Community Or Hookups...

Can we just say as newbies to the whole scene, that this site and it's ethos towards the lifestyle is what helped us make our decision to go down this road. The kind, supportive, nurturing and openness the site offers is a genuinely lovely thing. Whilst we cant speak of what things were like in the past we can say that what happens here makes us want to make new friends first to have fun later, and not the other way around.

We have talked about making relationships that benefit us not just sexually but on a personal level too. We really like what we are doing and feel it will only get better once we speak to more of you.

New to this site looking for advice and direction

Hey all, my first post back after work absence so finding my finger again so bear withme while I try to organise my rambled thoughts...

For me, I have never seen swinging as hook-ups. While I admit to being an experienced swinger, I also have no shame in saying I have never been "one of the lads" to go "out on the pull". Truth be told, I have never had a (non-swinging) one night stand: for whatever reason, its not just been me - I prefer to strike up some connection with someone I intend to make "the beasts with two backss with", instead of the "any hole is a goal" that is so often portrayed via instashag.com

Saying that, when it comes to striking a connection, yes I do struggle. In part I don't know what people want (and I;m not forward or pushy enough to find out), and I certainly dont try enough to put my best foot forward. So what some may sometimes see as me "sitting back" and hence mistakenly thinking I'm "waiting for it to come to me", that's me just saying "its al ot easier to find out about me than it is for me to find out about you". I will have a conversatino with anyone, and will make the time for a chat, even when I jhave things on, but as I do tend to constantly have offline activities on (and being a virgo), I've never been one for much patience for anything: sitting about chatting endlessly for months to me has never come across as sexy. If anything, I have this voice going on in the back of my mind that says "she's keeping you on side while weighing up her options, if all else fails, you'll end up as the in-case-of-emergency-break-glass-cock... again".

So yeah, as a guy, its a tricky game to play. Go in too hard and can be seen as too keep or too thirsty. Go in to non-chalant and can be seen as uninterested and too "arm-chair swinger", However its all part and parcel of being in the community: you take the rough and the smooth, and celebrate every occasion that comes your way.

I was gonna post something here, but seems a version of me time travelled and beat me to it.