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Bam.....and just like that,I drop. The high has gone, the adrenaline disappeared and I'm sleepy. :sleep::sleep::sleep:
 
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Twickerman

Thank you for sharing this with us.
I have a brooding issue, it's killing me off, I feel awful because I'm quite needy and crave quite a bit of attention. I'm hoping with time that this will improve.

My advice would be, if you have not already done so, to tell your Dom how your feeling. It is easy to feel you shouldn't ask, be a burden, to your Dom/me who may have other concerns in life they are dealing with. However I as a Dom would want to know, would consider it my responsibility to address such a problem. In the past I have found that giving my girl things to do for me, even if it is things that are for her benefit and then making sure she lets me know she has, strengthens my presence in her life and mitigates some of the drop. Also, even if only in principle, starting to plan for the next meeting gives both of us a positive goal to
look forward to.
 
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RLJ

Educating, different world to anything I've ever experienced. Not sure I could live out this lifestyle, not hardened anyway. I respect anybody that does though x
 
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Deleted member 1402

My advice would be, if you have not already done so, to tell your Dom how your feeling. It is easy to feel you shouldn't ask, be a burden, to your Dom/me who may have other concerns in life they are dealing with. However I as a Dom would want to know, would consider it my responsibility to address such a problem. In the past I have found that giving my girl things to do for me, even if it is things that are for her benefit and then making sure she lets me know she has, strengthens my presence in her life and mitigates some of the drop. Also, even if only in principle, starting to plan for the next meeting gives both of us a positive goal to
look forward to.
Thanks for your advise, he now knows and we'll discuss it further when I next see him.
I'm liking the idea of tasks to do x
 
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This all comes down to the person in control, the lifestyle you live and what you do with each other, a good Master will always make sure the submissive is taken care of and it's that care which shows the real to the fake. X
 
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The_Bibas

I assume we are not talking about the meal deal that includes a 6inch sub and a drink?
I only drop mine when I am drunk usually
Extra chilli for me?
XxxxBIBAxxxx
 
28 December 2016
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It has surprised me on occasion on how quickly different subs can go into one form of sub space and yet others seem to be able to take one almighty thrashing from hell (read voluntary, consensual) and ride on straight through.
Everyone is different so how they handle sub drop and how they want their Dominant/top to handle it is different too. For my own submissive I would keep her warm, let her come to in my arms, while I whisper what a good girl she is and how well she has done in her ear. When I knkw she is properly back in the land of the living a warm drink and sometimes something sweet to eat and she's good to go again. Sometimes further talking is required, sometimes doubt and guilt need to be squashed sometimes not. Depends on the scene.
For other submissives then it comes down to communication prior to play. If they don't know what works for them then be prepared for as many eventualities as you can and try to feed off of their responses as how to best help them. Show them you respect and appreciate their submission, try to demonstrate that you are honoured that they chose to offer it to you.
From reading this thread I'm not sure everything talked about here is drop. I've not seen drop, days and weeks after a hard play. I think perhaps it's something different with the greatest respect.
 
16 February 2017
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I drop quite badly after Sir has left - he ALWAYS calls me when he has got home to make sure I am ok and messages frequently over the next 24 hrs regardless of what is going on in both our lives.
 
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4 July 2017
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I've heard of this bit I think it's misnamed - it's not particular to subs so much as it is an emotional and sometimes physical reaction to extremes of experience.
 

Vanezza

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Dont know what a sub drop is ????
The temporary depression and/or chemical dis-balance experienced by submissive/masochists after intense BDSM play. This can be short lived or can be a delayed reaction, and/or can last as long as a week...

One definition anyway
 
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meet_the_fockers

I've heard of this bit I think it's misnamed - it's not particular to subs so much as it is an emotional and sometimes physical reaction to extremes of experience.
I tottally agree with this post, now theres a first ai joe.
 
4 July 2017
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I tottally agree with this post, now theres a first ai joe.
I say this having experienced a similar phenomenon on a few occasions, and I ain't no sub.

Worst was after that birthday when I decided I wanted 7 fucks in 7 days... some tales there that we will gloss over... got down to the last one (this cute ginger French guy I'd pinned down to a rematch, supposed to the be cherry on the cake) and found I was a shagged out. Just didn't really fancy it. But agreed to meet anyway.

Kinda had an old fashioned date. Dinner (he had a right wing rant that set my teeth on edge), walk along the river, conversation, couple of drinks in a nice wine bar...

And then, somehow, it descended in to a sauna where we pulled two more guys (a fit Texan bottom and this Persian/Arab? chap, he didn't say fuck all but then, didn't have to - devastatingly handsome, stacked, 10 inch cock). Yeah. And then we had a mind blowing 4sum.

Remember stopping at one point and looking back on it and thinking, Fuck! This is like porn - only I'm in it!

Anyway. Went back to where I was staying and was so all over the place that I needed two large gins and a diazepam to knock me out.

But woke up with a smile on my face for three days in a row (y)
 
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meet_the_fockers

I say this having experienced a similar phenomenon on a few occasions, and I ain't no sub.

Worst was after that birthday when I decided I wanted 7 fucks in 7 days... some tales there that we will gloss over... got down to the last one (this cute ginger French guy I'd pinned down to a rematch, supposed to the be cherry on the cake) and found I was a shagged out. Just didn't really fancy it. But agreed to meet anyway.

Kinda had an old fashioned date. Dinner (he had a right wing rant that set my teeth on edge), walk along the river, conversation, couple of drinks in a nice wine bar...

And then, somehow, it descended in to a sauna where we pulled two more guys (a fit Texan bottom and this Persian/Arab? chap, he didn't say fuck all but then, didn't have to - devastatingly handsome, stacked, 10 inch cock). Yeah. And then we had a mind blowing 4sum.

Remember stopping at one point and looking back on it and thinking, Fuck! This is like porn - only I'm in it!

Anyway. Went back to where I was staying and was so all over the place that I needed two large gins and a diazepam to knock me out.

But woke up with a smile on my face for three days in a row (y)
Fucked into oblivion.
 
4 July 2017
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Now why do i actually believe this.
Worse? Who said it was a bad thing. ;)
There was the time I was thrown out of a sauna for bad behaviour, which I thought hilarious at the time then realised that in my hurry to leave I'd left my glasses behind and had to go crawling back and ask them very nicely... :censored:
 
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meet_the_fockers

There was the time I was thrown out of a sauna for bad behaviour, which I thought hilarious at the time then realised that in my hurry to leave I'd left my glasses behind and had to go crawling back and ask them very nicely... :censored:
Hahaha serves you right!!