Think.....

[Never_say_Never]

before I start, if you're easily bored then read another thread!
I'm asking all of you who have the patience to read this just to stop and think for a moment....

I've just had possibly the worst week I think I can actually remember. Why??? Because people don't stop to think.
To think about their actions, or words and how they impact on others.
I have finally found a job I love doing, with an absolute passion. However, I've been working from hone a bit recently due to an injury. Colleagues that I once considered friends have made my work life difficult through nothing more than jealousy. They feel I'm being given privelidges because I'm working from home. The reality, I'm working twice as hard because I know I'm being watched!

Then, on another site, a site I don't have much time for to be honest but my partner does, I receive a few very nasty comments. Calling me all manner of things from fat, ugly to whore etc

Ordinarily yes, they would upset me but not to the extent that they have this week. I've had so much going on both at work then in my 'private' time that tbh I don't know if I'm coming going or been!

I've spent most of the week bawling my eyes out. Strange considering I was a doorman, you know, tough, unfallable, nothing gets through the tough exterior!

People need to remember before passing comment, maybe someone isn't for you, but they might just be what the next person is dreaming of. Before you pass judgement, make that verbal comment or post that view.... Think..... Constructive criticism is great but the alternative is destructive. Now that's destructive to both emotional and actual being.

Please.... Think before you post, before you open your mouth. I never want to feel how I've felt this week, and I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. We are all human, we all have feelings, and we can all hurt.

Much love xx

 

[BlackXRose]

Rise above them .. delete.. forget move on to the better ones...

 

[Never_say_Never]

Man hugs mate!

Life is shit sometimes... I think we have each all been there, but as us men are 'supposed' to be the stronger sex... we can't show emotions or let our true feelings be known.

Mrs Marms knows when I feel down, and tries her hardest to make me feel better, but sometimes that's just not enough.

Chin up..... there's people on here to talk to... private message or even phone just for a chat, it sometimes makes the world a better place to be in.

Think the doorman thing has thrown you slightly Mr marmite (btw I love marmite x) I'm Ms Never! Was a doorman for 15 yrs! lol

 

[Admin]

before I start, if you're easily bored then read another thread!
I'm asking all of you who have the patience to read this just to stop and think for a moment....

I've just had possibly the worst week I think I can actually remember. Why??? Because people don't stop to think.
To think about their actions, or words and how they impact on others.
I have finally found a job I love doing, with an absolute passion. However, I've been working from hone a bit recently due to an injury. Colleagues that I once considered friends have made my work life difficult through nothing more than jealousy. They feel I'm being given privelidges because I'm working from home. The reality, I'm working twice as hard because I know I'm being watched!

Then, on another site, a site I don't have much time for to be honest but my partner does, I receive a few very nasty comments. Calling me all manner of things from fat, ugly to whore etc

Ordinarily yes, they would upset me but not to the extent that they have this week. I've had so much going on both at work then in my 'private' time that tbh I don't know if I'm coming going or been!

I've spent most of the week bawling my eyes out. Strange considering I was a doorman, you know, tough, unfallable, nothing gets through the tough exterior!

People need to remember before passing comment, maybe someone isn't for you, but they might just be what the next person is dreaming of. Before you pass judgement, make that verbal comment or post that view.... Think..... Constructive criticism is great but the alternative is destructive. Now that's destructive to both emotional and actual being.

Please.... Think before you post, before you open your mouth. I never want to feel how I've felt this week, and I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. We are all human, we all have feelings, and we can all hurt.

Much love xx

Okay, from my point of view as the owner of this site can I say;
1, you need to tell your colleagues this... spit it out, get it on paper and bloody well tell them how shit they've made you feel. Right now, what do you have to lose?

2, This is the exact type of bulling and nastiness on other sites, that is the reason we did this. So my question is; why stay there? Hardly for the craic? No offence intended at all, but why allow yourself/selves to be subjected to this daily?
Fat? Whore?
I've met you and you are NONE of these.... So why allow people to tell you this and demean you in such a manner?

3, The fact you have come here and done this says and shows one thing; you can be yourself and feel comfortable enough in doing so.

When it comes down to it, I have always kind of said to myself; "leave content to members you just worry about running the place."
But when I see posts like this,. and I wish I could say it was the first, I feel the same feelings I did almost 3 years ago when I started building this place. Disgust anger and frustration at keyboard warriors who would never dream of speaking to someone in real life, face to face, as they do behind their keyboards and phones.
Which is why I do post. I do react... Because I find it abhorrent, disgusting and dehumanising.

