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Swinging and bdsm do crossover and many clubs have facilities for both, usually in separate areas. Quite a few people seem to enjoy having sex on the bdsm furniture but would never take it any further than that, so I guess you can say that is a crossover.
We used the bdsm facilities at the last social, a first for us in a club, and we both enjoyed the experience and I believe so did a few onlookers. Maybe they were curious, maybe they will give it a go at home themselves but nobody complained or commented. In fact we were told by the owner on leaving it was the first time the club had actually had a female dominant and they asked when we would be going back. So yes the two crossover and as @Lips_Pearls says, provided nothing it taken to the extreme we believe bdsm in nothing more than a kinkier side of sex, as is, for example a gangbang.
Here's a post I put on another site:
I've always thought that there is a very strong crossover between BDSM and swinging but the BDSM 'Scene' do tend to look down their noses at swingers.
I remember the parties at Ceasars Nightclub in Balsall Common, there was a very definite divide. One of the issues I saw was the one of consent with a lot of the swingers not understanding the concept of power exchange. Then there were the purist BDSM'ers who'd insist that BDSM wasn't about sex, mind you that didn't stop them instructing a sub to suck their cock and even sharing subs.
It used to be a great weekend away. Ceasars Friday night followed by the Midlands (BDSM) munch Saturday afternoon and the BBB Sunday.
I've always thought that there is a very strong crossover between BDSM and swinging but the BDSM 'Scene' do tend to look down their noses at swingers.
I remember the parties at Ceasars Nightclub in Balsall Common, there was a very definite divide. One of the issues I saw was the one of consent with a lot of the swingers not understanding the concept of power exchange. Then there were the purist BDSM'ers who'd insist that BDSM wasn't about sex, mind you that didn't stop them instructing a sub to suck their cock and even sharing subs.
It used to be a great weekend away. Ceasars Friday night followed by the Midlands (BDSM) munch Saturday afternoon and the BBB Sunday.
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Exactly this, seen it myself
I seriously believe more sex acts go on at small BDSM parties than do at similar swinging get togethers.
Don't even get me started on how the 'best most experienced doms' prefer to play with new young subs all for the subs safety of course.
The two can crossover. Love it... as some know, we're 24/7 D/s marriage and love what dynamics we have. Hell, 20 years later and we're still discovering and enjoying our journey together x
BDSM and Swinging seem to be absolutely ideal bedfellows (pun intended
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At their best both "activities" attract open-minded, sexually secure intelligent people.
The matter of trust is paramount in both BDSM and Swinging.
It is the norm for partners in both disciplines (another pun intended
) to have sex with people outside of their relationship which more often than not has a very positive effect on not only the sex lives of the couple but with the relationship itself.
My background is one of BDSM but, for me personally, I have over time drifted more towards the swinging side of things as that's where I started to feel most comfortable. .Mainly because I didn't have a partner with which to indulge my, pretty innocent by most standards, BDSM tendencies. And in my own personal experience, it's can be even more awkward being a single guy in a Fetish environment than it is in a Swinging environment.
I think a lot of us forget how horrible, for single guys in particular, it can be away from the loving embrace of SocialSwinging.Com
)At their best both "activities" attract open-minded, sexually secure intelligent people.
The matter of trust is paramount in both BDSM and Swinging.
It is the norm for partners in both disciplines (another pun intended
) to have sex with people outside of their relationship which more often than not has a very positive effect on not only the sex lives of the couple but with the relationship itself.My background is one of BDSM but, for me personally, I have over time drifted more towards the swinging side of things as that's where I started to feel most comfortable. .Mainly because I didn't have a partner with which to indulge my, pretty innocent by most standards, BDSM tendencies. And in my own personal experience, it's can be even more awkward being a single guy in a Fetish environment than it is in a Swinging environment.
I think a lot of us forget how horrible, for single guys in particular, it can be away from the loving embrace of SocialSwinging.Com
Agreed. We do try so very hard to be all inclusive and we’re advocates of single gents. But we’re also acutely aware of how it can be away from here - for single gents in all of this.BDSM and Swinging seem to be absolutely ideal bedfellows (pun intended
At their best both "activities" attract open-minded, sexually secure intelligent people.
The matter of trust is paramount in both BDSM and Swinging.
It is the norm for partners in both disciplines (another pun intended
My background is one of BDSM but, for me personally, I have over time drifted more towards the swinging side of things as that's where I started to feel most comfortable. .Mainly because I didn't have a partner with which to indulge my, pretty innocent by most standards, BDSM tendencies. And in my own personal experience, it's can be even more awkward being a single guy in a Fetish environment than it is in a Swinging environment.
I think a lot of us forget how horrible, for single guys in particular, it can be away from the loving embrace of SocialSwinging.Com
As I’ve said before - we can’t fix all of this, but we can help educate and help change things, one step at a time and one day at a time.
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From a newbie point of view I have often thought the two go hand in hand...my first visit to a swingers club I witnessed the dungeon in use, the second visit not 4 days later I was ..ahem...used in the dungeon before wandering off and playing....now for me, the two are inextricably linked...
I have now found an immense attraction to the fetish scene, again, I think that is linked to swinging and BDSM, the lines are becoming more and more blurred and I love the fact that people of each 'kink' are accepting of others.
I generally dislike labels but do find them helpful to establish whereabouts someone is within the scene and once established the label is discarded.
I generally dislike labels but do find them helpful to establish whereabouts someone is within the scene and once established the label is discarded.
I have occasionally dabbled, I do enjoy a bit of slap and tickle... but the whole nine yards...
...too much faff.
Sorry.
We know.
I hear you. Sometimes (and remember, I built anchor points into the wall) you just want to get to it and fuck senseless - no bells & whistles.
Exactly.We know.
I hear you. Sometimes (and remember, I built anchor points into the wall) you just want to get to it and fuck senseless - no bells & whistles.
I'm just a simple country boy with simple country tastes. Nuffink too fancy, mister
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We bought one off ebay to try, only a small kit but I have to say mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm S xxxxxx
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Bought what?
I may have missed a few posts
Hahah no its me! We bought a little BDSM kit off ebay to try out, ooooffffff me like very much! S xxxx
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Oh I say! You need to take some pics
We tried it out Saturday, ooooffffff and completely forgot to take a pic, I shall rectify that very shortly! S xxxx
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That would be great, we could do with some BDSM photos in the gallery
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