Evening all,
Yesterday I said on a reply to a post that we would feel able to ask anything so here goes ...
Last week we were both so excited about being here (and still are) and our brains and bodies were moving on at a great pace thinking about the real possibilities of the experiences that might be to come.
If I’m honest I was ‘behind’ R on the thought of actually playing with another couple for some time but suddenly I was totally up for it and firmly in the driving seat, revving up through the gears. Last week I would have zoomed up the motorway straight to Popping-Our-Swinging-Cherry Central (wherever that may have been).
Over the last few days we’ve both had wobbles about it. We’ve talked about insecurities and worries and we are back on track but at a slower pace and perhaps planning to enjoy the scenery, discovered and yet to be discovered, for a while en route.
I think this is where this site wins. The social element seems to be just as important as the swinging and so then maybe it’s not so daunting for first timers?
So ... is having these wobbles ‘normal’ or is there no normal? For those of you who’ve been here or part of the scene for a while is this something that you get over or get used to or does it rear its head on and off over time?
Happy for anyone to PM if it’s easier to talk privately about this.
J x
Yesterday I said on a reply to a post that we would feel able to ask anything so here goes ...
Last week we were both so excited about being here (and still are) and our brains and bodies were moving on at a great pace thinking about the real possibilities of the experiences that might be to come.
If I’m honest I was ‘behind’ R on the thought of actually playing with another couple for some time but suddenly I was totally up for it and firmly in the driving seat, revving up through the gears. Last week I would have zoomed up the motorway straight to Popping-Our-Swinging-Cherry Central (wherever that may have been).
Over the last few days we’ve both had wobbles about it. We’ve talked about insecurities and worries and we are back on track but at a slower pace and perhaps planning to enjoy the scenery, discovered and yet to be discovered, for a while en route.
I think this is where this site wins. The social element seems to be just as important as the swinging and so then maybe it’s not so daunting for first timers?
So ... is having these wobbles ‘normal’ or is there no normal? For those of you who’ve been here or part of the scene for a while is this something that you get over or get used to or does it rear its head on and off over time?
Happy for anyone to PM if it’s easier to talk privately about this.
J x