Are you that guy?

[Skippy01]

Recently discovered the "masterpiece" ad campaign from Scotland called Don't be that guy, and it's got me curious as always ?
1st questions:
Who stares at people in public?
Who says to their mate "i'd shag them?"
Who calls women doll, sweetheart etc?

These examples are given in the ad and explains that these are unwarranted sexual advances, that play a part in the growing concern for womens safety.
It has caused alot of attention on social media, shared by numerous women and men, all with a difference of opinions.So I thought it would be good to share here, where some of us have a more "diplomatic" view on certain areas ?
This brings me onto my 2nd question:
Do you think looks play a part, in whether or not you would swoon or recoil in said examples?

 

[MP386]

Recently discovered the "masterpiece" ad campaign from Scotland called Don't be that guy, and it's got me curious as always ?
1st questions:
Who stares at people in public?
Who says to their mate "i'd shag them?"
Who calls women doll, sweetheart etc?

These examples are given in the ad and explains that these are unwarranted sexual advances, that play a part in the growing concern for womens safety.
It has caused alot of attention on social media, shared by numerous women and men, all with a difference of opinions.So I thought it would be good to share here, where some of us have a more "diplomatic" view on certain areas ?
This brings me onto my 2nd question:
Do you think looks play a part, in whether or not you would swoon or recoil in said examples?

In answer to your question love ,me darling,babe, sweet cheeks ….. ?
I’m not sure I stare ,I’d call it admiring glances ?
“Give her a length “ maybe ? maybe not ?
All this to me is political correctness going over the top , I grew up when people always called one another love … as in thanks love … it didn’t mean you were about to be axed to ? death …
This may be controversial but some people actually like it ?….
What about a “wolf whistle “ ?? Complement or not ?? … the fact someone has looked ,thought “I’d give her one “ and whistled is that so bad … ?? What about show us your tits babe ??
Babe may have been to much … show us your tits is more classy ?
Looks ?? Everyone has different tastes so if you see someone takes your fancy then I guess you have a swoon …. If they are pug ugly then you reach for a ?
So in answer to your questions Hun ,hunnybun , sweetheart ?
I’m not that guy

 

[Skippy01]

In answer to your question love ,me darling,babe, sweet cheeks ….. ?
I’m not sure I stare ,I’d call it admiring glances ?
“Give her a length “ maybe ? maybe not ?
All this to me is political correctness going over the top , I grew up when people always called one another love … as in thanks love … it didn’t mean you were about to be axed to ? death …
This may be controversial but some people actually like it ?….
What about a “wolf whistle “ ?? Complement or not ?? … the fact someone has looked ,thought “I’d give her one “ and whistled is that so bad … ?? What about show us your tits babe ??
Babe may have been to much … show us your tits is more classy ?
Looks ?? Everyone has different tastes so if you see someone takes your fancy then I guess you have a swoon …. If they are pug ugly then you reach for a ?
So in answer to your questions Hun ,hunnybun , sweetheart ?
I’m not that guy

So are you happy to know that you are actually that guy, if we're going by modern day expectations? Do you think you could change what you were taught, believed were acceptable advances towards women just to conform to what people expect today?
Wolf whistling is on the list of unwarranted behaviour btw ? x

 

[MP386]

So are you happy to know that you are actually that guy, if we're going by modern day expectations? Do you think you could change what you were taught, believed were acceptable advances towards women just to conform to what people expect today?
Wolf whistling is on the list of unwarranted behaviour btw ? x

Probably a good job I can’t whistle then ?
I don’t believe any bloke would not look at a woman walking down the road in short shorts and a boob tube …
How many women do it for the attention ??
If women don’t like being looked at why don’t they all wear duffle coats and a sou’wester all year around so men can see them ?
What gets me is everything you say or do is analysed with a microscope just to make you out to be some sort of crazed woman murderer just because you happened to be born with a penis ….
I always try not to do it but the odd thanks love might slip out ?‍

 

[Skippy01]

To give some depth to why I asked about looks. From the mutiple shares,comments etc about said ad. Numerous people who were all for the ad had their own posts, which involved either sexual innuendos towards pretty people, flirty advances towards other posters or content on their profiles, that portrays the exact opposite message to what the ad campaign is about.This was by both men and women. So I was curious if the unwarranted behaviour is mainly targeted towards, what people would categorize as ugly x

 

[Pearls]

We had a repair guy call yesterday to fix a broken window, I asked him a question which his reply yes babe.
Everyone here says babe or love,
You ok love.
Especially the old dears in the shop.
It’s the way we are and I don’t see any wrong in that but if it’s now classed as offensive then all of Swansea should be under attack.
New generations simply won’t understand the no harm bit and they’ll grow up in a society that’s extremely cold.
Wolf whistles were ok by me but there’s a fine line with friendly and perv. Looking up a skirt or staring at tits? They’re just pervs and that guy.

