I don't really want to pinpoint newbies but it has been a little more of late that new people join and don't PV and jump on your profile and ask for a meet on the first day they join. If someone has not pv'd then it isn't going to happen not even chat tbh, reasons are 1 they could be anybody and 2 I find it a bit over forward and over confident. I could be the unusual one I don't know but what's wrong with a bit of banter and general chat and if all goes well and the attraction is there then some naughty chat. Oh god, I sound like the worlds biggest prude but you guys know I am not. I just honestly don't go into the rush meet thing it is just not me, however, Neil may differ. As Neil has said to me on numerous occasions I am the boss but really I feel we both as a couple should decide together and we do that too.
Vxxx
Not really V, I saw this trend too. I remember chatting to a Canadian lady before I started, they'd been swingers for years, she gave me lots of good advice. One of the best is "Folk swing because it's fun, but as such it's no different to dating, you don't go up to a woman you just saw at a bar and say 'want to go somewhere and fuck' so why would you think it's ok with swingers".
You need to be patient and take care, but in truth I was just as bad at reading the 'yes I like you so ask me out dummy' signs as I am now at 'yes we're interested tell Linda we'd like to meet' signs. Linda is old fashioned and in Brazil just as here girls don't ask first.
Yeah, I think people just need to keep their wits about them really.
While PV helps, it's not a silver bullet by any stretch of the imagination. But, that said, when newbies join and instantly post on your profile or contact you in chat with the 'FAF' message - then it's a tad off-putting and something that I personally feel doesn't sit with the ethos of the site.
That ethos is putting back what swinging used to be and what it should be; get to know people, chat to people, socialise and go from there.
Not meat market shite where members are treated like cattle. It's undoing years of damage that's been allowed to happen. Not an easy task whatsoever... seriously it's not.
But those who join, stay, get involved and mingle - are worth 10 of the FAF crew.
You can always tell the more genuine swingers on here to the fantasists and pic collectors etc.
For those who are here, involved, getting stuck in - just keep on doing what you're doing. x