I observed this from events I went to, there was some swapping going on at them. Usually ended up with a split. I've always thought that Swinging only works because you are solid which is the exact opposite of because you've got problems. There's a difference between having issues in your relationship and just being bored because you haven't found anything new and exciting to do as a couple. Some I think their relationship has become stale through boredom so swinging will bring the excitement back, but the truth is is they have lost touch with each other so need to get that relationship sorted first, or even just sort that and not swing at all.
I think it's the single biggest question any couple have to ask themselves in swinging, what is our motivation, why do we want to do it? The next question is the first time you do to sit down after and honestly tell each other how you felt. A bit different for Linda and I in that we had both been swingingers before we met, but still after the first time we sat down and talked it over. For me I was delighted but not because it was horny or gave me a kick or made me feel sexy but because I felt closer to her after than I did before. Watching her play with a gorgeous South African lady was a great feeling of sharing rather than any guilt feelings or worry as to whether or not she enjoys her more than me. Linda on the other hand apart from having had a good time said she only enjoyed it cos she knew I was there, her only regret was that she wanted to see me have fun too like she had. Giving chance I'm sure you'll enjoy watching me me do that for her.