 

[Skippy01]

We had a repair guy call yesterday to fix a broken window, I asked him a question which his reply yes babe.
Everyone here says babe or love,
You ok love.
Especially the old dears in the shop.
It’s the way we are and I don’t see any wrong in that but if it’s now classed as offensive then all of Swansea should be under attack.
New generations simply won’t understand the no harm bit and they’ll grow up in a society that’s extremely cold.
Wolf whistles were ok by me but there’s a fine line with friendly and perv. Looking up a skirt or staring at tits? They’re just pervs and that guy.

I think the modern day generation needs to take into account cultural and historical behaviour, before fighting the good cause.
There was a very well known dating and romance guru (woman) who promoted the art of assertive eye flirting to let someone know they were interested.I believe it was called eye fucking? ? If anyone tries that out in public today they'd have a restraining order,yet 6 years ago it was the in thing to do lol I think there needs to be a clear concise baseline on what everyone deems unacceptable x

 

[Pearls]

I think the modern day generation needs to take into account cultural and historical behaviour, before fighting the good cause.
There was a very well known dating and romance guru (woman) who promoted the art of assertive eye flirting to let someone know they were interested.I believe it was called eye fucking? ? If anyone tries that out in public today they'd have a restraining order,yet 6 years ago it was the in thing to do lol I think there needs to be a clear concise baseline on what everyone deems unacceptable x

Our eldest said that if Sean Connery behaved the way he did in bond today he’d be arrested! I get it a little but is that how they think?
Saying that I was in Aldi the other day and the security guard was talking to my tits about a trolly bloody token!

 

[MP386]

I think the modern day generation needs to take into account cultural and historical behaviour, before fighting the good cause.
There was a very well known dating and romance guru (woman) who promoted the art of assertive eye flirting to let someone know they were interested.I believe it was called eye fucking? ? If anyone tries that out in public today they'd have a restraining order,yet 6 years ago it was the in thing to do lol I think there needs to be a clear concise baseline on what everyone deems unacceptable x

I think it should be mandatory that all women wear paper bags on their heads … that would solve the problem of men actually daring to look and admire them ..

 

[MP386]

Our eldest said that if Sean Connery behaved the way he did in bond today he’d be arrested! I get it a little but is that how they think?
Saying that I was in Aldi the other day and the security guard was talking to my tits about a trolly bloody token!

You shouldn’t have had them out if you didn’t want them looking at ???

 

[Pearls]

You shouldn’t have had them out if you didn’t want them looking at ???

I had a jumper on

 

[MP386]

I had a jumper on

Should have had your duffle coat on … ?

 

[Lips_Pearls]

You shouldn’t have had them out if you didn’t want them looking at ???

Blame it on the woman.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Recently discovered the "masterpiece" ad campaign from Scotland called Don't be that guy, and it's got me curious as always ?
1st questions:
Who stares at people in public?
Who says to their mate "i'd shag them?"
Who calls women doll, sweetheart etc?

These examples are given in the ad and explains that these are unwarranted sexual advances, that play a part in the growing concern for womens safety.
It has caused alot of attention on social media, shared by numerous women and men, all with a difference of opinions.So I thought it would be good to share here, where some of us have a more "diplomatic" view on certain areas ?
This brings me onto my 2nd question:
Do you think looks play a part, in whether or not you would swoon or recoil in said examples?

To be honest there’s a difference between being flirty and pervy.

Do you have the ad at hand?
I think we’ve all got a part to play in this tbh.
That scenario with the guard & Pearls - he made her and our son uncomfortable. Had I had been there, I would have had serious words with him.

Yes there’s a line between PC, old school and then being plain rude.

