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Beachgirl81
Hi All - I'm here because my husband and I are finding our "sea legs" in this new to us lifestyle. After an exhaustive search and meeting couples (though very lovely) that just weren't a match, we finally met our match. We have been on 4 dates and 1 awesome hotel overnight together. We chat on kick as a group everyday. A lot of our convos are vanilla as we get on with them on a friendship level very well. My question is about side convos with each other's spouse. We sometimes reach out and say hi separately but last Friday after our group date we were group messaging to thank each other for a great night out. Then I saw the wife side message my husband "OMG" and I asked him what that was about. And on the Uber ride home my husband had his hand between her legs (no big deal right?) And she was excited about that... now mind you most of the night I was making out with her husband at the bar and they weren't doing this. But it felt weird to me, the side text and I can't pin point way exactly. Maybe because I was siting beside her and had no idea what was happening. Am I off base here? Am I a hypocrite for these feelings? They are a great couple and part of this is that I don't want to mess it up. The other side of me is aware that side convos can create a level of intimacy that can be dangerous.
What is standard operating procedure here? I suggested to my husband that we discuss this with them as well to see what they are comfortable with.
Sorry for the long post!
What is standard operating procedure here? I suggested to my husband that we discuss this with them as well to see what they are comfortable with.
Sorry for the long post!