When You Can't Stop Yourself...

Lips_Pearls · 4 July 2018

This is mostly for the couples; but for some swingles this may well apply if you have an FB/FWB..

Ever been in a situation where you can't help yourself but contact someone, without your OH's consent and gone a bit further than what you should have?
What did your OH say? Was he/she cool with it or blow their lid as it's outside of the boundaries you'd maybe set?

What would YOU do if you caught your OH messaging someone on the quiet without your explicit consent and/or knowledge? x

Antogs · 4 July 2018

Lips_Pearls said:
This is mostly for the couples; but for some swingles this may well apply if you have an FB/FWB..

Ever been in a situation where you can't help yourself but contact someone, without your OH's consent and gone a bit further than what you should have?
What did your OH say? Was he/she cool with it or blow their lid as it's outside of the boundaries you'd maybe set?

What would YOU do if you caught your OH messaging someone on the quiet without your explicit consent and/or knowledge? x

Is there something you feel you need to tell us?

Antogs xx

Lips_Pearls · 4 July 2018

Antogs said:
Is there something you feel you need to tell us?

Antogs xx

LOL nah. I'm very open...

Just trying to spur peeps on rather than people just sitting here looking for something. Know what I mean.

Pearls · 13 July 2018

I would never and if I found out him he was messaging without me knowing then he’d probably be facing another broken knee to match em up.

Lips_Pearls · 13 July 2018

Pearls said:
I would never and if I found out him he was messaging without me knowing then he’d probably be facing another broken knee to match em up.

Nuff said ^^^ xx

Pearls · 13 July 2018

Lips_Pearls said:
Nuff said ^^^ xx

Need to get anything of your chest dear :hmm:xx

fincon · 13 July 2018

Lips_Pearls said:
Ever been in a situation where you can't help yourself but contact someone, without your OH's consent and gone a bit further than what you should have?

Have only ever been on the other side of it... back in my accountancy days, a friend’s wife contacted me to ask some advice about taxes (she was going self-employed). After we’d got that out of the way, we carried on chatting, until the conversation went in a direction that was, or could have been, inappropriate. We stppped the chat at that point before she’d embarassed herself.

At the weekend, she called and said she’d developed an enormous crush... obv he didn’t know... we left it at inappropriate phone chats and texts only, but we briefly entertained ‘what if...?’

Lips_Pearls · 13 July 2018

Pearls said:
Need to get anything of your chest dear :hmm:xx

No darling xx

fincon said:
Have only ever been on the other side of it... back in my accountancy days, a friend’s wife contacted me to ask some advice about taxes (she was going self-employed). After we’d got that out of the way, we carried on chatting, until the conversation went in a direction that was, or could have been, inappropriate. We stppped the chat at that point before she’d embarassed herself.

At the weekend, she called and said she’d developed an enormous crush... obv he didn’t know... we left it at inappropriate phone chats and texts only, but we briefly entertained ‘what if...?’

Hmm perhaps something could have been there I think!

fincon · 13 July 2018

Lips_Pearls said:
Hmm perhaps something could have been there I think!

Oh, I think it was definitely there, had we both wanted it, but a) her fella was a friend, and b) at the time, the chats were fun without... danger? If that makes sense.

Lips_Pearls · 13 July 2018

fincon said:
Oh, I think it was definitely there, had we both wanted it, but a) her fella was a friend, and b) at the time, the chats were fun without... danger? If that makes sense.

Yes, dangerous waters there my friend. Not fair on all of you either. Best it ended the way it did I think.

Pearls · 13 July 2018

Lips_Pearls said:
No darling xx

Hmm perhaps something could have been there I think!

Zipped lip smilie

Arb · 13 July 2018

I fell into this, it sucks I made a mistake chatting to another women, nothing sexual in it at all, just chat, inane banter I thought nothing of it, until my fwb found out at which point it went epic.
I feel bad for the hurt I caused and lost a friend over it.
I’m learning all the time, truly honesty is the best policy no matter how trivial you may think it be.

BoltonBiFemCpl · 15 July 2018

nope never had this problem as we leave our phones and laptops open so we both know every message thats sent

Vanezza · 15 July 2018

Never happens our phones are an open book we can read each others messages at any time and pm on here too it's how we work honesty all the way

Vxxx

Looby&Lew · 16 July 2018

We are the same. We also try to set up group chats. I probably chat more than Lew but I always make it clear from the outset that my messages are free to be read. I think it just sets the boundaries from the outset xx

Carpediem2008 · 16 July 2018

love reading wifey's naughty chat with the ladies but again total transparency is always the best option after all it's only chat our cardinal rule is we are open honest and we only meet as a couple...but some of the chats.....oh my great reading hehe.x

Lips_Pearls · 13 September 2018

Ommm we've very recently been informed of someone who landed themselves in right hoot water for doing this. Silly person.. Oops.
Easily done? Or simply letting themselves get carried away?

Pearls · 13 September 2018

Lips_Pearls said:
Ommm we've very recently been informed of someone who landed themselves in right hoot water for doing this. Silly person.. Oops.
Easily done? Or simply letting themselves get carried away?

Forgeting their place

TogNMuse · 14 April 2019

No, it would go against everything in our relationship, besides we get turned on by the other being flirty with other people, and I'm crap at keeping secrets

Pearls · 22 April 2019

I wonder how many have been caught though

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