I’m Welsh so saying love and lovely is part of our culture. So it’s accepted here.
England? Probably not as much.
I think there needs to be more education about this. For instance last week (or so) in the news a bloke was charged for assaulting women, by slapping their arses.
That’s wrong.

Some blokes may find that funny, but who gives them the right to touch these ladies?
There’s too many of “that guy” syndrome around. Yes admire, gawk no.

You’d swear by some actions, they’d never seen a woman, breasts or a bottom before. ??‍ X

 

[Skippy01]

Jess Davies (@_JessicaDavies) Tweeted:
This is powerful. Don’t be that guy. https://t.co/GiNLrOVaJQ https://twitter.com/_JessicaDavies/status/1448560071735226372?s=20

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Jess Davies (@_JessicaDavies) Tweeted:
This is powerful. Don’t be that guy. https://t.co/GiNLrOVaJQ https://twitter.com/_JessicaDavies/status/1448560071735226372?s=20

Thanks for that. X

Here’s the video

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[Skippy01]

I'm not sure if i've done it right.But the beginning part is where I think it's wrong. By implying what I would class as normal behaviour would lead onto sexual abuse.Not everyone, who lets say looks too long at a woman, or wolf whistles should be labelled in a group with the oglers or damn right perves. It's not setting the right education to me for the young lads x

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I'm not sure if i've done it right.But the beginning part is where I think it's wrong. By implying what I would class as normal behaviour would lead onto sexual abuse.Not everyone, who lets say looks too long at a woman, or wolf whistles should be labelled in a group with the oglers or damn right perves. It's not setting the right education to me for the young lads x

This is the problem and where lines get blurred. There’s a difference between being sincere and sincerely pervy. Intrusive.
Victim blaming is a part of that culture. X

 

[TherLegs]

Not seen the ad campaign but I assume this is trying to get people to change their attitudes or actions toward women and also a generational thing.
As Pearls says, calling people hun, love etc are the norm in many areas and used by both sexes although mostly by the older generations but in no way are these words used sexually. Looking at people and thinking I'd shag that ... again I'm fairly sure both sexes do that although maybe they wouldn't voice their thoughts.
Women should feel safe to walk about in public without being harrassed sexually but then should they also be allowed to "dress to kill". I have no answer but does society want the trend to continue whereby we end up with Victorian attitudes to sex where the sexes were kept apart and women chaperoned.
Again women should be safe on the streets, so should males, so should children but I do wonder what the granchildren of todays genx etc will think of their older generations attitude to life.

 

[MP386]

No matter when you were born inappropriate touching or sexual violence has never been acceptable …

 

[Skippy01]

You shouldn’t have had them out if you didn’t want them looking at ???

I'm 36hh in breast size.Even in, they're out there. If I put them online for people to look at then fair enough,but I'd be abit pissed off if i'm walking around Asda and someone started talking to my tits.
You can notice the appeal of a female figure,and be attracted to it but also show restraint to act in a humane respectful manner x

 

[Pearls]

Just thinking how this effects swinging and especially clubs where guys don’t know how to speak to your face.

 

[TherLegs]

Just thinking how this effects swinging and especially clubs where guys don’t know how to speak to your face.

Going by current public opinion it will be banned. Gawd forbid people having sex, touching others in inappropriate places with others around.

 

[Colin]

If you think calling someone love is sexist well round here we say alright cock or alright cocker and nobody blinks an eye. But you still get the usual jokers who reply yes he's alright and so am i lol

 

[mrclouse]

Recently discovered the "masterpiece" ad campaign from Scotland called Don't be that guy, and it's got me curious as always ?
1st questions:
Who stares at people in public?
Who says to their mate "i'd shag them?"
Who calls women doll, sweetheart etc?

These examples are given in the ad and explains that these are unwarranted sexual advances, that play a part in the growing concern for womens safety.
It has caused alot of attention on social media, shared by numerous women and men, all with a difference of opinions.So I thought it would be good to share here, where some of us have a more "diplomatic" view on certain areas ?
This brings me onto my 2nd question:
Do you think looks play a part, in whether or not you would swoon or recoil in said examples?

i tell my mates i would shag them all the time, also I would do it ina sex love kind of way >.> but theyr me mates if i don't tell them that who would tell them they would shag them