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It definitely is an issue.
I personally think that some people are definitely not who they say they are and that’s why they won’t meet. They seem to get off on the chat and bullshit they send you. Some you can tell a mile off and others are a bit harder lol.
I do think it’s a pretty nasty thing to do because you could be building someone’s hopes up and then they are brought back down to earth with a bang.
All I can say is grow up and get a hobby.
Rant over xxx M
 
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Welshcouple59 said:
It definitely is an issue.
I personally think that some people are definitely not who they say they are and that’s why they won’t meet. They seem to get off on the chat and bullshit they send you. Some you can tell a mile off and others are a bit harder lol.
I do think it’s a pretty nasty thing to do because you could be building someone’s hopes up and then they are brought back down to earth with a bang.
All I can say is grow up and get a hobby.
Rant over xxx M
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You think they’re fibbin :D
 
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Pearls said:
It’s definitely an issue in this lifestyle from all sides.

Why do you think people love the chat and bullshit but don’t have any intention of actually meeting?
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I guess people can get excited about the prospect of swinging but when push comes to shove they just won’t go over the edge and plunge in ….
 
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It's only a problem if you set your expectations on it, really.

I've experienced this enough that I don't take it as read that plans are happening until they show up. And if I've headed to meet them somewhere, there are other things I can do with my time so it isn't a waste.

I get that this is more difficult when people have kids - but if you're let down and you have childcare, why not make the most of it regardless? That way it doesn't matter so much that you were let down.
 
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It's only a problem if you set your expectations on it, really.

I've experienced this enough that I don't take it as read that plans are happening until they show up. And if I've headed to meet them somewhere, there are other things I can do with my time so it isn't a waste.

I get that this is more difficult when people have kids - but if you're let down and you have childcare, why not make the most of it regardless? That way it doesn't matter so much that you were let down.
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I agree that if people don’t show it’s not a waste of time as we enjoy our weekends away anyway. xx M
 
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Pearls said:
Well you’re not :D
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I’m not what ….. I’m always nervous ?
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Personally I've found it less stressful here than dating sites. Everyone I've chatted with has been friendly and honest.
I joined here on the recommendation of a friend and at the time I was single with every intention of being active on the site to make friends and potential for future meets. Within a week of joining my steady simple life landed me on a roller coaster of a journey with 3 different things happening in a very short space of time. Unfortunately this meant me putting possible plans on hold until I know where I stand in my new relationship (still referring to her as lady friend) which is currently casual but I'm not wanting to rock the boat. Any single male who ducks out of a meeting with a couple or a single lady needs a damn good reason as those opportunities don't arrive often and it makes the rest of us look bad.
Damn I waffle too much, just shoot me now :whistle:
 
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Welshcouple59 said:
It definitely is an issue.
I personally think that some people are definitely not who they say they are and that’s why they won’t meet. They seem to get off on the chat and bullshit they send you. Some you can tell a mile off and others are a bit harder lol.
I do think it’s a pretty nasty thing to do because you could be building someone’s hopes up and then they are brought back down to earth with a bang.
All I can say is grow up and get a hobby.
Rant over xxx M
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I quite agree, but would say it's quite a lot who are not what they seem. It's so easy to pretend to be someone your not when you're hiding behind a screen.
 
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Pearls said:
It’s definitely an issue in this lifestyle from all sides.

Why do you think people love the chat and bullshit but don’t have any intention of actually meeting?
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Various reasons I guess, some as we have seen are simply fakes, others seem to get off on the dirty chat and looking through media but never have any intention to actually meet up. Then there are the few who are probably genuine but simply too shy to meet or possible afraid they would be turned down if they did meet.
 
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Ymichael14

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Simple.

Life is scary.
Talk, chat, pretend is not scary.

I could have joined here and told everyone i was a member of MI 5, or whatever number they are up to, and i was a British intelligence agent in some exotic foreign country and i use a device that shows my IP as in the US so i can hide, and just build myself up as some exciting guy that everybody wants to meet, and set up meetings then cancel because i had to save the queen, then jerk off to the excitement of meeting a couple.
There are entire communities online, SIM cities, where people never leave their basement and live through the characters and life they create online.
Those people would never survive an in person meeting.

Another problem that i see is, i do not see many people in this lifestyle that have any interest in someone who is inexperienced and might hyperventilate on the first meet. This forces the inexperienced to lie and get themselves into something that is moving a lot faster then they can handle.

If i ever got any of you to just meet me, even if i knew nothing was going to happen, just meet, i would expect to hyperventilate and die before we even met. I think there would be a good chance that i woud become physically ill before we met and not be able to meet.

To answer the question, some get off on the chat, some cant function in society and some are inexperienced and scared to death.
 
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Ymichael14 said:
Simple.

Life is scary.
Talk, chat, pretend is not scary.

I could have joined here and told everyone i was a member of MI 5, or whatever number they are up to, and i was a British intelligence agent in some exotic foreign country and i use a device that shows my IP as in the US so i can hide, and just build myself up as some exciting guy that everybody wants to meet, and set up meetings then cancel because i had to save the queen, then jerk off to the excitement of meeting a couple.
There are entire communities online, SIM cities, where people never leave their basement and live through the characters and life they create online.
Those people would never survive an in person meeting.

Another problem that i see is, i do not see many people in this lifestyle that have any interest in someone who is inexperienced and might hyperventilate on the first meet. This forces the inexperienced to lie and get themselves into something that is moving a lot faster then they can handle.

If i ever got any of you to just meet me, even if i knew nothing was going to happen, just meet, i would expect to hyperventilate and die before we even met. I think there would be a good chance that i woud become physically ill before we met and not be able to meet.

To answer the question, some get off on the chat, some cant function in society and some are inexperienced and scared to death.
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I once had a guy introduce himself as a private person as he’s in the SAS so he must keep a low profile, he was off on an undercover mission on Monday so could we meet asap ?
 
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