Good Morning all, We have a rule of thumb, which for us to press has worked very well, If its a full married couple we meet, that after initial meets etc seem steady committed and confident, we completely go with the flow, bareback or not, we are happy, where practical we will always use them, but in the heat of the moment and spontaneity it often truthfully goes out of the window. If we meet a single guy, we ALWAYS play safe. our thoughts are this, If your in a swinging relationship that's committed, you are aware of the risks fully, and a husband and wife team will not want to be passing things between each other when not swinging, as that causes all sorts of issues and untold problems, however, if a couple play alone, or seem hesitant about anything at all, We play safe FULL STOP and with singles, well the fact they are single says it all.
Yes we know bodily fluids are exchanged in and during foreplay, orally and otherwise, and that this is as dangerous as full bareback penetration, so as a lot of others here that are sensibly minded do, we have full checks every 2 months, (Most serious Stds have a 4-6 week development) and we have our own swab kits for water infections Etc, that we use weekly on both of us to ensure safe play for everyone we play with (Available at the chemist Lol) and to be really honest, there is nothing sexier than feeling your self explode deep inside your partner or feeling it trickle out after an amazing session to remember lol !!!
