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Yes you are, as are others too. PMA man... PMA.
It can be achieved using the forums alone. x
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Deleted member 6485
Kind of true...but you never see the ones with restrictions on the forums x
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Deleted member 3657
I disagree. There's many who join with set restrictions (done when joining) and then go on to post hello etc from there then before you know it, they remove it and job done.
There's some who will set their account so only people they choose to follow can view but then follow a load. There's actually only a very slight amount of members who do have full restrictions who then stay on here. x
True but you are the maker of your own destiny my friend. You can change some things, only you can do that. But of course, we have spoken in depth about this personally and well it is what it is, and to a degree it's totally out of your hands.. but if you laugh, the world laughs with you.
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Deleted member 3411
I noticed this too. Trouble is blocking all from the moment you joined is counterproductive. Goes like this. You join and block from the start. Those here see a new member and try to look in...you can't. So you're left with a name and possibly some posted photos, but you know nothing about the new arrival. No idea if they are single, a couple, straight, bi, gay. What area of the country or even what country? For me/us this leaves us thinking two things. 1. I know so little about them I'm not sure I want even say hello (which will be difficult cos I can't unless they post something for me to comment back on). 2. With such a defensive (possibly self opinionated) attitude I'm left thinking the newbies is taking the stance "you can contact me if I think your worthy". If that's how you feel your not for me/us.
Well that's how I feel when they start blocked/restricted.....
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. With such a defensive (possibly self opinionated) attitude I'm left thinking the newbies is taking the stance "you can contact me if I think your worthy". If that's how you feel your not for me/us.
Well that's how I feel when they start blocked/restricted.....[/QUOTE]
This as been said a thousand times,like most of us on here whether old or new members , we a lot of the time arrive from a less flavoursome site , if at first you cannot see a profile give it a little time and some patience before you pre_judge someone else when they join, allow some interaction from someone they may know on here then look again in a few days or a week , but do not automatically assume ,
A they are defensive
B, they are selective
C, that you may not be what they are looking for
Well that's how I feel when they start blocked/restricted.....[/QUOTE]
This as been said a thousand times,like most of us on here whether old or new members , we a lot of the time arrive from a less flavoursome site , if at first you cannot see a profile give it a little time and some patience before you pre_judge someone else when they join, allow some interaction from someone they may know on here then look again in a few days or a week , but do not automatically assume ,
A they are defensive
B, they are selective
C, that you may not be what they are looking for
I will add one more thing to this, yes you may come across some set with specific privacy but there's always a reason for it and 99% of the time those members will change their settings.
Additionally, we restrict accounts daily. It's normal for us to do that... Whilst we personally have taken a back seat lately due to RL, it doesn't mean to say we've not actually been on here working - and as you'd expect, we lock and restrict accounts plus ban from morning until night.
Additionally, some accounts you won't be able to access if they haven't activated their emails.
So all in all when you consider the following with locked accounts;
I know this as I see the accounts, it's myself and only myself who has direct access to member accounts.. in turn that means I have enough data and knowledge to tell you, yes it happens, yes it goes on (and it's there for a reason tbh) but it's actually a lot smaller percentage than most realise. We're talking a very small amount of people who do...
You may come across an account that is set like this every so often, it stands out more as we're a smaller site and community.
Please do not forget though that it's sometimes done by accident but most of all - remember that we regularly restrict accounts too.
We ban and restrict accounts daily. This will also have an effect which I have pointed out many times.
Sadly there will be some who choose to have their account like so and that's just the way it is, it's the account holders prerogative to do so.
Almost every social networking/swinging/dating site that I know of, has similar privacy controls over accounts... 'friends' being one of them, this is no different.
What I personally do not like is people ignoring other people (there's just no bloody need to) because they feel like it, or dehumanising single gents because they're single gents. Most of you who know us, know that we will defend single guys to the hilt and will highlight this whole thing to those members - the dreaded "Single gents if we want you we will find you" approach is just not cricket and we do highlight it.
