Where The Hell Are You All Hiding?

Baldrick · 30 September 2018

A shout out to the members. What do you do on Social Swinging? How do you use the site? PM'ing, chat rooms, forums?
Personally I'd love to see more people in the forums (cos I'm a tart ).
Members this is our site, we make it what it is. Sure the owners pay for it, hell we pay for it too, but without us there is no site.

We need ideas to get more people in the forums chatting. Without this the site will go stale.
So saying that do we have any suggestions on how to do this? Are we just content 'changing letters'? The more people we drag in here, surely the more chance we have of potential meets? Is something putting you off?
Answers on a postcard please (or more productively in this thread).
Baldrick's personal guarantee of no repercussions (They can't ban me you know, part of the furniture I am ). I take full responsibility .

X

Nigel&Julie · 30 September 2018

Baldrick said:
A shout out to the members. What do you do on Social Swinging? How do you use the site? PM'ing, chat rooms, forums?
Personally I'd love to see more people in the forums (cos I'm a tart ).
Members this is our site, we make it what it is. Sure the owners pay for it, hell we pay for it too, but without us there is no site.

We need ideas to get more people in the forums chatting. Without this the site will go stale.
So saying that do we have any suggestions on how to do this? Are we just content 'changing letters'? The more people we drag in here, surely the more chance we have of potential meets? Is something putting you off?
Answers on a postcard please (or more productively in this thread).
Baldrick's personal guarantee of no repercussions (They can't ban me you know, part of the furniture I am ). I take full responsibility .

X

Err our lasted thread:threesum:

MP386 · 30 September 2018

Baldrick said:
A shout out to the members. What do you do on Social Swinging? How do you use the site? PM'ing, chat rooms, forums?
Personally I'd love to see more people in the forums (cos I'm a tart ).
Members this is our site, we make it what it is. Sure the owners pay for it, hell we pay for it too, but without us there is no site.

We need ideas to get more people in the forums chatting. Without this the site will go stale.
So saying that do we have any suggestions on how to do this? Are we just content 'changing letters'? The more people we drag in here, surely the more chance we have of potential meets? Is something putting you off?
Answers on a postcard please (or more productively in this thread).
Baldrick's personal guarantee of no repercussions (They can't ban me you know, part of the furniture I am ). I take full responsibility .

X

Some one has that red button so I wouldn’t be so sure

Lips_Pearls · 30 September 2018

Baldrick said:
A shout out to the members. What do you do on Social Swinging? How do you use the site? PM'ing, chat rooms, forums?
Personally I'd love to see more people in the forums (cos I'm a tart ).
Members this is our site, we make it what it is. Sure the owners pay for it, hell we pay for it too, but without us there is no site.

We need ideas to get more people in the forums chatting. Without this the site will go stale.
So saying that do we have any suggestions on how to do this? Are we just content 'changing letters'? The more people we drag in here, surely the more chance we have of potential meets? Is something putting you off?
Answers on a postcard please (or more productively in this thread).
Baldrick's personal guarantee of no repercussions (They can't ban me you know, part of the furniture I am ). I take full responsibility .

X

Brilliant thread & post!

Baldrick · 30 September 2018

Nigel&Julie said:
Err our lasted thread:threesum:

I see this, and perhaps I need more courage, but aye I can't knock your enthusiasm. Great to see you both not discouraged and putting yourself out there.

MP386 said:
Some one has that red button so I wouldn’t be so sure

Bah they can't ban me you know. Im a law unto myself #Baldricksrules

Lips_Pearls said:
Brilliant thread & post!

Thanks muchly....... but no Admins allowed and I've nicked your button #BoomerangBaldrick

X

Nigel&Julie · 30 September 2018

Still no PM's as yet, but early days, hopefully things will change. xxjxx

Antogs · 1 October 2018

It would be interesting to know the actual number of "active" members compared to the number of unique posters on the forums because it does seem that beyond the "hardcore" of usual forum contributors we don't see a lot of "fresh meat"

Antogs

Baldrick · 1 October 2018

Antogs said:
It would be interesting to know the actual number of "active" members compared to the number of unique posters on the forums because it does seem that beyond the "hardcore" of usual forum contributors we don't see a lot of "fresh meat"

Antogs

Well it's time to sort that out out isn't it?
Hence the post. Let's find out what everybody's up to .

