Little Or Large?

[Carpediem2008]

so after joining this site and receiving such a warm welcome we decided it might be a good idea to close down our other accounts. while going through some unread messages i came across one message questioning if i should be showing pics of me(male) as i'm overweight and as my junk isn't anything to call home about....their words......now while i do have a thick skin and i'm not going to cry about it....it did hurt my feelings a little and got me questioning is the swinger life style hinged on what we look like on the outside???

i get there's an attraction element but in my opinion i find confidence and personality a big turn on the physical is secondary to that....
over the past year we have received some really horrid messages with regards to body size or appendage size even bex has received a few negative and hurtful messages and as you can all see she rocks a cracking curvy figure(not that i'm bias of course)

my question to you guys is would you rather have a meet with a skinny single or couple who had the personality of a wet tea bag or someone with a few extra pounds who you can have a laugh and fun with???

 

[Deleted member 8095]

Oh my gosh, that is bloody awful!!!

Me pesonally (Mrs) i find someone i get on with is far more attractive than a body. I have to connect with a person on some sort of level before i can do anything with them. A sense of humour is the biggest turn on for me, i need to be able to laugh with a person otherwise its a no go for me.
By the way, ive had a perv at you pics and found them very sexy, all of them

 

[Pearls]

Good thread both.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

so after joining this site and receiving such a warm welcome we decided it might be a good idea to close down our other accounts. while going through some unread messages i came across one message questioning if i should be showing pics of me(male) as i'm overweight and as my junk isn't anything to call home about....their words......now while i do have a thick skin and i'm not going to cry about it....it did hurt my feelings a little and got me questioning is the swinger life style hinged on what we look like on the outside???

i get there's an attraction element but in my opinion i find confidence and personality a big turn on the physical is secondary to that....
over the past year we have received some really horrid messages with regards to body size or appendage size even bex has received a few negative and hurtful messages and as you can all see she rocks a cracking curvy figure(not that i'm bias of course)

my question to you guys is would you rather have a meet with a skinny single or couple who had the personality of a wet tea bag or someone with a few extra pounds who you can have a laugh and fun with???

That's disgusting tbh but it does show however, that's not what swinging is really about. It really is not.
Overweight, junk anything to call home? Balls to that. What are they some Adonis themselves or something?
Sadly it goes to show how spiteful a lot of people can be. Even more so over there.
It's a breeding ground for negativity and spitefulness.

After checking your media, you both look fine from here. But it's not what anyone else thinks; it's how you feel. How confident you are. Balls to anyone else tbh.

With regards to this;

my question to you guys is would you rather have a meet with a skinny single or couple who had the personality of a wet tea bag or someone with a few extra pounds who you can have a laugh and fun with???

Give us someone who we can relax with and have a good laugh with. Someone we can connect with. That's what is most important to us. Size is irrespective in this for us. We've had fun with people from all sorts of sizes and backgrounds, even saying that alone is almost a fine line as it's really not important.
Personality and that charm, the attraction mentally is what gets us. The spark..
We find that spark in someone and if it's reciprocated, then it's happy days. x

 

[Neetdan]

Hi , with me (female) there has to be some sort of attraction but as a larger couple ourselves we both prefer the larger person in return. I've taken a look at your photos and there's nothing wrong with either of you and for others to tell you otherwise goes to prove that the problem lies with them and not with you x

 

[MP386]

I have never used any other site just this one ... I have never had any negative comments from anyone.... only me about me I do regularly get told off for doing it but it’s my way ...
I am nothing to write home about ... I am aging , have moobs and many other wobbly bits .. I don’t have a huge appendage to compensate what you see is what you get ... take it or leave it ....
Having taken a quick peek at your media .... I am never found in the gallery
Not sure where anyone can say negative Mrs has an absolutely stunning bum ...
I have met a few people from here all different in there own way and all equally sexy .... personality yes plays a big part in the connection and also attraction I think is all part of doing this .... so I wouldn’t base anything on size I would equally meet a size zero or a plus size lady ... couple ...

 

[Vanezza]

Firstly i would like to say that is terrible no one should be sizeist in my opinion size is irrelevent. I would rather meet someone that has huge personality and big than someone that is skinny and has the personality of a slug, and your pics are lovely have enjoyed taking a peek or two

Vxxx

 

[Wkd n whisky]

Thats awful to have got messahes like that. we are on the larger side but my confidence has grown so much since we started our journey
I look at my pics and think eww dont like that but others like it.
For us meeting people its not really about looks but the personality and sense of humour and if there is that spark between us.
bex x

 

[Carpediem2008]

Wow guys dunno what to say such a massive response.... Very moving to read such positive reinforcement ... Wish we had found this site site before the others.. .has always been my opinion we generally body shame ourselves enough .. Little or large why should anyone want to do that to others I guess it's just a down side to how we choose to live our lives ... But guy wow thank you so much for this response has really helped put it in perspective for me.... You guys rock X

 

[Looby&Lew]

Well I'm with the rest....I've wasted far too much time being bothered about the way I look or what anyone else thinks about the way I look.... if I lose weight I do it for me. I look at pictures of women with fantastic amazing bodies and wish I looked like that. Then I think are they having as much naughty fun as me? Are they comfortable in their own skin ? Who knows?