Additionally I personally do agree with points raised of the fact that one member can completely limit their account and still go bouncing all over the place - but and again, thankfully those are very few and far between.
We all just need to remember that some of us have had bad experiences elsewhere as highlighted here;
lol, there's replies in this thread from people who also did the same - restricted their accounts then changed them once they felt more at ease...
So let's not forget that as a newbie, this is somewhat to be expected by a few, but hopefully when they realise everyone else's attitude and approach here, they will change it and then be more open just as the rest of us.
Only after getting involved and figuring it all out here and how people are here, will it be revealed that they do not need to take such extreme levels of privacy or safety.
I know it is a valid point and as I mentioned somewhere before, myself and Pearls have discussed this for a very long period of time and it's been the forefront of many discussions. Remembering that the site is now in our 3rd year of being online and these options have always been there.. so it's not a new thing, not suddenly come from nowhere... but what we need to think about is either alternative options (such as removing it completely) or just helping to show to others that it's not a necessary step to take on a site that is so proactively managed by staff.
Sorry for the ramble but I felt some things needed highlighting and explaining too.
Additionally, we restrict accounts daily. It's normal for us to do that... Whilst we personally have taken a back seat lately due to RL, it doesn't mean to say we've not actually been on here working - and as you'd expect, we lock and restrict accounts plus ban from morning until night.
Additionally, some accounts you won't be able to access if they haven't activated their emails.
So all in all when you consider the following with locked accounts;
- May not have been activated via email
- May have been restricted purposely by us
- May have been banned by the time you come to check
- 99% of the time will amend the details once settled in
- A lot of the time it's done accidentally
I know this as I see the accounts, it's myself and only myself who has direct access to member accounts.. in turn that means I have enough data and knowledge to tell you, yes it happens, yes it goes on (and it's there for a reason tbh) but it's actually a lot smaller percentage than most realise. We're talking a very small amount of people who do...
You may come across an account that is set like this every so often, it stands out more as we're a smaller site and community.
Please do not forget though that it's sometimes done by accident but most of all - remember that we regularly restrict accounts too.
We ban and restrict accounts daily. This will also have an effect which I have pointed out many times.
Sadly there will be some who choose to have their account like so and that's just the way it is, it's the account holders prerogative to do so.
Almost every social networking/swinging/dating site that I know of, has similar privacy controls over accounts... 'friends' being one of them, this is no different.
What I personally do not like is people ignoring other people (there's just no bloody need to) because they feel like it, or dehumanising single gents because they're single gents. Most of you who know us, know that we will defend single guys to the hilt and will highlight this whole thing to those members - the dreaded "Single gents if we want you we will find you" approach is just not cricket and we do highlight it.
Additionally I personally do agree with points raised of the fact that one member can completely limit their account and still go bouncing all over the place - but and again, thankfully those are very few and far between.
We all just need to remember that some of us have had bad experiences elsewhere as highlighted here;
We've all mostly experienced some bad things there, hell if it wasn't for that I'd never have built this! As a result of seriously bad experiences, people will come here will a similar approach expecting the same.
lol, there's replies in this thread from people who also did the same - restricted their accounts then changed them once they felt more at ease...
So let's not forget that as a newbie, this is somewhat to be expected by a few, but hopefully when they realise everyone else's attitude and approach here, they will change it and then be more open just as the rest of us.
Only after getting involved and figuring it all out here and how people are here, will it be revealed that they do not need to take such extreme levels of privacy or safety.
I know it is a valid point and as I mentioned somewhere before, myself and Pearls have discussed this for a very long period of time and it's been the forefront of many discussions. Remembering that the site is now in our 3rd year of being online and these options have always been there.. so it's not a new thing, not suddenly come from nowhere... but what we need to think about is either alternative options (such as removing it completely) or just helping to show to others that it's not a necessary step to take on a site that is so proactively managed by staff.
