Contracts

[Deleted member 126]

Do you have them for meets?
The reason I ask is, I met a couple once through friends socially for a few drinks, it was a lovely evening and they understood my boundaries and I them. We mutually agreed to meet again and before we could work around dates they handed me a brown envelope.. They asked I read it thoroughly before signing it..
It had 5 A4 pages of rules and conditions even down to dress code and colour of underwear.
Now in the BDSM scene contracts are used which I have used myself but that comes down to a whole new spectrum of things and in cases are invaluable.
So is this needed in the swinging scene?
Do you use them or have you been given one?

Just to clarify, I didn’t sign the contract on that occasion and never saw them again.

 

[fincon]

Do you have them for meets?
The reason I ask is, I met a couple once through friends socially for a few drinks, it was a lovely evening and they understood my boundaries and I them. We mutually agreed to meet again and before we could work around dates they handed me a brown envelope.. They asked I read it thoroughly before signing it..
It had 5 A4 pages of rules and conditions even down to dress code and colour of underwear.
Now in the BDSM scene contracts are used which I have used myself but that comes down to a whole new spectrum of things and in cases are invaluable.
So is this needed in the swinging scene?
Do you use them or have you been given one?

Just to clarify, I didn’t sign the contract on that occasion and never saw them again.

Heard of them, never seen one, never - obviously - signed one.

 

[Deleted member 120]

Do you have them for meets?
The reason I ask is, I met a couple once through friends socially for a few drinks, it was a lovely evening and they understood my boundaries and I them. We mutually agreed to meet again and before we could work around dates they handed me a brown envelope.. They asked I read it thoroughly before signing it..
It had 5 A4 pages of rules and conditions even down to dress code and colour of underwear.
Now in the BDSM scene contracts are used which I have used myself but that comes down to a whole new spectrum of things and in cases are invaluable.
So is this needed in the swinging scene?
Do you use them or have you been given one?

Just to clarify, I didn’t sign the contract on that occasion and never saw them again.

Wow that's a bit much isn't it?

Mind you saying that, we know of a couple who posted about this on here as they were actually using contracts for meets, where the other parties would have to sign. Almost like a non-disclosure. It was very finely detailed, even down to things like toys and lubes.
I kid you not. Naturally, for their own privacy I shan't disclose who, but they themselves may read this and wish to raise their hands. Who knows. x

BDSM perhaps... but swinging?
I don't think so. I can however, envisage scenarios where it could be of benefit but talk about fun killer!

 

[Deleted member 11852]

To me having to sign a contract which stipulates what you can and can’t do, wear or use is a no no for me personally. When arranging a meet we think it is very important to find out what both parties are looking for and respect that. xx M

 

[The-Gent]

Do you have them for meets?
The reason I ask is, I met a couple once through friends socially for a few drinks, it was a lovely evening and they understood my boundaries and I them. We mutually agreed to meet again and before we could work around dates they handed me a brown envelope.. They asked I read it thoroughly before signing it..
It had 5 A4 pages of rules and conditions even down to dress code and colour of underwear.
Now in the BDSM scene contracts are used which I have used myself but that comes down to a whole new spectrum of things and in cases are invaluable.
So is this needed in the swinging scene?
Do you use them or have you been given one?

Just to clarify, I didn’t sign the contract on that occasion and never saw them again.

Never had to use one or sign one

 

[Therapon]

No I don't have nor would use one, I genuinely cannot see the point especially in swinging. Agreeing before where your boundaries are is fine but a contract, no.

 

[Deleted member 13437]

Do you have them for meets?
The reason I ask is, I met a couple once through friends socially for a few drinks, it was a lovely evening and they understood my boundaries and I them. We mutually agreed to meet again and before we could work around dates they handed me a brown envelope.. They asked I read it thoroughly before signing it..
It had 5 A4 pages of rules and conditions even down to dress code and colour of underwear.
Now in the BDSM scene contracts are used which I have used myself but that comes down to a whole new spectrum of things and in cases are invaluable.
So is this needed in the swinging scene?
Do you use them or have you been given one?

Just to clarify, I didn’t sign the contract on that occasion and never saw them again.

Holy cow.. scrub well and don't wear crappy clothes is all I can justify in my head..but beyond that.. I can't say much to anyone. Lol

 

[Stew]

Well I’m sure it doesn’t help with the spontaneity, while cosied up in a step over leg lock or whatever positions you have managed to get into, then having to say can we stop a moment I’ve forgot what I’m allowed to do next ! Oh yes page 3, paragraph 69, orgasm loudly !

 

[Deleted member 120]

Well I’m sure it doesn’t help with the spontaneity, while cosied up in a step over leg lock or whatever positions you have managed to get into, then having to say can we stop a moment I’ve forgot what I’m allowed to do next ! Oh yes page 3, paragraph 69, orgasm loudly !

Oh my word. If only you knew what was in the contract we were told about. You’re so close to the truth you wouldn’t believe

 

[Stew]

Oh my word. If only you knew what was in the contract we were told about. You’re so close to the truth you wouldn’t believe

Not that I’m likely to be offered but I wouldn’t be signing it anyway !

 

[Ahabs]

Lol

 

[Ahabs]

I recall being contacted by a couple some years back looking to meet. And while it wasn't a contract per se, it did feel like one with along list of ""Do's" (as they worded it "What we are looking for") and Don'ts ("What we/she won't do").

The three that caught my eye however (in their own words):
- Missionary position only
- No kissing (too intimate)
- No penetration (we save that for us)

I politely replied: "So, there's not much point of me saying yes?"

 

[Deleted member 126]

I recall being contacted by a couple some years back looking to meet. And while it wasn't a contract per se, it did feel like one with along list of ""Do's" (as they worded it "What we are looking for") and Don'ts ("What we/she won't do").

The three that caught my eye however (in their own words):
- Missionary position only
- No kissing (too intimate)
- No penetration (we save that for us)

I politely replied: "So, there's not much point of me saying yes?"

Sounds like fun

 

[Deleted member 11852]

Sounds like fun

Or not..glad we don't have a list like that..ours is much longer..

 

[Deleted member 126]

Or not..glad we don't have a list like that..ours is much longer..

 

[Deleted member 11852]

we probably have one or two things in our boundaries that's it as long as it's safe sex without pain then pretty much anything goes..W..

 

[mrclouse]

i havent come across anyone giving contracts before...

 

[Leonidas480]

Contracts? Talk about a cock-witherer...

 

[Deleted member 11852]

Contracts? Talk about a cock-witherer...

Totally agree, not that I have one lol xx M