I spent a short time unwatching a load of threads yesterday… dropped my notifications down massively; only threads in which I’m not currently participating, obviously. But yeah.
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MOTM
My whole scrabble analogy was;
Why the fuck does anyone want to play change a letter all the goddamned time on a swingers' site!?
It's like playing fekin scrabble when you can play strip poker.
Now, don't get me wrong here..... there's nowt wrong with playing a good game of scrabble now and again right? But when you play a real hot game of strip poker (i.e when you start or bump really fekin hot n saucy swinging topics) and then check new posts after this, only to see change a letter is top of the crowd... then it makes you wonder what we're up to.
Are we Scrabble, Woman's Weekly, yoghurt eating, cardigan wearing, knitting, armchair sitting, voyeuristic natured people who want to just watch the world go by while we sit by the river watching the kids run past us chasing the butterflies?
This is Social Swinging. A socially enticing swinging site. A swinging site. For swingers.
You know, people who want to have sex with other people.
I feel like we shouldn't even say that like!seriously ! How dare we even say the fact that we want sex with other people.
I am saying this for the first time ever on this site, that I feel that I cannot say that I want sexual activity with other people because I feel it's prudish.
It's not me.. it's the people getting too socially comfortable. Getting too socially comfortable on here with safety belts, safety nets and silver bullets.
We're here, all of us, for carnal desires. Cold, hard, sexual desires. Not love, not lust, not love, not relationships, not affairs, not extra-marital affairs, not bit on the side fun, not cheating.. we're here for mutual fun between consenting, accepting, open minded fucking grown up adult sexual fun.
It's about time some of the members on this site grew up with it and stopped playing change a fucking letter, and played swinging instead.
Rant?
Maybe...
Sorry.. Don't mean to but I am certainly chewed up on watching all these horny and naughty posts we have, being swamped down by change a fucking letter.
What am I saying?
If you don't know then try this;
Swinging Chats - Public
If that still didn't work then try this;
All About Swinging
Not happy?
Felt I have ranted unnecessarily? Bless... Here's a smilie for you. Just for you.
Change a letter my arse.
Swinging site this is, not fucking Countdown.
Shoot me down all you wish. For who knows, maaybe this won't last for ever anyway.x
At times like this it's useful not to have an agree button, such an easy out of not replying to this. We have talked about this and it is suprising that those threads on this site that disuss sex are read but not often commented on, why? This is a site for swingers, swingers want sex, or at least I thought they did, is it all action and no talk.
Some of the raunchier threads mentioned in @admins comment I have replied to but I will admit not all simply because I may not have had the experience, but where I feel I can add something I do. Are these sexier threads embarassing to you I wonder. Odd really that a lot of media gets attention with some raunchy comments at times but the threads, ignored?
Is it as @Admin says, we have become to feel to safe and secure, a sex site where the sex bit is taboo unless it a jokey reply to acknowledge the thread but to not get invovled.
We all have somethings we might not wish to discuss for whatever reason but surely not all subject matter.
I know some do get involved and to those members a big thank you, to the rest, think about it, what is it that you do not like about, embarasses you about these rauchier threads, the thing that stops you getting involved.
You've got the nail on the head there (for me anyway). I have read most of the threads but I don't always reply if I don't feel I can contribute due to inexperience. I contribute where I can
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Yeah makes you think doesn't it... It's a paradox. Will comment on photos but...
Which is extremely important and invaluable to the site overall.I contribute where I can
My experience so far has been one of ... uninterest. I see well-established members on here blank when asked a direct question so I have to ask myself is it worth me carrying on pretending I am a swinger when obviously not one person is interested in me.
Alright, I am an ugly fucker and trust me I know that especially now, but people that say they are willing to meet up for just a social meeting blank me and us as a couple every time. Vanessa gets far more attention obviously but never the attention we both want. We are funny and charming but it seems we don't swing, we get ignored and blanked.
Is it worth the anguish?
N xxx
Alright, I am an ugly fucker and trust me I know that especially now, but people that say they are willing to meet up for just a social meeting blank me and us as a couple every time. Vanessa gets far more attention obviously but never the attention we both want. We are funny and charming but it seems we don't swing, we get ignored and blanked.
Is it worth the anguish?
