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Pearls

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Pearls

18 July 2015
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We know this goes on, male or female, some even mention they are swinging without the partner knowing or In a sexless relationship.

So if you know the person is cheating would you still go ahead?

This is something we see everyday, for us we have no interest in being part of a possible domestic disaster but what is everyone else's thoughts on this.
 
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Pearls

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Pearls

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meandlis said:
No, we wouldn't get involved. Not for any reasons of judgement, but we can just do without the attendant dramas. There's enough for us to worry about, without getting involved in other people's domestic crap.
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I fully agree, I know a lot that are open about it and don't hide the fact which is fine but no way for us, I would break Admin's balls if he did without me knowing...(y)(y)
 
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Therapon

Therapon

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Good question and I'm not sure I have an answer. As you know I'm a single older guy which means that any meets are less likely as most people are looking for singles/couples within the own age range - not for debate here it's just a simple observation.
So if I knew someone was cheating but they didn't tell me then I'd hope I would say No. Someone cheating and they were open and honest enough to tell me then possibly. Some people might not like my response but I am being realistic, given the choice of potentially having some fun or saying No because it's morally correct, could I refuse, I really don't know. :confused:
 
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Pearls

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Pearls

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Therapon said:
Good question and I'm not sure I have an answer. As you know I'm a single older guy which means that any meets are less likely as most people are looking for singles/couples within the own age range - not for debate here it's just a simple observation.
So if I knew someone was cheating but they didn't tell me then I'd hope I would say No. Someone cheating and they were open and honest enough to tell me then possibly. Some people might not like my response but I am being realistic, given the choice of potentially having some fun or saying No because it's morally correct, could I refuse, I really don't know. :confused:
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Well you have been honest so that gets the thumbs up (y)xx
 
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Pearls

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Therapon said:
Thanks @Pearls, I really wasn't sure if I should reply or not but I am sure I'm not the only person that would find this a real dilemma. On any other site but here I would have said "No of course I wouldn't go ahead" which says something.
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At the end of the day it comes down to freedom of choice, as long as all persons are happy then fine, it comes down to personal choice at the end of the day :)xx
 
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Therapon said:
Thanks @Pearls, I really wasn't sure if I should reply or not but I am sure I'm not the only person that would find this a real dilemma. On any other site but here I would have said "No of course I wouldn't go ahead" which says something.
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Therapon said:
Good question and I'm not sure I have an answer. As you know I'm a single older guy which means that any meets are less likely as most people are looking for singles/couples within the own age range - not for debate here it's just a simple observation.
So if I knew someone was cheating but they didn't tell me then I'd hope I would say No. Someone cheating and they were open and honest enough to tell me then possibly. Some people might not like my response but I am being realistic, given the choice of potentially having some fun or saying No because it's morally correct, could I refuse, I really don't know. :confused:
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Anyone on this site NO as i like to think I'm making friends and friends never ever do that to each other. Other than that as long as they tell you then you can make the decision and any fall out you can't deny it.
Yep I'm older and as Mr T says meetings are few but I do enjoy the banter and photos so no way would I put that at risk :0))
 
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RobbieFutuo

RobbieFutuo

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Therapon said:
Good question and I'm not sure I have an answer. As you know I'm a single older guy which means that any meets are less likely as most people are looking for singles/couples within the own age range - not for debate here it's just a simple observation.
So if I knew someone was cheating but they didn't tell me then I'd hope I would say No. Someone cheating and they were open and honest enough to tell me then possibly. Some people might not like my response but I am being realistic, given the choice of potentially having some fun or saying No because it's morally correct, could I refuse, I really don't know. :confused:
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Well done fella, I also admire your honesty - I'm similarly single (perhaps a touch younger :whistle: ) and you're right, it would be a hard call.

I know that in a real-world scenario, if I knew a girl would be cheating, I would definitely say no, and have passed up opportunities with some lovely women in the past - whilst completely unrealistic, I put myself in the position of the cheated upon and hope my fellow male would do me a solid.
I therefore think that just because there is an attempt to justify this behaviour under the auspices of 'swinging' that I would still say no.
Tough choice though, it's whether you could/would want to have to live with any guilt after all (and karma, but that's a different conversation)
 
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Looby&Lew

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We have had a conversation along similar lines but more in the context of would you feel guilty if you were confronted by someone's partner not knowing from the outset that they were cheating. Whilst I would be seriously unhappy about that situation and that particular liaison would end I'm not sure that I would feel guilty on the basis that I never set out to deceive anyone and therefore the guilt lies elsewhere.
 
