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Ok so why is it so difficult to find a man exactly how I want? Cultured, intelligent, funny, kind, sexy, cheeky. Just all that, including a spark? It's like they either don't exist or they're repulsed by me. All the guys I seem to attract are usually way off from being my type or they're just fucking boring. Or it's one of those little twats who just parties and drinks all the time and they're a complete manchild.
 
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Beds_Bi said:
Where are you looking for the man of your dreams? I wasn't even looking for a man, my friend put me on a dating site and was going through profiles, I just wanted a fuck buddy as I was a single mum with 4 kids. 13 years later we are still together he's not what I thought I wanted and we have our issues but he makes me laugh and smile xx
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Not exactly looking for one. But when I get to talking to people, it just annoys me when they're not what I really want, if that makes sense
 
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TheBrunetteandtheSexToy said:
Ok so why is it so difficult to find a man exactly how I want? Cultured, intelligent, funny, kind, sexy, cheeky. Just all that, including a spark? It's like they either don't exist or they're repulsed by me. All the guys I seem to attract are usually way off from being my type or they're just fucking boring. Or it's one of those little twats who just parties and drinks all the time and they're a complete manchild.
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If you find one fancy sharing? lol
 
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Scrunchy&Muffet said:
You'll never find one while youre looking for one. Its always happens when you least expect it. Just keep talking to people and making friends and Mr Right will come along. Until then....enjoy the peace lol xx
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Sound advice :)
 
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I'm struggling to find another buddy. All my previous ones just happened when least expected, but with such a huge decline in health, nobody is interested, but I totally get that.
 
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TheBrunetteandtheSexToy said:
Ok so why is it so difficult to find a man exactly how I want? Cultured, intelligent, funny, kind, sexy, cheeky. Just all that, including a spark? It's like they either don't exist or they're repulsed by me. All the guys I seem to attract are usually way off from being my type or they're just fucking boring. Or it's one of those little twats who just parties and drinks all the time and they're a complete manchild.
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Someone will turn up I'm sure from what I can tell you're an incredibly lovely and sexy person.
 
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@Admin and I had a conversation a couple of weeks ago about dating and meeting perspective partners, now in our day it was easy, you get glammed up with the girls, boys the same and head off to town, hit the pub and on to a night club where you would dance and enjoy. You would have gents come up to you offering a drink or a dance, you could leave your bag and drink on the table while doing this. Then of course come the last dance of the evening where all the girls and boys join and smooch, if you fancied each other then home numbers were exchanged or you were offered a bag of chips and a lift in a taxi.
Now if you were lucky then a second date would be made and hey ho, start of something special...:love:

So what do we have now for this generation of dating, computers, risk of rape, drugs, drink, now if you go to a club then men only want a shag and thats it....:rolleyes:

I feel for you hun as today is not a safe place to meet a genuine guy but they are out there, now you would never chance getting in a taxi or take a drink for too many risk factors.
Very sad that we now live in a world of technology to get a date, I'm glad that I met my man at the right time and he is a true gent, I never go to a bar, he always walks on the outside of the pavement, opens the door, Finding this now is rare but they are out there looking for that special lady like yourself..
You will see it when you least expect it and bang.. You'll never look back :love::love:
 
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Like bloody buses sweetie, must agree with muffet up there..
The harder you look, the less likely you are to find. And the more frustrated you'll become.
Enjoy your youth and your freedom...to do exactly as YOU please.
You have ample time, youll fall in love when you least expect it.
Yes i know you want someone to share your life with.. but its not 'always' a bed of roses..
At the moment you are free to dally with whom, you choose.. just enjoy doing so. :) xxx
 
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Kittyk84 said:
Its really sodding hard and ive not the whole not looking thing and still no-one came along then i went back on tinder & met a guy who is pretty much everything i wanted in a man then he turned out to be a cheat & twat & broke my heart (twice) and i hate that i still want him back!

Tbh im giving up now as what I want basically is a fairy tale that doesnt exist and sometimes that guy we want doesnt exist.. I blame bloody disney films!
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They do exist hun, I had the fairy tale, sounds corny but true, when you least expect it, love will show itself in a weird and wonderful way :love:xxx
 
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Kittyk84 said:
Ive least expected it for a long time now all I get now is 'divorced at your age' 'how are you single' and then the best one 'well there must be something wrong with you' men these days want the bimbos from towie as a girlfriend and anything that isnt that is ok for a quick fuck you darent not tell your mates about! Guy now have been ruined by tv and social media :( x
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As I said previously it is difficult in today's society and hard for me to comment as I have no experience, all I can say is hang on in there hun xxx
 
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Kittyk84 said:
Ive least expected it for a long time now all I get now is 'divorced at your age' 'how are you single' and then the best one 'well there must be something wrong with you' men these days want the bimbos from towie as a girlfriend and anything that isnt that is ok for a quick fuck you darent not tell your mates about! Guy now have been ruined by tv and social media :( x
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Ohhh the "how are you single?" question is always hard and trust omost men don't want bimbos from TOWIE
 
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Lovernotfighter said:
Exactly my thinking, especially when used as a hint, hint, wink, wink way of asking you out but that might just be me and my inability to notice subtle advances when focused at me.
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Or that question guys ask to see if I'm single or a way of asking me out. You ready for it? "How's your boyfriend?". Fucking wow man. -_-
 
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Marky191268 said:
You obviously don't like that approach and I accept that, but just stream it back a little. A guy sees you, finds you attractive and wants to chat but doesn't want to tread on anyone shoes...
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There isn't a guy on this earth I would date if he asked me that question. The guys I've ever been interested in, have never asked something like that
 
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