X

Somebody take this Gin off me

Sammy · 1 October 2018

I've been kicking about now for 18 months

I absolutely looooove the forums when they are jumping ,i love the craic banter and fun

I've used chat lots n lot
I've used pms lots
I've never used the video/cam facilities

I generally talk to everyone and anyone

however things have changed recently for me , both personally and onsite

I have intentionally not been as active on site as I'm finding there's lots of ranting moaning and negativity

There was a time here the forums were jumping and many many many many people were active Friday nights were awesome

Now all I see is negative ranting

This in itself is a turn off

Sx

Baldrick · 1 October 2018

Sammy said:
I've been kicking about now for 18 months

I absolutely looooove the forums when they are jumping ,i love the craic banter and fun

I've used chat lots n lot
I've used pms lots
I've never used the video/cam facilities

I generally talk to everyone and anyone

however things have changed recently for me , both personally and onsite

I have intentionally not been as active on site as I'm finding there's lots of ranting moaning and negativity

There was a time here the forums were jumping and many many many many people were active Friday nights were awesome

Now all I see is negative ranting

This in itself is a turn off

Sx

And I am as guilty as anybody lately ?
(Due to personal circumstance) @Sammy but it's good to have the feedback I think. Without feedback changes can't be made.

So to sum up..... You would like more positivity, flirty interactions and less negativity and ranting. Food for thought I'm sure.

X

Louise1970 · 1 October 2018

Sammy said:
I've been kicking about now for 18 months

I absolutely looooove the forums when they are jumping ,i love the craic banter and fun

I've used chat lots n lot
I've used pms lots
I've never used the video/cam facilities

I generally talk to everyone and anyone

however things have changed recently for me , both personally and onsite

I have intentionally not been as active on site as I'm finding there's lots of ranting moaning and negativity

There was a time here the forums were jumping and many many many many people were active Friday nights were awesome

Now all I see is negative ranting

This in itself is a turn off

Sx

Back in the day we used to have laughs think we should do it again what do you think miss x

Vanezza · 1 October 2018

I will ask V if she is up for it.... erm what am I saying?

N xxx

fincon · 1 October 2018

Sammy said:
I've used chat lots n lot
I've used pms lots
I've never used the video/cam facilities

I generally talk to everyone and anyone

Well, I've used chat very occasionally. Have rarely had the inclination, to be honest, and I should address that.

I've used pms once in a blue moon. And rarely for anything other than something specifically site related.

I've never used the video/cam facilities.

I generally talk to everyone and anyone… in the forums.

Ahabs · 1 October 2018

Sammy said:
I've been kicking about now for 18 months

I absolutely looooove the forums when they are jumping ,i love the craic banter and fun

I've used chat lots n lot
I've used pms lots
I've never used the video/cam facilities

I generally talk to everyone and anyone

however things have changed recently for me , both personally and onsite

I have intentionally not been as active on site as I'm finding there's lots of ranting moaning and negativity

There was a time here the forums were jumping and many many many many people were active Friday nights were awesome

Now all I see is negative ranting

This in itself is a turn off

Sx

I love this site: its fun, the members are friendly, the staffing team are great, approachable and supportive. Easily all the potential and ingredients to be the best swinging site out there. Unfortunately, there appears to be a "limp" that I think a number of members have observed, hence where the negativity is coming from.

On the one hand, it is a swinging site: the aim is to swing. Yes all the familiar decorum and etiquette are still present and are encouraged to be observed ("don't assume to get insta-shag just cause its a swing site",...) and all that. Banter, chat, laughs, humour... all ingredients. However it is possible the "swinging" aspect may appear to be lagging behind the "social" aspect? (Just a personal perspective, I could be massively wrong).

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying no one is meeting, and can't use my experiences as a yard stick. And I must emphasise a strong point: no one has any right to a meet (any meet!), but as a guy I do have to say, it appears a lot of guys have to "wait" on the wings till a prospective invite appears - there's only so much bait we can put out.

Now I don't know how it works for single girls, and I have no idea what its like for other couples, but ultimately it "feels" as if folk have a bit more time for the online social aspect, and little time for anything else offline. Hence some of the negativity that I think a number of members (having bottled for a while) are starting to comment.