You are a human being, you are people.. not aliens behind a screen.
Delete, move on.
Love the haters; because they have nothing.
xx

 

[Phoenixcouplexx]

You go to work to a job you love which is your passion for you. Only you not them. Jealousy is a cruel master and it is their weakness not yours.
Take pride in yourself and hold your head high it doesn't matter what they think you do it for you and you know the truth. You are the only one that has to live with your choices that and the people you most care about in the world and they will only care about your happiness and wellbeing. Colleagues at work are hardly ever true friends, mind you I can count my friends on one hand so maybe don't listen to me on that bit lol
As for the comments. Meh usually they follow someone being turned down and it says waaaaaay more about them than it does you. On this site it won't be tolerated I know that already. Everywhere else block and move on its just another filter for you. You wouldn't be interested in a person with an ugly personality like that anyway so who cares what they think. The ones that matter don't think like that... associate with them and revel in it

 

[Deleted member 3411]

This is the modern world people work from home all the time here. It's not a special privilege it can be harder to work from home because you know you must put in the hours or else you will be accused of slacking.
As for nasty comments on the other site well that's why we are here on SS because here people are friendly, that site seems to be about backbiting and being nasty...

 

[Cheekychap70]

If it's the site I think it is then it's 70% idiots that have no feelings for no one other than themselves. You just stick to this one. I'm so content with how my 1st fortnight has panned out.
As for work it really does do my head in how colleagues are more worried about what they're missing out on. Instead they should get on with their own job in hand.
Stay strong. Much love and hugs from ALL of us. #SSfamily

 

[BoltonBiFemCpl]

why would anyone wanna call someone else nasty names. The reason is they wanna try to drag you down so it makes them feel better. the only problem is all it makes them actually feel worse cos they feel bad about what they did.

 

[Phoenixcouplexx]

#SSfamily.... you know that has a certain ring to it

 

[Deleted member 3411]

☆We are family, I've got all my swingers with me....☆

 

[Brumcouple2013]

Human beings are ment to be the most intelligant species on the planet, but read posts like yours @Never_say_Never proves we are far from it. Society of today as turned life into one big rat race. Most people today if they can't get want they want turn nasty and feel that the only way to make themselves feel better is to make others feel bad. I have experienced this myself in mine and Mrs Brums hobby.
Rise above it, and let those people rot in their own feelings of grandeur. Walk away from the other site, we have walked away from a few due to nasty comments, mainly aimed at Mrs Brum. Here on SS you have a family, who will listen and help were they can. Focus on getting better, and doing your job, and make time for yourself and some fun.
Most of all keep smiling.

 

[Deleted member 2610]

Hi just seen this thread.
So sorry to hear the way people have been treating you, so called friends from work get jealous as they think they are missing out on things, friends never forget them move on. We've all been through it..and it is easier to say than do but try to put them behind you.

As for the other site...well it says it all to get comments like that...they are gutter trash and not worth it..just because your not interested they get shitty...walk away and stay here with friends and members who respect each other plus staff who will not tolerate this behaviour at all

Big Welsh Cwtch xxxx :0))

 

[R300z]

People who say things like this about people they work with do because they feel threatened in their own position at work. So they are trying to discredit you to inflate themselves. It will have been you this week and someone else next week. I left a job because of the same sort of thing and I regret it so stick it out and just don't rise to it as they feed of your emotions like the parasites they are. As for the keyboard idiots, find out where they live and visit them in the small hours and put a bat up their night dress!! That will learn them!!
Chin up lovely lady x

 

[MP386]

Not sure I can add much to what has been said but I think you have found the right place to be ...
You are a gorgeous lady and deserve to be treated as such ...

 

[MickeyBlueBalls]

OK so let's do away with the insults. I've just checked out your form and.....
1/ you're not fat
2/ you're not ugly
3/ You're not a whore - however should this status change then by all means message me!!!
And now a little about work...
1/ given your circumstances many people would have gone on the sick. You haven't, you're showing determination, drive and that you have the company's best interests at heart. Your boss has seen this which is why you've been allowed to work from home meaning you're a valuable asset.
2/ Work is work and friendship is friendship. Never ever fully trust colleagues, I don't care what anybody says. They're paid to be there, to work and that includes forming of relationships to aid their work. Most colleagues WILL fuck you over in the interests of personal development. Work + social life = separate as much as possible. If you have a work party/function ask yourself do you need to be there, what do you stand to benefit from attending? They're potentially ammunition against all who dare to let their hair down and with the advent of modern technology there's always a camera phone looming to catch you at the most awkward moment.
3/ Be thick skinned. Those bastardy aren't worth a drop of your tears!!
4/ When challenged with dick-like behaviour always always be nice back, it will do far greater damage to them than an angry response. xx