Sorry for the ramble but I felt some things needed highlighting and explaining too.
Well well well.... What's going on here!
My account in open for everyone to see, my reason being, (I'm a tart) haha
No it's a sex site and first point of call.... attraction! you need to see me to know if your attracted and see if we can connect and build up to a meet.
Unless I've not got to see you then unfortunately you will only get the playful side of me on here.. I understand why people would hide face pics, but it is a sex site I do want to see a body and the goods!
I suppose there are lots of reasons people may restrict their acc, age range general sexual preferences ect... In a way what's the point in interacting if they have no intentions of meeting or need to chat...
I do however find if someone follows me but I can't have the option of seeing them a little frustrating but on the other hand I do tell that person and sometimes you will find that they were unaware they had restrictions! Xx
My account in open for everyone to see, my reason being, (I'm a tart) haha
No it's a sex site and first point of call.... attraction! you need to see me to know if your attracted and see if we can connect and build up to a meet.
Unless I've not got to see you then unfortunately you will only get the playful side of me on here.. I understand why people would hide face pics, but it is a sex site I do want to see a body and the goods!
I suppose there are lots of reasons people may restrict their acc, age range general sexual preferences ect... In a way what's the point in interacting if they have no intentions of meeting or need to chat...
I do however find if someone follows me but I can't have the option of seeing them a little frustrating but on the other hand I do tell that person and sometimes you will find that they were unaware they had restrictions! Xx
I'm selective about how much I show on my public profile, my followers can see my face and if they are interested I let them see more should they ask. I like the multi-level privacy, but find being unable to see anything of someone's profile who is commenting on my media and interacting with me a bit off putting. I guess it's their choice but it seems a little off when they are aware of it.
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Deleted member 6684
Well said Miss. Lexi. Can't agree more and with the rest of the posts in the last couple of days. @Admin , you have given us all the options.Well well well.... What's going on here!
My account in open for everyone to see, my reason being, (I'm a tart) haha
No it's a sex site and first point of call.... attraction! you need to see me to know if your attracted and see if we can connect and build up to a meet.
Unless I've not got to see you then unfortunately you will only get the playful side of me on here.. I understand why people would hide face pics, but it is a sex site I do want to see a body and the goods!
I suppose there are lots of reasons people may restrict their acc, age range general sexual preferences ect... In a way what's the point in interacting if they have no intentions of meeting or need to chat...
I do however find if someone follows me but I can't have the option of seeing them a little frustrating but on the other hand I do tell that person and sometimes you will find that they were unaware they had restrictions! Xx
Even if I have issues with a member on here, I don't think there is any reason for me to block them. I just see it as just as I would in a social setting, say a random hello, never make a second conversation unless I have to and move on. After all, look life's too short to be unhappy.
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Deleted member 6684
And I was here and left because people started blocking me randomly for no reason. I had enough of it then and took a break before coming back largely due to the kindness of a couple on here who were so nice to me even after I left.
Thanks to them I came back.
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The_Bibas
It depends on the site..before I ask this I just want to make sure everyone understands why I'm asking this
It's not a dig in any way and it's not to start any heated discussionsI'm just curious, and would be nice to be able to interact will all on site.
Now I know this has been asked before but I'm hoping the newbies will chip in one this!
Why do people restrict the viewing of their profile? I do understand on other sites it's a must due to being hounded by not wanted people but I think I can safely speak for all when I say this is a one of a kind site that isn't like any other
Or is it that some people don't realise they have selected this setting?
What are your thoughts..........?
I have had stalkers and loads of freaks so it depends on how comfortable I am with the site.. I am unlocked here
XxxBibaxxX
I wouldn't stop anyone from seeing anything on my profile theres nothing to hide and there never will be,im just glad that everyone that i have spoken to have been so friendly and if you need help you've only got to ask,i would like to say a big thank you to all the ss team for making the site a friendly one far better than any other site thats going xx