But maybe I'm just wrong on all points. I'm hapy to be corrected.

Baldrick · 1 October 2018

Ahabs said:
I love this site: its fun, the members are friendly, the staffing team are great, approachable and supportive. Easily all the potential and ingredients to be the best swinging site out there. Unfortunately, there appears to be a "limp" that I think a number of members have observed, hence where the negativity is coming from.

On the one hand, it is a swinging site: the aim is to swing. Yes all the familiar decorum and etiquette are still present and are encouraged to be observed ("don't assume to get insta-shag just cause its a swing site",...) and all that. Banter, chat, laughs, humour... all ingredients. However it is possible the "swinging" aspect may appear to be lagging behind the "social" aspect? (Just a personal perspective, I could be massively wrong).

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying no one is meeting, and can't use my experiences as a yard stick. And I must emphasise a strong point: no one has any right to a meet (any meet!), but as a guy I do have to say, it appears a lot of guys have to "wait" on the wings till a prospective invite appears - there's only so much bait we can put out.

Now I don't know how it works for single girls, and I have no idea what its like for other couples, but ultimately it "feels" as if folk have a bit more time for the online social aspect, and little time for anything else offline. Hence some of the negativity that I think a number of members (having bottled for a while) are starting to comment.

But maybe I'm just wrong on all points. I'm hapy to be corrected.

Ahabs my man. I'm sure that the members and staff here want to hear all opinions. What you say does resonate somewhat and it's up to members to help sort this out.
Interesting perspective that you believe swinging takes a backseat to social (and perhaps I don't disagree). It's down to us all to make this site as we want it (and I am as guilty as anybody for using it as a social media platform).

So what are we going to do about it? It's down to us at the end of the day. From your perspective how do we drag members in to the forums and get them to interact?

X

Ahabs · 1 October 2018

Baldrick said:
Ahabs my man. I'm sure that the members and staff here want to hear all opinions. What you say does resonate somewhat and it's up to members to help sort this out.
Interesting perspective that you believe swinging takes a backseat to social (and perhaps I don't disagree). It's down to us all to make this site as we want it (and I am as guilty as anybody for using it as a social media platform).

So what are we going to do about it? It's down to us at the end of the day. From your perspective how do we drag members in to the forums and get them to interact?

X

This is part of the problem when I ask myself the same question, and I try to make a list:
1) I make time to get on the forums (and have a catch up when I've been "away", ie, snowed under with work for days on end).
2) I can accomodate. Or travel for the right invite.
3) I'm happy to make the first move and email members
4) I try to do my research on profiles that catch my interest: if I don't see "Gent" sought, I don't contact. Ever.
5) I try to make the socials so long as I don't have any prior arrangements (example, missed Xtasia as was at a friend's birthday)
6) When interacting (online and in person) I try to be engaging and with a little luck, funny.
7) I try to make any flaws in myself less apparent: so I'm an ugly sod (not much can do about that) but I try
8) Oh yeah, I try to make an effort to be presentable
9) When in the presense of couples, I acknowledge both halves: Just cause I want to shag the missus is no excuse to forget my manners.
10) I make a point of note that ladies are "not just a hole". Some guys I;ve known over the years forget that, and that's shocking.

I may be missing some of the more obvious, but that up there is just off the top of my head - if anything else I can do to present myself in a better light, I am happy to take pointers.

Baldrick · 1 October 2018

Ahabs said:
This is part of the problem when I ask myself the same question, and I try to make a list:
1) I make time to get on the forums (and have a catch up when I've been "away", ie, snowed under with work for days on end).
2) I can accomodate. Or travel for the right invite.
3) I'm happy to make the first move and email members
4) I try to do my research on profiles that catch my interest: if I don't see "Gent" sought, I don't contact. Ever.
5) I try to make the socials so long as I don't have any prior arrangements (example, missed Xtasia as was at a friend's birthday)
6) When interacting (online and in person) I try to be engaging and with a little luck, funny.
7) I try to make any flaws in myself less apparent: so I'm an ugly sod (not much can do about that) but I try
8) Oh yeah, I try to make an effort to be presentable
9) When in the presense of couples, I acknowledge both halves: Just cause I want to shag the missus is no excuse to forget my manners.
10) I make a point of note that ladies are "not just a hole". Some guys I;ve known over the years forget that, and that's shocking.