N xxx
MOTM
I wonder why we bust our balls sometimes when I see posts like this, you guys seem to be getting knocks all the time, I wish we could do more or say more
If it's any consolation, I would've met you both for a social when I was out and about a few weekends ago
I put an open offer out there for anybody to take up
.When I get back on my feet I would be more than happy to go for a few bevvies.
Playing Devils Advacate do you think that because you're limited by distance and unable to travel sometimes could play a factor in why you don't get as much interest rather than just thinking it's about how you look?
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It must be how we all look then as cant really say how long we have been on here however its been a long time.But the tally goes to date. We have asked 1 couple to meet and they did but we did not gel and they left the site. 3 couples have asked us to meet but 2 turned out to be fake and the other we have met once and plan to meet again. 1 bloke we have chatted with about meeting socially and thats in the planning aint it Balders. Hardly earth shattering but thats the way it is here. We have posted meets on here and got 1 fake and 1 male. Read into this what you will but whatever you do Vannessa dont blame yourselves.
If it's any consolation, I would've met you both for a social when I was out and about a few weekends ago
I put an open offer out there for anybody to take up
When I get back on my feet I would be more than happy to go for a few bevvies.
Playing Devils Advacate do you think that because you're limited by distance and unable to travel sometimes could play a factor in why you don't get as much interest rather than just thinking it's about how you look?
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We would love to meet you sometime for a few beers
Yes I do think that not being able to travel very far does hinder us in a big way and money being short don't help of course. I for one may be biased here of course but Neil isn't ugly in the slightest and I do tend to get more attention than he does in fact to be honest all of the attention which doesn't help. I don't know just when I am getting myself back and I see his post here and my heart breaks for him so much as I know he does feel this way. When you have been on swinging sites for over 3 years and I'm the only one getting the attention it's soul destroying. Vxxx
I wonder why we bust our balls sometimes when I see posts like this, you guys seem to be getting knocks all the time, I wish we could do more or say more
It's hardly your fault
Vxxx
MOTM
Hardly earth shattering? I will rock your world
.Yep defo looking forward to having a drink with you both at some point
I was just discussing this yesterday with somebody else and honestly I think it's always the female member of the couple that gets the most attention and if I were Neil I wouldn't read too much into that
Kaz used to get far more attention than me especially in the media section.
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Thats the erection section m8 and women rule that bitHardly earth shattering? I will rock your world
Yep defo looking forward to having a drink with you both at some point
I was just discussing this yesterday with somebody else and honestly I think it's always the female member of the couple that gets the most attention and if I were Neil I wouldn't read too much into that
Kaz used to get far more attention than me especially in the media section.
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@Vanezza As balders says its the women who get the attention and in no way is he ugly so tell him to rule that out maybe the peeps you meet are in a clique or very cliquey i for one would get ignored as i have no interest in football or any ball game ( except sex lol) so i find myself talking to blank faces if i meet old skool mates or as such as i dont talk sport i can talk about engines, computers, boats till the cows come home so maybe your meeting the wrong people i dont know but i do know i think i have the same daft sense of humour as you both going of some of your posts etc and would not hesitate meeting you both if i ever got the chance..
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This has been one of the things that Linda and I did not expect. When I was a single guy on here and even then before that trying my hand another certain sites I came to the conclusion that the lack of interest and progress was because I was male and over 45. But it does appear the Swinging is not as easy or as quick to happen as you would think. Todate Linda and I have met one couple that we had fun with but they did not return interest in a second meeting several couples we have talked to but nothing came of it. In fact we have had as much fun just by turning up at VA and making contact with couples there and having fun there. I think there's only been a couple of times that couples have contacted us and we both erm tactfully edged away as for one reason or other we weren't interested.
At the moment life is taking a bit of a turn and we aren't able to make arrangements like we would want to but trust us people there's a few out there of you who very much interest us and we would love to get to know intimately.
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Yes, no and no. But that's because there's no need to say anything as until we're free to visit or meet it would be counterproductive.
I wouldn't say it would be counter productive. I think (at least for me personally) by sending out those messages it's a good way to start to get to know others and build up a rapport with them
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Also, and very importantly- it assures and reassures that person/couple that they now know someone has a keen interest in them, regardless of whether something can be immediately arranged or not.
And that there’s a genuine interest in them from someone real on here. (Meant to add).
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