For us it's all about the connection and that little bit of chemistry. Body size, age within reason i.e. not my kids ages,looks...in the grand scheme of things not important to us.
On the other hand if you look like a god or goddess and you are a complete dick then for us you can trot on....

As others, in the interest of thorough research, I have perved your pics...I mean had a look.... yum yum very sexy and erotic xx

 

[Deleted member 6935]

That's horrible. I'm sick of body shamers whether it's general media or anything thats meant to be a bit more fun.
I always feel they must have something they're so insecure about to point out what they believe are floors in others.

 

[.Jophanie.]

Sooo many points raised in this thread we can relate to!
Mr J and I have both been concerned as to how our bodies would be 'seen'... Thank goodness we gravitated towards this site over the others!
If people want to pull you off the ladder and knock you down, it's a reflection of themselves and there hang ups, not yours!!!
It has taken us several months to feel at ease with ourselves and how we look, and much of that is down to being a part of a supportive, generous community! Its taken me 7 years to wear a bikini in front of people.... And a couple of weeks ago I did it and it felt good!
For us attraction is not skin deep, it's definitely about the full package, goodness some times we are attracted to people's minds and find that a turn on!!!! X x

 

[Deleted member 9925]

We find people who are very attractive usually know it and can be a massive turn off personality is so important and that's the key thing for us a couple we can have a laugh with

Anyone who would send a message like that has some issues and the problem lies entirely at their feet not yours let them sit with their hate and spite whilst you go out and have fun

 

[Leonidas480]

It's awful that anyone would post such negative messages. Great to see such strong support from the SS members, I add my voice to that! You're pics are great btw.

For me, I have to get on with a person and if they're friendly and easy to chat to, that is a huge attraction. Of course there is an element of physical attraction aswell, but personality is more important to me.

 

[Antogs]

Sooo many points raised in this thread we can relate to!
Its taken me 7 years to wear a bikini in front of people.... And a couple of weeks ago I did it and it felt good!

7 Years !! and all I'd like to do is get you straight back out of it :spankin:

Antogs xx

 

[Ahabs]

See here's the thing, there's a difference between having a preference for people of a particular body shape, and actually insulting someone else over their body shape. We can't all be model-thin (gosh, I wish I could) and even though I admit I would with someone of a certain body shape if the offer was there, I would rather someone with a beautiful personality (that wasn't a member of the "body beautifuls") than someone with supremely god-like features yet lacking in empathy. Sadly I've known a few of the latter in my time, and there's simply no need for it: our looks will change over time, we however are fully responsible for our personality and how we relate with and treat others, and that's what counts.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

See here's the thing, there's a difference between having a preference for people of a particular body shape, and actually insulting someone else over their body shape. We can't all be model-thin (gosh, I wish I could) and even though I admit I would with someone of a certain body shape if the offer was there, I would rather someone with a beautiful personality (that wasn't a member of the "body beautifuls") than someone with supremely god-like features yet lacking in empathy. Sadly I've known a few of the latter in my time, and there's simply no need for it: our looks will change over time, we however are fully responsible for our personality and how we relate with and treat others, and that's what counts.

Couldn’t agree more

 

[Delboy51]

It’s sad but it’s typical of other sites nowadays though .. ohh and I’m new so be gentle with me

 

[Sammy]

It’s sad but it’s typical of other sites nowadays though .. ohh and I’m new so be gentle with me

Silly boy lol
Be gentle lol
You will learn!
Sx

 

[Delboy51]

Well gentleness is all about perception sammy what’s gentle to me may be something else to you lol

 

[Sammy]

Well gentleness is all about perception sammy what’s gentle to me may be something else to you lol

Oh you are so very right
Trust me lol I won't throw you to the lionesses just yet
Welcome to site
Stick up a hello post and all the members will come give you a proper SS welcome
Sx

 

[The-Gent]

Hi

 

[Delboy51]

I’ve been thinking who are the lionesses lol

 

[The-Gent]

I’ve been thinking who are the lionesses lol

The lot of em matey !!!

 

[Sammy]

I’ve been thinking who are the lionesses lol

Oh lol you'll find out soon enough
Sx