I may be missing some of the more obvious, but that up there is just off the top of my head - if anything else I can do to present myself in a better light, I am happy to take pointers.

Although we do not know each that well I have it on the up most authority that you are an absolute gentleman (not telling you who though ) and some Sg's could benefit from your etiquette.

X

P.s tbh in a manly kind of way your physique is fair impressive. I'm a tad jealous

Ahabs · 1 October 2018

Baldrick said:
Although we do not know each that well I have it on the up most authority that you are an absolute gentleman (not telling you who though ) and some Sg's could benefit from your etiquette.

X

P.s tbh in a manly kind of way your physique is fair impressive. I'm a tad jealous

Lies, all lies! I'm an arrogant sod really
As for the physique, try not to look too close, you might see the signs of the sack cloth I sleep in, lol.

but in all seriousness, I don't think being a perfectly reasonable gent (best foot forward) is that hard. I however worry if that's what ladies (iun general terms of swinging) do want as I sometimes is usually far from enough.

As one lady said "You'd make the perfect guy I bring home to meet my mother, but for me you just haven't got the raaaghr factor", to which I replied "Oh well, is your mother still available then?"

Baldrick · 1 October 2018

Ahabs said:
Lies, all lies! I'm an arrogant sod really
As for the physique, try not to look too close, you might see the signs of the sack cloth I sleep in, lol.

but in all seriousness, I don't think being a perfectly reasonable gent (best foot forward) is that hard. I however worry if that's what ladies (iun general terms of swinging) do want as I sometimes is usually far from enough.

As one lady said "You'd make the perfect guy I bring home to meet my mother, but for me you just haven't got the raaaghr factor", to which I replied "Oh well, is your mother still available then?"

No I get it.
I am polite, yet outrageous, well mannered but as crass as can be, a perfect gent, but I will grab a throat and fuck in the bedroom. TMI I'm sure .

X

Ahabs · 1 October 2018

Baldrick said:
No I get it.
I am polite, yet outrageous, well mannered but as crass as can be, a perfect gent, but I will grab a throat and fuck in the bedroom. TMI I'm sure .

X

Oh I completely get where you're coming from: behind closed doors I can be as filthy as a deviant witht he best of them (maybe more), I just don't believe in showing all my wares unless such a lady that wishes to find out for herself.

Baldrick · 1 October 2018

Ahabs said:
Oh I completely get where you're coming from: behind closed doors I can be as filthy as a deviant witht he best of them (maybe more), I just don't believe in showing all my wares unless such a lady that wishes to find out for herself.

You know perhaps we were cut from the same cloth Ahabs. If only more people looked beneath the surface.......
...... Anyhow I've somehow managed to derail another of my own threads .

I'm really trying to find out how to drag newbies or long time members into these forums . Do I need to get my club out (pun not intended for a change )

X

Sammy · 1 October 2018

Ill come back to this later
Sx

.Jophanie. · 1 October 2018

Sammy said:
I've been kicking about now for 18 months

I absolutely looooove the forums when they are jumping ,i love the craic banter and fun

I've used chat lots n lot
I've used pms lots
I've never used the video/cam facilities

I generally talk to everyone and anyone

however things have changed recently for me , both personally and onsite

I have intentionally not been as active on site as I'm finding there's lots of ranting moaning and negativity

There was a time here the forums were jumping and many many many many people were active Friday nights were awesome

Now all I see is negative ranting

This in itself is a turn off

Sx

As is usually the way @Sammy has summed it up as I would have done!!
We agree the negativity is a turn off and some comments being posted read as put downs.... Which alters the "tone" massively.
We struggle with childcare etc. but our intention is to be actively social both online and in person. Having arranged childcare months ago and accommodation, for then every man, his dog and the sites "bread & butter" people not to attend the now cancelled Halloween social.... Was a disappointment! X

Deleted member 3411 · 1 October 2018

Sammy said:
Ill come back to this later
Sx

so will I, need to read all first then comment.

Purple Mamba Club · 1 October 2018

here xx hiding on the sofa - then back to give the hot tub it's weekly deep clean .. then hiding again until we open Thursday xxx

Where The Hell Are You All Hiding?

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