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Admin

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Therapon said:
Good question and I'm not sure I have an answer. As you know I'm a single older guy which means that any meets are less likely as most people are looking for singles/couples within the own age range - not for debate here it's just a simple observation.
So if I knew someone was cheating but they didn't tell me then I'd hope I would say No. Someone cheating and they were open and honest enough to tell me then possibly. Some people might not like my response but I am being realistic, given the choice of potentially having some fun or saying No because it's morally correct, could I refuse, I really don't know. :confused:
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You get my total admiration for that. The consensus would be to "say no" because it's a moral high ground,
but the truth and reality is - a lot would actually think twice about it.
Great to see the honesty and genuine approach/openness. :)
 
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meet_the_fockers

Looby&Lew said:
We have had a conversation along similar lines but more in the context of would you feel guilty if you were confronted by someone's partner not knowing from the outset that they were cheating. Whilst I would be seriously unhappy about that situation and that particular liaison would end I'm not sure that I would feel guilty on the basis that I never set out to deceive anyone and therefore the guilt lies elsewhere.
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A hard one.. we had fun with a lady.. see squirting thread. :D
She was married we didnt know until half way through the meet.. awkward indeed. Intially i was furious.
She explained a lot re her husband and their relationship.
She assured us if wasnt us... it would have been someone else.. fair play i thought.
I then sat back and thought if id have been cheated on in this way.. i would have been beside myself.
i also thought people cheat in the "normal" world.. they have afairs.. sometimes fall for others..
but i thought what this lady was doing was a lot worse.. shed joined a site.. and avidly sought out numerous other partners unbeknown to her husband.
It played on my mind for a long long time.. would we do it again. Definately not.
 
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Looby&Lew

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meet_the_fockers said:
A hard one.. we had fun with a lady.. see squirting thread. :D
She was married we didnt know until half way through the meet.. awkward indeed. Intially i was furious.
She explained a lot re her husband and their relationship.
She assured us if wasnt us... it would have been someone else.. fair play i thought.
I then sat back and thought if id have been cheated on in this way.. i would have been beside myself.
i also thought people cheat in the "normal" world.. they have afairs.. sometimes fall for others..
but i thought what this lady was doing was a lot worse.. shed joined a site.. and avidly sought out numerous other partners unbeknown to her husband.
It played on my mind for a long long time.. would we do it again. Definately not.
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We agree wholeheartedly with this stance x
 
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Scrunchy&Muffet

If I'm honest we stand in the grey area here. Obviously cheating is wrong but we've had meets where the guy/gal haven't told us until half way through or even the next day. In this situation the guilt was not ours.
At the end of the day it's their decision and their life. Who are we to cast judgement. Alot of people turn to swinging for many different reasons. It's a cloudy area and i dont think theres a right/wrong opinion. It's about how people choose to live their life. I just think each to their own. Just a different perspective I guess. Xxxx
 
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The-A-Team

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From our perspective, yes we have encountered the scenario, where we have been told during a meet, that they were part of a couple, and yes to be honest, we've continued, but we would never knowingly approach or seek this scenario out, because as full Swingers we have no need to stray, and as such feel no guilt in others misdemeanors, that said, the amount of "Single guys" joining up begs the question, is there more of this going on than we anticipated, ??? And is this an avenue more couples will be having to deal with ??
 
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Scrunchy&Muffet

We would never seek it out either but it you started talking to someone who, so many wks down the line comes out the revelation that they are married/cheating. What do you do then?
I think sometimes and I don't mean guys on here but on other sites single guys have found it to be an easy way to some easy conquests. Not saying it applies to all and certainly not anyone on here. And I don't mean to offend anybody with that statement but I think that's why the single guys outnumber couples. Xxxx
 
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Admin

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Bansheewarrior said:
This is Jane who husband ignores her and don't bother much with her but she want's some fun she missing out on and she looks like this what the answer then.???View attachment 12729
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The answer?
I'll pm you my number. I can help Jane.. okay? :p

I hear you and agree.. There is NO definitive answer here.
Seriously though Mr Banshee, can I have her number please? :D
 
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