partner

wear hoods or half hoods for partner

have partner wear hoods or half-hoods

roleplay rape partner

be roleplay raped by partner

have partner act as furniture to be used by me

act as {furniture} to be used by partner

have partner be a submissive brat

be a submissive brat towards partner

have partner be a submissive servant

be a submissive servant towards partner

command and deny orgasms for partner

be commanded and denied orgasms by partner

be a 24/7 slave for partner

have partner be a 24/7 slave

wear a chastity belt for partner

have partner wear a chastity belt

be a Gorean slave for partner

be a Gorean master for partner

be suspended while having sex with partner

have partner be suspended while having sex

wear a ball gag for partner

have partner wear a ball gag

torture partner's genitals

have partner torture my genitals

Anal

anally fist partner

be anally fisted by partner

anally finger partner

be fingered anally by partner

anally penetrate partner

double penetrate partner with me and a toy

peg partner with a strap-on

lick partner's anus (analingus)

be licked anally by partner

 

[SteveandDebs]

Group and Public

be bukkake'd by partner and other men

be bukkake'd by partner and other men

fondle partner in a public setting (restaurant/theater)

be fondled by partner in a public setting (restaurant/theater)

show pictures of us having sex over the internet

show pictures/film of partner over the internet

have my pictures shown over the internet

double penetration by your partner and another man

triple penetration by your partner two other men

have sex in a car

have sex in the woods or in a park

have sex in work environment (office, etc)

have sex in front of an outward facing window

have sex in a place where you might get caught

watch other couples have sex (live)

let another person/people/couples watch us have sex

have sex monogamously with other couples (don't touch other couples)

include another female in sex (menage-a-trois)

include another male in sex (menage-a-trois)

include another couple in sex (small orgy)

include more than two men in sex

include more than two women in sex

participate in an large orgy (more than 4 people)

watch partner have sex with another person

have sex with another person while partner watches

go to a strip club with partner

go to a sex or swingers club with partner

go to a nudist resort with partner

go to a pleasure resort with partner

Other Fertish

give partner a foot job

be given a foot job

douse ourselves in oil/mud/paint/milk/pies during sex

use chemicals (menthol, toothpaste, ben-gay) on partner

have partner use chemicals on me (menthol, toothpaste, ben-gay)

have partner give me a golden shower

give partner a golden shower

have partner give me a brown shower

give partner a brown shower

swap my cum with my partner

suck semen out of partner's vagina or anus after sex (felching)

suck semen out of partner's vagina or anus after sex (felching)

 

[Wheels85]

This whole idea was born from the Fantasies Live out or keep as fantasies thread where I asked @Admin if it was possible for us to have a facility like the questionnaires you see online where both couples fill it in separately then a result is displayed showing where their interests coincide. The reason I asked for it is because it seemed to me that the questions available weren't really swinging orientated enough

@Admin has agreed to look into this and I said I would post a thread asking for question suggestions. I have blatantly stolen the question list (next post) from one of the sites and hopefully we will be able to come up with a better list.

It's not going to happen overnight as it will involve a lot of work to build the the mechanics of it but we can get a head start with sorting out swinging orientaed questions to be included.

This is extremely interesting but also I am wowed that my thread helped in some way..

The questions also would help singles identify areas of interest with others.. Maybe the questionnaire could be added to sign up process??

 

[SteveandDebs]

This is extremely interesting but also I am wowed that my thread helped in some way..

The questions also would help singles identify areas of interest with others.. Maybe the questionnaire could be added to sign up process??

Oooh I don't think the results should be made public (unless people choose to).

It's more a way of sharing fantasies with someone without having to reveal ones that they aren't interested in

 

[Wheels85]

Oooh I don't think the results should be made public (unless people choose to).

It's more a way of sharing fantasies with someone without having to reveal ones that they aren't interested in

I'm not saying make them public just an indicator as to interests. So it makes it easier to approach people

 

[SteveandDebs]

I'm not saying make them public just an indicator as to interests. So it makes it easier to approach people

I see what you are saying but do you tell a random your deepest fantasies? Or is it a conversation that comes about as a relationship develops?

 

[Wheels85]

I see what you are saying but do you tell a random your deepest fantasies? Or is it a conversation that comes about as a relationship develops?

I was thinking more areas of interest so that you can approach people who have the same area of interest i.e if you are into BDSM foot fetish whatever it might be. So that you can start conversations with like minded people. Not tell people fantasize straight off that develops.

I'm just thinking if there were areas of interest it stops asking if they were into something that they might not be this avoiding awkward situations.

The questionnaire is a great idea it just can have many uses

 

[SteveandDebs]

AHH I see but this was specifically for fantasy sharing

 

[sthwalescpl]

Sharing fantasies between ourselves was how we started swinging.
We always swapped ideas during sex, and it always got us horny...and eventually we just had to go from talking about it, to doing it.
Since then, we have tried allsorts, both between ourselves as a couple, and in the wider swinging context with others, and we have had a blast!

 

[sthwalescpl]

I see what you are saying but do you tell a random your deepest fantasies? Or is it a conversation that comes about as a relationship develops?

I dont think you can, or should, really open up and admit your deepest, darkest fantasies straight off the bat with a new playmate.
Some stuff takes trust, and a bit of a build-up, but once you find someone who is on the same sort of wavelength, you can have fun exploring the various nuances.

 

[SteveandDebs]

I dont think you can, or should, really open up and admit your deepest, darkest fantasies straight off the bat with a new playmate.
Some stuff takes trust, and a bit of a build-up, but once you find someone who is on the same sort of wavelength, you can have fun exploring the various nuances.

We also redo the questionnaire every so often as things change over time.

 

[sthwalescpl]

We also redo the questionnaire every so often as things change over time.

Erm...is it bad to admit we've tried most of whats on that list lol?

 

[SteveandDebs]

Erm...is it bad to admit we've tried most of whats on that list lol?

Not at all, that's why I posted this thread to get suggestions We thought it really didn't go far enough.